Note: This article undertakes "Unconscious Second Decision-Making a Huge Obstacle to Self-Improvement and a Happy Life". This article proposes the third hidden wall that inhibits our self-improvement and happy life - second-second decision-making, that is, using "my" existing cleverness, experience, and good and evil intentions instead of wisdom (especially the mind) to make quick decisions, and analyzes and discusses its four major harms. This article will explore the inner relationship between the three hidden walls and "people's pursuit of profit" and propose a sixteen-character policy that can help us get out of the hidden walls.
1. Review of the Three Hidden Walls
So far, Xiaoyao has shared with everyone the three hidden walls that restrict our self-improvement and happy life: people’s profit-seeking nature; emphasis on legal intelligence, light on the mind, or even ignoring the mind; habitual “second decision-making” based on the “existing me”.
These three walls are not isolated, but are closely connected. It is rooted in nature (people's profit-seeking nature - pursuing advantages and avoiding disadvantages), influenced and restricted by nature, and is concentrated in the habit or habitual tendency of "putting myself first" (emphasis on legal wisdom and underestimation of the mind; using "my existing" experience, likes and dislikes, and cleverness to replace thinking about things, making quick decisions - "second decisions"). Therefore, we usually do not notice the existence of these three walls, so Xiaoyao calls them "hidden walls".
It is precisely because of the existence of hidden walls that we often achieve half the result with twice the result (suppressing the function of wisdom and intelligence) in the process of self-improvement through learning, but it is often difficult for us to analyze the key reasons for half the result with twice the result, thus restricting our subsequent self-improvement.
It is also because of the existence of hidden walls that we unknowingly find it increasingly difficult to accept changes and differences (changes and differences inevitably bring about "concerns about continued success and profit"), which increases the possibility of potential psychological problems, which gradually affects our daily happy life.
More importantly, too often, the final result of "emphasis on law and intelligence" and "second decision-making" is full of contradictions. Although the decision has been made, it still cannot successfully achieve "seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages". (For example, decision-making: I’m too tired at work and I don’t want to go to work. Contradiction: How can I make money and live without going to work!)
2. The first step to get out of the hidden walls
Previously, most of us (including Xiaoyao himself) did not know the existence of these three hidden walls. Now we know. If everyone can agree with (or at least not completely deny) these three hidden walls, then the next step will naturally be to get out of these three hidden walls. What to do with
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Xiaoyao believes that at least some of us have become clear: the answer to this question should never be just "an answer such as this or that", but should be "first analyze, judge, and evaluate this problem, and then find a way to solve it." If your first reaction is the same, congratulations, you may have broken out of the second hidden wall of "emphasis on law and intelligence, and despise mind", and the "second decision-making" time is also extended. Indeed, we should no longer underestimate or even ignore the role of the mind!
3. Use wisdom to think - Propose the habit of profit-seeking nature
In fact, Xiaoyao has been helping everyone analyze these three hidden walls, striving to make everyone truly understand these three hidden walls, and then help everyone and Xiaoyao themselves get out of these three hidden walls. This is the process of helping everyone and Xiaoyao themselves improve their minds and use their minds. If we want to truly get out of these three hidden walls, we must face up to these three hidden walls and analyze and solve this problem starting from the three hidden walls themselves.
You should have discovered that the root of the triple hidden wall of lies in people's profit-seeking nature, which is an innate nature that lasts until death. The higher the desire for successful profit, the more "pays attention" to the profit method that seems to be most closely related to successful profit, and then ignores the analysis, judgment and evaluation of "profit" itself; the higher the desire for successful profit, the more The more they hope to make quick profits, the more they will "will" use "experience, likes, dislikes and cleverness" to replace or even completely ignore thinking about the problem (although we may have thought about it, but for most people, the time to think is probably measured in seconds). When "attention and willingness" are combined many times, the habit of "emphasis on legal intelligence and light on mind; making decisions in seconds" is gradually formed. The triple hidden wall can be briefly described as: ’s habit of pursuing profit. However, because profit manifests itself in too many forms, habitual decision-making based on the "profit-seeking nature" often leads to many contradictions, restricting our self-improvement and happy life.
4. Try to get out of the hidden fence
After the above analysis, we should be able to talk about the issue of "how to get out of the triple hidden fence". Xiaoyao thinks like this: Since we are limited by the "natural habit of profit-seeking", why don't we create a new way of pursuing profit, and gradually develop a "new habit" of pursuing profit according to it, and use this new habit to change or even replace the "natural habit of profit-seeking", and then achieve a happy life while promoting our self-improvement?
Whenever this idea is mentioned, some friends will always ask, it is habits that make us fall into the wall, but if you still have to create habits, will you get out of this wall and enter the other wall? To those who can raise such questions, Xiaoyao would first like to congratulate him. Because being able to ask this kind of question at least proves that these friends have begun to think about the problem and begin to understand the wall!
However, Xiaoyao also wants to ask a question: Although the name is a habit, how can "this" habit be equated with "that" habit?
habits can be distinguished by good and bad. Good habits are undoubtedly helpful to people's self-improvement. Xiaoyao's suggestion that "we are limited by our own experience, likes and dislikes, and cleverness" does not deny the habits of each person that are generated by experience and likes and dislikes. Because most of us are incapable of self-evaluation. For example, some people gulp down their meals while others chew their meals slowly. Most people can evaluate the pros and cons of these two habits. Another example is the same way of memorizing words. Some people memorize them by letters, and some people memorize them by phonetic symbols. Most people can also evaluate the pros and cons of these two habits. Moreover, in the process of contact with the external environment, many people gradually develop their own unique good habits of adapting to the external environment. Xiaoyao is not trying to deny this habit. Of course, does not mean that we should get rid of bad habits such as swallowing meals and memorizing words by letters. Because, Xiaoyao aside, everyone also knows what to do! The habits that
Xiaoyao talks about refer to the habits that we develop unknowingly, limited by the purpose of "putting ourselves first, pursuing advantages and avoiding disadvantages", using our experience, likes and dislikes, and cleverness to replace thinking, instead of analyzing, judging and evaluating problems, and then making decisions directly - "Habits of profit-seeking nature". What we should create is new ways to restrict the above habits, and then develop "new good habits" that promote continuous self-improvement and a happy life!
| 5. Analysis of unconscious profit-seeking habits
Speaking of this, it is estimated that many friends already have their own answers (as long as it is not a "second decision"). I hope you don’t worry and listen to Xiaoyao’s analysis to see if the new habits I analyzed are similar to yours?
