Adolescence is the last opportunity to educate children. If you don’t catch this time, you will only regret it for the rest of your life.
So, if you want your child to successfully pass puberty and complete the transformation into adulthood, remember to say these 8 sentences in advance!
Adolescent is the first fruit of life
The growth process of children has two most sensitive stages:
The first stage is 4-6 years old, In the past two or three years, children have felt the most basic elements of survival from their families and have the initial understanding of gender and environment. All of this is the basis for "the reason why a person is a human being" and the cornerstone of interpersonal relationships.
The second stage is adolescence, It occurs on the basis of the first stage. In other words, its quality basically depends on the first stage.
For example, a girl did not receive enough care from her father and mother before elementary school, then when she entered puberty, she may fall in love early, be disgusted with school, and go against her teacher...
A boy may also have some abnormal phenomena during adolescence due to bad relationships with her parents in childhood, such as Internet addiction, fighting, premature love or skipping school.
Children are seeds, and the first fruits will bear in adolescence. Although they are green and yellow, they are green and fragile, they are still hanging on the branches, calling their friends to attract their companions.
But experienced fruit farmers know that the first fruit cannot be needed, and fruit trees must be raised because their nutrition is not rich enough and they are not enough to bear the responsibility for maturity.
This is the most vivid metaphor for adolescence. It seems that they have become tall or tall, but they are far from meeting the requirements of maturity. broadly means that they are mentally a childish, and narrowly speaking, they do not have all other conditions except the body.
So they have no right and cannot bear life.
Adolescence is the last chance that children leave to their parents
But it does not mean that this stage should do nothing. In fact, adolescence is important even beyond any stage of life.
There are two reasons:
First, it is the prelude to starting a family and starting a career; second, it is the last chance that children leave to parents. What opportunities will be
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Opportunities for adjustment and education.
That is to say, if a child does not receive enough care in childhood and performs poorly, then parents should provide compensation and guidance during their children's adolescence.
If at this stage, the child's personality loopholes have not been fixed, it will be difficult for him/her to be connected with happiness, health and happiness in his/her life.
From years of experience in treatment and consultation, whether it is stress relief in the college entrance examination, parent-child relationship, or early love, truant school, Internet addiction, rebellion, etc., If parents are in children puberty stage 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 8 tml9 未分类录片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机片机
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The consequences of harm during adolescence
Adolescent is the last opportunity left by children to parents, so at this stage, many children also make parents very troubled.
Some wise parents will influence their children by patiently accompanying and guiding them. They either seek help from experts, communicate with teachers, or send their children abroad...
No matter whether these actions are clever or not, in short, they are putting their efforts, and the children will not turn a blind eye to these efforts, but the rewards may lag behind.
In addition, there are a considerable number of parents who do not have this patience. When facing their children who perform poorly, they still continue their discipline methods more than ten years ago. For example, they were beaten by their parents when their children were 5 years old and still endured this kind of flesh and blood when they were 15 years old.
This is equivalent to further strengthening the way children exist: I am not cared for by my parents (at the age of 5), and I am not accepted by the environment (at the age of 15).
Then in another ten years, at the age of 25, this person may develop antisocial personality or self-harm tendencies, and in another ten, twenty, thirty years...those pain and humiliation will always be with him, and hell will be formed from this.
Research has proved that children who are persecuted by their families during adolescence have a very high crime and suicide rates. In addition, these victims will also develop traits such as self-abuse, self-harm, self-depreciation, and inferiority complex.
All of this defiles the beautiful and holy adolescence, but at this time the children cannot live independently without their parents, so they will be forced to bear the pressure and hurt from their parents.
and walk towards their next stop with these scars: society.
So, what should adolescent parents do?
88 8 sentences that every teenager needs
A recent study by Science magazine showed that adults say 16215 words every day. I wonder if there are 8 key sentences in so many words?
No matter what age or stage, teenagers are very eager to hear these 8 sentences.
1. I love you. The sentence
is particularly important. If the child cannot hear this sentence from you, I really can't imagine where he wants to listen.
2. I am proud of you.
achievements are often very subjective, depending on whether you are satisfied, give more applause to your children's efforts, regardless of whether they achieve the achievements you want.
Don’t let your child feel pain for the rest of his life that he cannot satisfy you.
3. Sorry.
Children are waiting for their parents for the rest of their lives, and parents are waiting for their children for the rest of their lives to say thank you.
But you have to know that you are an adult, and adults must first be responsible. Don’t shirk responsibility and say “I’m sorry, but…”. Sorry is sorry.
First demonstrate to the child. When a mistake is made, how to apologize as an adult.
Children will learn a lot from our behavior, but more from our qualities.
4. I forgive you.
Teenagers make a lot of mistakes, so they are teenagers.
Only when they know that they can get forgiveness from their parents will they take the initiative to admit their mistakes and ask for help from you without having to lie all day long. You can only know what they are doing until the situation is out of control.
understands that it doesn’t matter if you make mistakes, and there is still a chance to correct them. Sooner or later, teenagers can learn how to do the right thing.
5. I'm listening.
You must know that you cannot control a 15-year-old child, you can only rely on influence.
How do you affect him?
talks about big principles?
It is better to listen and ask questions first, understand what he is thinking, and then follow the trend according to his ideas. Moreover, you also need to let him start thinking independently.
6. This is your responsibility.
Don’t help your child deal with the problems he can solve.
We should be like coaches, prepare them before the game, cheer him up during the game, and then analyze with him where they are doing well and what is not.
I have the urge to go on stage, so I'm holding it in! ! !
7. You can do it.
When he was about to set sail, his parents' trust was their reassurance to face the whole world. You will never know how far he can go and how high he can fly with your encouragement.
8. No.
Most of the time you have to tell your child that you can and encourage him to experience it. However, as a parent, the most loving sentence may not be "okay", but "not".
's negation of error is an affirmation of correctness.
You must be determined to say "no" at critical moments. You cannot give up the principle if you are afraid that he will hate you. One day he will understand that parents who can say that they really love him.
If you love your children, please seize the last opportunity in adolescence and love them well. Life is a one-way trip, and there is no way to go.
