People with good emotions can get along well with family, friends, and colleagues, and they can also live comfortably and contentedly. The editor would like to introduce to you how emotions are expressed, how they affect our lives, and how we can be reasonable Express your emotions.
1. Emotions can express a person’s inner activities
Emotions are people’s feelings, attitudes and corresponding behavioral responses to things or others, including joy, anger, sadness, joy, etc.; emotions are the windows of the soul, and a person’s Psychological activities can be expressed through emotions ;
How to understand a person's emotional state? We can understand a person by observing his expression, words and actions.
There is a plot in " Da Song Ti Xing Guan ": a thin man (referred to as A) stole 20 yuan from the owner of a butcher shop, fell down while escaping, and slyly shouted to the onlookers: It's wrong, it's wrong ah!
Because the butcher shop owner is big and strong and speaks tough, viewers who don't know the truth accuse him of bullying.
Song Ci, who has been watching from the sidelines, suggested that A take out 20 pieces of money and check who the owner of the money is; A said: "How to check," his expression was panicked, and he flashed ; ('s slight expression showed that he had something in his heart. A trace of panic; language, pretending that one is not a thief )
Song Ci found a bucket of water and replied: Take a piece of money and throw it into the water, and the thief's name will naturally surface; after the copper coin was thrown into the water, everyone gathered around to see the thief's name;
Song Ci Tell the truth: There is a layer of oily flowers floating on the water. If the money was not stolen from the butcher shop, how could there be oily flowers floating on it? After hearing this, A quickly turned his eyes to the left and right to see the reaction of everyone ( everyone was vying to see the oil in the bucket, which was a good opportunity to escape), and then A quickly took a look at the bucket (understanding that the evidence was solid). ), then find the gap and quickly escape forward.
From this example, in addition to seeing that A is a habitual thief, we can also summarize: Expressions, language and actions can express a person's emotions, and emotions indirectly reveal a person's psychological activities.
2. Express emotions reasonably: get along well with others
Some health experts say: If you have emotions and do not express them, it is called depression and it is easy to get cancer;
When we are offended by others, we will feel unhappy. At this time, we can express it reasonably to avoid being aggrieved and in a bad mood because of blind patience, which will also affect your relationship with the other person;
The best way to express emotions is through words. Communicate , why? For example, after the lights are turned off in the dormitory, a roommate is talking on the phone. If you use facial expressions to communicate, she won't be able to see the frown; your actions are inappropriate; When communicating, use a respectful, equal, and kind tone.
It should be noted that expressing emotions too strongly when encountering problems, such as getting angry, can also harm our health ;
Have you ever heard of the wild horse effect? Wild horses on the African grasslands are easily sucked by bats . Although bats rarely suck blood and leave immediately after sucking, wild horses will run wildly because of rage, and many wild horses die from manic emotions.
We will inevitably encounter unpleasant things in life:
Being questioned by parents about our choices;
Having trouble with friends;
Children are always noisy and want to look at their mobile phones;
I have left my job and are worried about what to do in the future...
Being anxious all day long or throwing a tantrum will only harm our body. How many people spend all the money they earn in their lives on medical treatment in old age? Already? Having health is the greatest blessing in a person's life. Do you want to destroy it yourself??
Just look away and be indifferent. If you can't solve it yourself, you can talk to others to relieve your boredom.
3. Don’t get into trouble, nothing is worth fighting to the death.
Because you and the other party are two independent people, you have different thoughts and feelings. You can express your ideas and suggestions, but it is up to the other party whether to accept them or not. You don’t have to force things, and you can’t force them..
When you are unreasonable with others, it means that there is a "wall" between you. If you don't want to hit the wall, you should take the initiative to change your route and go around it;
There are many people who force others to accept their own reasons, but the results always end in tragedy. .
On September 17, 2020, a third-grade boy in a middle school in Wuhan was playing poker with two other classmates in the classroom. After the teacher discovered this behavior, he called his parents. The boy’s mother hated that iron cannot be made into steel. When she was emotional, her discipline method was inappropriate. When , actually slapped the child twice in the corridor; the child collapsed instantly, and a few minutes later, he jumped from the fifth floor of the classroom. ultimately failed to save the child due to serious injuries, and his life was forever fixed at the age of 14, the most beautiful age.
Are children more important, or grades and face? Unfortunately, there is no regret medicine in the world.
Don’t get into trouble, and respect others no matter when and where;We don’t have to dwell on an idea or a right or wrong, let alone fight to the death, We must believe that there are other ways to solve things, but It takes time for you to come up with and try other methods .
4. Finally
We will encounter many people and things. Conflicts are inevitable when getting along with others. When you enter quarrel mode when communicating with others, how do you manage your emotions? Remember one principle: before your anger rises, before you yell or take action, leave this place and change to another place to calm down.
The most important thing for people is to manage their emotions. We may have a stable job, a happy family, or some have just entered a wonderful university; we cannot hurt the people around us or ourselves because of impulse.
Children are about to start school. Learning knowledge and getting along with like-minded friends on campus is a happy thing, but they are young and energetic and prone to anger. I send this article to the children who are about to start school, hoping to help readers manage their emotions. .
