The human brain has increased by 1/3 in the last 2 million years. There is a new place called the frontal lobe, and our self-discipline abilities are inside. When we use self-regulatory behavior, the frontal lobe is highly active.
In other words, while self-discipline is successful, we are consuming our mental energy.
The brain is very similar to a mobile phone, and the psychological energy is battery power, which is limited. It is used during the day and not charged at night, so don’t think about turning on the next day.
people's self-discipline gradually weakens as the psychological energy is consumed until it fails.
Until they succeed in charging with high-quality sleep, the energy level starts a new day.
Many people get up every day, and the first thing they do is to touch their phones. Look at WeChat and Moments, and sometimes browse the Zhihu , Weibo and even WeChat public accounts. Before the bed was finished, my eyes were tired and hungry, and my brain was even more tired.
In the new day after every sufficient sleep, the psychological energy is so limited. How can you spend a lot of money on useless things before the day starts?
1. Put the most important things first.
Psychological energy is limited. People generally have better self-control in the early morning than in the afternoon, and their self-control in the afternoon is better than in the evening. So, it is best for us to put the most important things in the first place to do it, and that is the best time of self-discipline in the day.
2. The more specific the goal, the easier it is to control yourself
Our brain is impressed by the concrete things. The more specific the self-discipline plan, the easier it is to execute it. This is the self-regulation theory of social psychologist Bao Mait.
Don’t list the plan like this: study for one day tomorrow, and study for two days on weekends.
Instead, you should write the plan like this: read for 1 hour at 8 o'clock, write an article for 2 hours, study and edit for 3 hours in the afternoon...
If you haven't done this yet, try it, you will find that it is easier to control yourself than in the past.
3. As long as you have a cell phone in your sight, even if it is someone else's, it will affect your attention.
Psychologists found that not only do not play with the phone, but the screen is not right downward. As long as the phone is in sight, even if it is not your own, its attention will be affected, and people are almost unaware of it.
Every time you touch your phone, it will be easier next time you touch your phone; every time you successfully resist the temptation of your phone, it will be easier next time.
When you are focused on doing things, keep your phone away from your sight and record it on the post-it notes next to it when you encounter matters that you want to use your phone.
4. Ensure high-quality sleep
Our psychological energy depends on sleep charging. Only in deep sleep can we relieve fatigue, strengthen metabolism , and obtain energy accumulation.
Because of individual differences, it is more useful to learn from others.
After you have a good sleep, your mind will be clear, your fatigue will be zero, your energy will be abundant, your thinking will be faster, your attention and memory will be improved, and your psychological energy will be full. You can definitely feel it.
Think carefully about how you get a sleep like that and turn it into a sleep habit.
5. Don’t learn
Each of us can’t escape the impact of the people around us on us, and this impact is often unconscious.
Find reasonable methods, learn self-discipline, and be able to better control your life.
I am Daqing'er,
is recording the growth notes of a 30-year-old girl living alone.
I hope my sharing will inspire you a little,
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