Since the root of the problem lies in the nature of profit-seeking, we should still start from the "profit-seeking" itself. Under normal circumstances, the process of pursuing profits can be divided into three stages: discovering profits-pursuing profits-successfully making profits. Next, Xiaoyao will combine "the habit (tendency) of a profit-seeking nature" with the process of pursuing profit. Let's take a look at this combination process and think about whether you have similar experiences.
The first stage: Discover the benefits. When the external environment changes, "I" will call out those "converging beneficial manifestations" (such as money, house, car, position, etc.) from the experience warehouse, and then combine it with the existing experience and likes and dislikes to quickly judge whether the change in the environment is a benefit or a disadvantage? If the result is a profit, the "profit discovery phase" is over. If you are indeed in these three walls, you are probably familiar with all the links I analyzed, and the time spent in this stage is often measured in seconds. It can also be understood this way: the process of discovering benefits for people in the hidden wall is often a process of making "second" judgments and "seconds" evaluations of benefits after calling up the manifestations of "convergent benefits" in the experience library and combining the experience, likes, dislikes, and intelligence of "existing me".
The second stage: the pursuit of profit. Once is "judged" to be profitable at the stage of discovering profits, or even "evaluated" as "big" profits, "I" will call the existing methods in the experience library to pursue profits. This decision-making process can usually be measured in seconds.
However, what if the existing methods in the experience library are not feasible, or perhaps there is no successful experience in pursuing profits in the experience library? The desire for success and profit often leads "I" to find ways to obtain possible profit-seeking methods and apply the so-called methods to pursue profits. (As mentioned above, learn the successful profit-making experience and put it into practice. However, combined with the previous analysis, I believe most of us already know: being trapped in the "existing me" experience, likes and dislikes, and intelligence, this inhibits or even ignores "mental" learning, and the result is often half the result, or even counterproductive.)
Let us analyze the third stage - The successful profit stage.
In the first stage, "I" have determined the "profit", and in the second stage, "I" have determined and implemented the pursuit method of "determined benefit". So in the third stage, the desire for success and profit often makes "I" ignore the role of the mind again, and limit the standard for judging and evaluating successful profit to "certain profit has indeed been obtained." For example, a person has his eye on a company and hopes to work in this company - profit; so he applies for a job in the company - pursues profit. If he is hired - he succeeds in making a profit; if he is not hired - he fails to make a profit. (There is one thing to note here: the examples given by Xiaoyao are only to illustrate a certain corresponding situation. If the analysis is not comprehensive enough, I hope all friends can understand and try not to completely deny the content shared by Xiaoyao due to "second decision-making".)
Although most people have heard the saying "failure is the mother of success", in the face of the common judgment and evaluation standard of "certain benefits have been obtained", the greatest value of this statement may be the so-called "self-comfort" - if you don't succeed in making a profit this time, try harder next time. I would like to ask, the form of profit in "my" eyes has not changed, the method of pursuing profit has not changed, and the criteria for judging profit have not changed. Will I be able to make a profit successfully if I work harder next time? I'm afraid it's also a last resort "second decision", right?
It is not difficult to find that under the influence of the "habits of profit-seeking nature", the three stages of profit-seeking are closely related to the "existing self": under the existing self, I am the main one to determine profit, determine the method of profit-seeking, and judge and evaluate the results of profit-seeking. Combined with the aforementioned analysis, Xiaoyao summarized these three stages into sixteen words: Focus on me - focus on the target (profit) - find every means (pursue profit) - make direct profits (certain profits have indeed been obtained). Some friends may have discovered that these sixteen words are the "convergent profit-seeking method" that Xiaoyao once proposed. I'm afraid many friends have already developed this profit-seeking habit without knowing it.
6. The introduction of new ways and new habits
The essence of pursuing profits according to this convergent way (habit) is to ignore the role of the mind and give up analyzing problems (things) when encountering problems (things). Over time, intelligence and wisdom will be suppressed, and we will inevitably encounter various contradictions between "what I want" and "it is difficult to achieve what I want".The combination of profit and wisdom is the pursuit of profit. Without the role of wisdom, how can we talk about success and profit? Continuous self-improvement and a happy life may be nothing more than empty talk! What to do with
? Since profit-seeking is natural, innate, and will exist until death, then we should create a new profit-seeking way and develop a new profit-seeking habit! A new habit that promotes the role of wisdom, and achieves continuous self-improvement and a happy life through the development and practice of new habits.
In response to the profit-seeking method of "putting me first - focus on the target - try every means - direct profit", Xiaoyao also put forward sixteen words: Put things first - grasp the main point - burst out wisdom - make multiple profits.
is just a simple one-to-one correspondence, or does it have a deeper meaning?
can tell you that these sixteen words are the fundamental policy of "elite self-cultivation" advocated by Xiaoyao Realization. Understanding and applying these sixteen words can help us analyze and solve various problems in the ever-changing external environment.
As for how to understand and practice these sixteen words? Let’s listen to the subsequent breakdown.
