I understand you will come, so I wait for
Author / Gangguma
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Anyone who has experienced it will tell me, boys, there are about 2 times, one is around 10 years old, and the other is between 15 and 16 years old. The former is just a small peak, and the latter is definitely coming and going, and you are suffering.
Regarding this, my husband and I have discussed each other's green time.
He is addicted to gaming consoles. Even in the year of the college entrance examination, he still made an appointment with his classmates at noon to go to the Internet cafe to kill a game. My mother-in-law has been worried about this. Of course, at this moment, when he talks about these things, he has a trace of undetectable regret, but more of it is endless nostalgia.
. My girl has had a crush on her and has become more quiet and silent. There is nothing else.
can face children who are already on par with me, and there will always be such concerns. When asked about parents around them, most of them had the same anxiety.
There is too much education, I am afraid that my children will be greedy and say goodbye to the world; no matter what, I am worried that my children will go astray, it is really difficult to be a parent!
When I saw this passage in "Maybe You Should Find Someone to Talk", I seemed to have found some answer.
Therapists always look for balance at both ends of the balance: on the one hand, we must create a relationship of mutual trust, and on the other hand, we must hit the key points so that the client will no longer suffer.
From the beginning of treatment, our actions are both slow and fast - slowly let the content settle and quickly consolidate the relationship, and strategically sow the seeds needed for treatment along the way.
This is like the planting rules in nature. If you sow too early, the seeds will not germinate; if you sow too late, although it will grow, it may miss the most fertile period of the soil.
But if you have the right time to sow, it can absorb enough nutrients to grow vigorously. The job of the therapist is to wander back and forth between encouragement and confrontation.
quotation here is that every sentence in it writes about our relationship with our children - is to encourage and confrontate .
We tell our children over and over again that parents will always be on the united front with you. On the other hand, we must prevent the problem from happening and lead the children to fight with the uncontrolled self in their minds.
Why do we all do this, but it seems that we have not achieved the ideal results? What is the problem?
We have overlooked the most important issue, that is, the child is no longer our private items. He is a person. He has his own thoughts and feelings, and he has the desire and ability to handle things independently.
We say it nicely - we respect the children, but when we encounter practical problems, we still do it in a big way, just like the children are still very young, so we did it together.
Our kindness is depriving the children of their rights little by little. In the end, the children are either giant babies or extremely rebellious. These are very different from our original intentions.
so this book provides a good perspective. To treat children with the mentality of treating clients, things will have completely different situations. The final solution to the
The other party’s heart is opened and overcome with the courage to face it honestly, whether it is the child or the visitor.
The point is that we must let go, just like the therapist trusts the client, firmly believing that the child can handle all this well, plus our proper guidance.
As a blogger said, when you have a relationship with your husband, you will get along with him like a colleague, and work together to complete the career at home. Let go of the expectation, and you will gain more peace in your heart.
each other complete their tasks at their respective times, and rest and charge the rest of the time, but there is a different peace.
Zero persistence, but what it brings may not be zero expectations!
When I thought about it this way, a lot of my anxiety disappeared.
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