Minmin said that she recently read an essay written by her daughter, who has just entered the fourth grade of elementary school. There is a passage in his essay about going to the amusement park with his classmates to challenge the haunted house. I thought the haunted house was very scary, but after entering, I found that it was not as scary as I thought. It was not as scary as my mother looked when she was angry with me! The words written by
's children are very depressing. Indeed, every time I teach my children, I can't control my emotions. She didn't expect that in her daughter's mind, she would look so hideous.
As a mother, it is very hard, and there will be a lot of bad emotions . It is best to learn to accept your emotions and express them rationally in a way that does not hurt your children. Sometimes emotions are indeed like devil , hurting others and themselves. Not being able to control your emotions can cause a lot of harm to your children.
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Parents’ bad mood will make their children weak and have low self-esteem.
A mother's mood determines the warmth of a family. A good family atmosphere will allow children to grow up happily. Family is not a trash can for us to vent our emotions. Parents with stable emotions can make their children feel loved and enjoy the warmth of the family..
A junior high school classmate of mine said that her mother often loses her temper for no reason , and sometimes she doesn’t even know the reason, which is really sad. My classmate
’s grades are average. My mother always says that if your grades are better, I won’t have to work so hard. I work to earn money for you to study, but you are so bad at studying.
Mothers would scold and ridicule children in front of others, and classmates became submissive, very concerned about other people's opinions of themselves, worried about others saying bad things about themselves, and gradually became very hated going home and did not want to see their own mothers.
This classmate went out to work without even studying in high school because he didn’t want to live a life surrounded by his mother’s nagging. Parents' emotional violence is very harmful to children. Children who grow up in this kind of atmosphere will have huge psychological trauma, which may not heal for life, and they will have to pay for their parents' emotions throughout their lives.
As parents, we should manage our own emotions, because these will be passed on to our children. For example, images such as irritable, pessimistic, and fearful are all images that can change in . Parents should work hard to change their emotional state, and their children will also be surrounded by happiness and optimism.
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Psychology says that living under the same roof, parents' handling of emotions, behavioral styles, cultural atmosphere, etc., will all have a subtle impact on their children. Even when they become adults, children's emotions and behaviors will be imprinted by their parents. This is a psychological and cultural inheritance.
I once saw a story where a mother and daughter and another guest fell in love with a dress at the same time, so they had a dispute. The mother and daughter, who seemed to be well-dressed, actually scolded the waiter to tears . The mother and daughter cursed in exactly the same manner and tone. Next to them was a six- or seven-year-old little girl. There was no expression of fear on this child's face, and she muttered: My mother and grandma like clothes like this.
Someone commented, and sure enough, these three people have the same blood as . . It can be seen that the appearance may be different, and the genes of the previous generation are strong and will be copied by the next generation. Such elders have not left their children with tolerance and gentle emotions. The family is full of violence and bad emotions
Many people can be generous and decent, get along with others, and be tolerant and calm. Their emotions are copied from the previous generation, and will also be passed down to their children. A healthy and happy family is passed down from generation to generation.
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Wu Zhihong said that children are the receivers of parents’ emotions. When parents become restless, children will immediately be alerted. When parents relax, children will also feel very happy.
Parents may think they are some insignificant little emotions, but in fact they are like a seed, inadvertently injected into the child's heart, and are slowly taking root and sprouting.
Control yourself for one minute before losing your temper, or leave the situation and count 20 numbers in your mind. You can tell your child that your behavior just now makes me feel very sad. What can you do now to make me feel better? Let the child understand the reason why the mother is angry and the correct approach . Don't take it out on the child for no reason. The adult's mood determines the happiness of himself and his child.
From the moment the child falls to the ground, parents devote all their love to their baby. Some parents say they give everything they have to their children, but many children still don't appreciate it.
The essence of education is the practice of parents. parents should be emotionally stable and handle their emotions correctly so that their children can face setbacks and difficulties with confidence and treat the world more tolerantly. Even if parents are very tired after working outside for a day, they should take a deep breath and smile warmly before entering the house. Don't sigh when doing laundry and cooking. When eating, the whole family puts down their mobile phones and eats happily. Every night the family sits together and listens to music, reads a book, or goes for a walk outside together. This kind of plain and simple happiness of and is what our children want to have.
Conclusion:
Good parents never let their bad emotions affect their children. Children only have one childhood, and parents should create a good growth atmosphere for their children, constantly improve themselves, and make life more harmonious and beautiful .
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