Sometimes, one shot of prevention is worth ten thousand pills of regret. Learn these five things about psychology you should have known a long time ago.
You are the best
Back in 1968, two leading psychologists came to an elementary school in the United States. After carefully observing each student in the 18 classes, they praised and gave the teacher a list of the most promising students. The psychologist asked only that the list be kept secret and left. Eight months later, the psychologists were surprised to find that all the students on the list were confident, cheerful, and had good academic performance. The point is that the names were given randomly at the time.
The collapsed ideal
Everyone has a utopia in his heart. It faces the sea, the spring flowers are blooming, everything is poetry and distance. The reason why we cannot reach the ideal state is because we may be in the narrowing effect. The narrowness here is not the narrowness of the body, but the narrowness of desire. Ambitious ideal goals are often defeated by the short-term temptations around us, and the short-term desire for happiness can make us forget everything.
Embarrassing Yourself
There are always a few things that you don’t want to think about at all, but they will appear from time to time and embarrass you. In fact, when you think about it, embarrassment happens because you always think everyone is staring at you, which is the focus effect at work. In your world, you are the light, the brightest star in the night sky. So you take it for granted that you are also the center of attention in other people's world, so if you accidentally fall down, you will immediately feel embarrassed, take a second to stand up, pretend that it never happened, and hope that the people around him will The collective suffers from amnesia . Not caring if my poor ass hurts. My heart was filled with embarrassment. I always think that everyone around me is looking at me with a magnifying glass.
Happy Bronze Medal
If you observe the Olympic medal ceremony carefully, you will find that the bronze medalist's smile is brighter than that of the silver medalist. Why? Psychologists have found that counterfactual thinking is at work, and counterfactual thinking is divided into two types: upward and downward. Getting caught up in the upward thinking is, gee, I could be thinking better. The downward thought is, wow, thank God, that's great. The silver medalist, who he's comparing himself to, will compare himself to the gold medalist, and if I had worked harder, I might have won the gold medal, too. The bronze medalist was compared to the fourth place winner who did not have a medal. God bless him and he was so lucky. Upward counterfactual thinking can easily put people in a sad state of regret.
The more you want it, the less you will have it.
Don’t think God is joking with you. The greater the hope, the greater the disappointment. This matter is directly related to your mentality. The Yerkes-Dodson law of psychology tells us that motivation, intensity, and productivity are not linear, but an inverted U-shaped curve. When they reach their peak, the more you think, the less capable you are of completing tasks.
Therefore, when doing things, you should control your motivation to medium intensity. For example, if you are an Ergou and want to chase Xiaofang in the village, don’t think that you have to become a licking dog to catch up with him. You should approach it with a trying mentality. Then the chance of being with Xiaofang will be bigger.
