Yesterday's Mother's Day, the style of the circle of friends was like this:
The same world, different mothers.
In recent years, with the post-90s entering the 30+, the post-90s mother has gradually become the C position in the circle of friends.
all say that being a mother is a laborious job, but the post-90s generation treats mother as a "situation comedy" .
Why do two-year-olds fall to the ground and be ignored? Why does a three-year-old girl pick up the courier in the scorching sun? Why does a five-year-old boy blame his parents for everything?
In the eyes of others, there are many "unsolved mysteries" in the parenting behavior of the post-90s, but for this group of people from "Happy Planet", there is nothing that can't be "played" with .
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"I'm also a first-time mother, why should I let you?"
Ten years ago, when I mentioned "bear children", it was a dog who saw a dog and annoyed people, making parents angry. But in recent years, there seems to be less news about "Bear Children". It's not that the children have become obedient, it's that the parents are not good at this time.
htmlAfter 190, mothers can be called "bear children's nemesis", their self-position is "360-month-old baby", everything is about "equality", neither put on "parental air" in front of their children, nor "unconditional compromise" ".
Take the child's sloppy rolling as an example, traditional mothers either meet the child's requirements on the spot, or scold or even beat them violently. But when it came to the post-90s mother, I didn't rush to help, nor did I play with my life, and I quietly watched you "perform".
After all, for them, knowing the child is like knowing the self back then. , This class of children has cultivated high emotional intelligence since childhood, and knows how to "get it there". I make a small effort to be happy, a big one to hurt my body, I cried and got up and got up, As long as I am not embarrassed, it is others who are embarrassed.
is not only "not used to it", this post-90s mother also played "role reversal" thiefly.
The former mother was an old mother who "put her child in her mouth for fear of melting". Especially when it comes to eating, the child immediately rushed into the kitchen when he said "hungry", and after a while, a few plates of meat and vegetarian dishes with balanced nutrition were served. It is impossible to take out takeout, one day you order a KFC and she finds that she can nagging for a long time.
html After 190, mothers are different. "Anything about health is a hooligan. The same vegetables, carbohydrates and protein, why are hamburgers unhealthy?" When it comes to eating, they are "lazy" and too lazy to be "righteous" ".
Not only will they not stop their children from ordering takeout, but they will also provide "guidance" when the children order. They habitually open the parenting app, skillfully choose food efficacy, "carrot improves immunity", "beef supplements iron", "zucchini prevents constipation"... After the "guidance", they don't forget to act like a spoiled child, "Mom also I'm hungry, bring me one, remember to open the door to get it later.”
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With the help of their mothers, this year’s children have been exposed to nutrition knowledge early, they are well versed in health theory, and are proficient in life skills such as ordering meals, picking up express delivery, scanning code and paying fees.
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It is different from the traditional principle of "the elder is the greatest". The post-90s mothers have experienced the "dodging" of their parents, and they know more that excessive care is harm. More powerful.
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"It will be meaningless if you don't 'play' if you have a child"
The previous generation often said that "you have to be a mother to be a mother". But most of the post-90s are only children, which is very important to human beings. Cubs are infinitely curious. It would be meaningless if gave birth to a child without "playing".
The most fashionable post-90s mother's circle of friends, there is no brilliance to show off the baby, no homework, and some are Share Wear parent-child clothes, do sports together, and fool around with the children.
They ride the children's horses, slide the children's slides, and play more fascinated than the children. ".
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The amazing thing is that the child is clearly being "bullied", but he blinks his eyes and is willing to follow his ass to be a mother's fanboy. real. When the child needs it, the post-90s mother immediately transforms into the child's horse, the monster in Ultraman, the tent that will not fall down, and keeps smiling forever.
Image source: Baby Tree "You can't imagine the happiness of a mother"
When others become mothers, they always complain that they "have no time for themselves". html After becoming a mother after 190, Hanfu, fitness, star chasing, traveling, and fashionable interests remain the same. not only did not fall, they also brought their children together "crazy" , their slogan is "Amway can't help others, I can't help you".
Therefore, you can see one-year-olds practice yoga every day, two-year-olds follow their mothers to check in all over the world, and three-year-olds appear at the midnight premiere of the movie...
