Some friends asked me these days, saying that I was in so much pain and was desperate, and I felt that my emotions were much better. As a result, as soon as I returned to the original environment, my emotions relapsed. I asked me if there was any other good solution, but I said no.
Friends, you see, you still looked in the wrong direction. Pain itself is a part of your body. It exists objectively. You always try to get rid of it, reject it, and get rid of it. The superimposed pain also comes. You are depressed, helpless, and sad. Why can't you drive away the pain? You are all fine before, but why are you so painful now? It's the pain that affects my life, not life itself has brought me pain.
Everyone think about it carefully, is life causing pain to you or pain affecting your life? We should not escape reality by rejecting painful emotions. There are too many things that make us painful, such as interpersonal relationships at work, handling of work problems, conflicts with our parents-in-law, bad relationships with our husbands or wives, tense parent-child relationships, no goals and directions in life, stagnation, and no growth. You see, there are so many reasons that make us painful, have we solved them? These problems have caused us pain. Do we have a way to solve the problem? Or have you been struggling with pain? Can anxiety be cured?
So, friends, wake up, don’t worry about how the pain and anxiety disappear. We focus on how to solve the current problems. For example, if there is a problem in the work, then we will consider how to solve the problem, what should be done in the first step, and what should be done in the second step. If the solution cannot be solved, can we accept the status quo, coexist with the problem, and live with the problem.
If there is a problem with the intimate relationship, then let’s think of a way to adjust the relationship with the other party. The prerequisite for asking for love is that you give love first, and adults can achieve oneself. Therefore, love requires oneself to give first and then gain.
A friend asked me how to change my cognition. What I want to say is that everyone lives in doubt and entanglement every day. Today I believe what this person said, tomorrow I believe what that person said. Before the cognition has been consolidated, I just went to find other methods impetuously. But after searching, I still couldn't do it. In the end, I was desperate and couldn't do it anymore. I ran away. Just like that, I fell out of the jar...
In fact, giving up is the beginning of healing. Give up treating anxiety disorders the key to healing anxiety disorders, because you no longer keep staring at it and move around. Your attention is not the only one. You have given up fighting with it. You have gone to work hard. Although you are in a bad state, you can basically complete the work. The interpersonal relationship is not very good, but you can basically make do with it. The family members are average, and everyone does not interfere with each other. This is basically the case. If the intimate relationship is not good, just focus on what you are interested in. If the parent-child relationship is tense, then separate the subject and separate the children's affairs from your own affairs.
When you do this, you find that you have become loose and less anxious. Your life has really changed, your heart has also changed, and anxiety has faded without realizing it.