It seems punk and rock, and children have been "tossed" since childhood. I can't. But the strange thing is that the children born in the 1990s grow up and say "Sister X", "beauty", and "little XX" in one bite. It's not disrespect, but in their world they have long regarded their mother as a "brother" who grew up together.
Many "people who have come here" disagree with this kind of education, "the mother is so playful", "the child is not afraid that you will not be able to control it in the future".
But in the opinion of post-90s mothers, the best "education" for is to grow up with their children.
Babytree's "2020 White Paper on Chinese Family Breeding" data shows that the new generation of parents pay more attention to companionship and parent-child interaction. Since the epidemic, half of the parents have spent more time with their children, and the parent-child relationship has become more intimate.
From the perspective of the post-90s generation, can only know what they are thinking and what they want when they have actually accompanied their children, and then can they understand children better. Companionship is more important than preaching.
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"Be yourself before you become a mother"
Some people say that compared with the "protection" of post-70s mothers, the "anxiety" of post-80s mothers, and the "Buddhist system" of post-90s mothers. In fact, behind the "Buddhist system", they know their children better and know themselves better.
In "Little Shede", which exploded a while ago, young people's criticism of "chicken baby" is the most frequently seen on the barrage, "Why do you want children to fulfill your dreams?" Eligibility Requirements for Children".
In the dictionary of post-90s mothers, there is no word "forcing". Instead of forcing children, it is better to improve yourself. According to
"White Paper on Chinese Families Breeding Methods in 2020" data shows that mothers born after 90 are full of career aspirations, and over 60% of them return to the workplace after giving birth. Even if they are full-time mothers, 63.1% of them have a "side career dream".
Image source: "2020 White Paper on Chinese Family Breeding"
"Work is not only for money, but also for the pursuit and ideal of career", "Work is for self-worth", "Set an example for children", this post-90s generation My mother practiced "what kind of person you want your child to be, you can be what kind of person you want to be".
Not only to myself, to my partner, and my mother after 90 is also unambiguous.
baby tree data shows that from the whole process of pregnancy preparation to parenting, the participation of fathers is increasing, and 92% of baby fathers are more or less involved in raising children.
From "Can you eat or not during pregnancy" to "What to do if your baby has a fever", more and more parenting problems are raised by fathers. Under the guidance of professional knowledge, fathers are turning into little experts in raising children.
The only child, economic development, technological progress... The parenting style and attitude of the post-90s generation are destined to be different from those of the previous generation.
There is an old saying in praise of mothers: "Women are weak, but mothers are strong." But in the post-90s generation, this sentence should be changed to: "Women are strong, and mothers are stronger."
They refuse to use " as Self-motivated by "the child pays", and will not morally kidnap the child in the name of "all for your own good".
"Good or bad, it's all for yourself. Before you become a child, a lover, or a parent, you are yourself first." , In fact, parenting is proper, behind the easy parenting of the post-90s mothers is actually the control of the "unknown".
Don't look at the post-90s self-proclaimed "baby" every day, when they become mothers, they can instantly become a think tank and an encyclopedia. Today, with the explosion of
information, as the aborigines of the Internet, they have already mastered the most convenient knowledge acquisition channel of .According to
data, more than 80% of post-90s generation obtain maternal and infant knowledge from the maternal and infant vertical website/App, and parenting knowledge popularization is the type of knowledge they are most concerned about, with an average browsing time of 1.36 hours.
On the baby tree breeding App, there are 90 million baby mothers/dads to share and exchange experiences. They can also ask doctors online, watch live broadcasts, and solve problems when they encounter problems. Parenting is no longer an island. Through communication, everyone can gain the same understanding and happiness.
Parenting has never been a "trivial matter", and can also be "calm" as a mother.
Women should not be forced to give birth for reasons such as raising children, age pressure, life integrity, etc. There is only one reason for women to be mothers - I want to be.
Just like what Zhu Guangquan said when he talked about education, "Having a child and a daughter is a joy for the whole family; raising a child is full of surprises; teaching by words and deeds and sticking to the end can not only educate children, but also improve themselves."
The happiness of mothers is not Limited to Mother's Day, you can't imagine the happiness of post-90s mothers. Click on the video and see There is a post-90s mother, how "beautiful" is life?
