Interview with Xueqin At 4 o'clock in the morning, I was surprised to hear movement at my feet. When I woke up, I saw that it was my mother who suffered from Alzheimer's disease, sitting at the end of the bed. It seems that my mother entered the room and the cat followed her. My

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At 4 o'clock in the morning, I was surprised to hear movement at my feet. When I woke up, I saw that it was my mother who suffered from Alzheimer's disease, sitting at the end of the bed. It seems that my mother entered the room and the cat followed her.

My mother has never behaved like this. Furthermore, in recent weeks her mobility has become even weaker, sitting or lying down almost all day, and not moving unless necessary.

I quickly started to do it and asked her what was wrong. Fortunately, she said: "I have chest tightness ."

Wow! Can express clearly! ——Yes, now, her usual expression is "Don't ask me why"

. Her ability to express herself seems to be gradually losing. She speaks very little and sometimes can't understand what I say.

Since this year, she has had a special phenomenon. I have discovered that: it seems that every two months, one day she will suddenly become active in thinking, talk more, and can express smoothly, and her expressions will become richer, she will smile, and she will Take the initiative to talk to me. Although is accompanied by speculation or memory confusion at the same time - but every time I have the illusion that she is getting better.

However, it was just a "reflection", and the next day she returned to being silent and dull, with a short-circuited brain, and her symptoms worsened.

Some time ago, a friend asked me about Alzheimer’s disease. Her husband-in-law was also diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. I shared my experience since taking my mother to see a doctor, but I didn’t want to talk about my mother’s current situation.

In fact, the situation of every Alzheimer’s patient is different, but the common point is that there is no possibility of improvement.

They are gradually losing their ability to live and heading towards the end of life. We can only be fully mentally prepared to accompany them as they weaken and the light of life gradually dims.

Please share my mother’s diagnosis and treatment process.

I am quite alert. A few years ago, when I discovered that my mother had great forgetfulness, I decided to take her to the hospital for a diagnosis.

went to the hospital to sign up for the "neurology department".

I went to the best local hospital, the Provincial People's Hospital, and found a doctor (female) with the best reputation for diagnosis. What did the doctor say? There was nothing wrong with the medical treatment process, but there was a coldness about it.

There are two things that impressed me deeply:

1. She "chased" me and asked me how I got her account - she asked me more than once.

I understand what she means is that she is so awesome, I should not be able to hang up.

2. She gave an example casually: some patients smeared their feces on the walls of their homes - this made me very confused. ah!

Sister, this is the first time I brought my mother for diagnosis, and she tested that it was only the early stage of cognitive impairment , that is, the early symptoms are mild, and the prognosis is better when controlled by medication - you are an expert and you don't tell me in detail what to do. How to take care of patients? Is it necessary to be so scary?

The point is that in the second year, I changed to another female doctor B. For the convenience of writing, I will call the above one doctor A.

Doctor B pointed out that Doctor A did not perform a brain CT on my mother because similar symptoms may also be cerebral infarction (probably a small cerebral infarction caused by the blockage of tiny blood vessels in the brain, or causing nerve damage to . is relatively small. cerebral infarction ).

Emma! Imagine my shock at that time! Doctor A was the top doctor there, and my mother was hospitalized for examination and medicine dispensing. She didn't even do a brain CT to rule out the problem.

After getting sick, my mother was hospitalized almost once or three times a year, but I have always wondered whether she had Alzheimer's disease, neurological damage caused by "micro" cerebral infarction, or both. ? ——The correct diagnosis means whether the treatment plan is effective, but I never have a clear answer.

so, if you find out that a family member has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease, it is best to rule out problems with blood vessels in the brain - to avoid the pitfalls I encountered.

Generally speaking, when I have a mother with Alzheimer's disease, I am relatively lucky - the disease is under good control.

For example, my mother still recognizes me. A few weeks ago, I asked her for advice on finding a nursing home for her. She obviously understood this and shook her head in refusal.

For example, she only got lost once.

html Thirteen years ago, in the summer, I looked for her everywhere near my home, but she had already ran 12 kilometers away - I later received a call from the police asking me to claim her. Coincidentally, that police station was down the street from our earliest home.

That night, my father passed away, having a stroke and suffering from prostate cancer for many years. He went to the hospital emergency room every month for many years, and he was really relieved - maybe he wanted to reduce the burden of taking care of me?

Looking back, it was simply my father’s compassion for me, or God’s arrangement, that allowed me to always get through the difficulties - I was also going through a low point in my life at that time, which was no different from suffering from a serious illness. . After my father left, I still slid towards the bottom of the valley. After that, he went through the process of recovering from a serious illness, gradually recovering, until he was healed and regained his life.

This period was accompanied by the decline of my mother, and it was only when I regained my vitality that I had enough energy to cope with it.

My mother seems to have deteriorated to the next level in recent months. Recently I have started to have difficulty swallowing, including taking medicine. Walking is also very difficult. She was given adult diapers.

I went to the hospital to have my throat checked today. The laryngoscopy requires a 24-hour nucleic acid report and is delayed by one day, but the specialist said that if the loss of swallowing function is caused by nerve damage, a gastric tube will have to be inserted in the future.

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This really stimulates me. I never thought that my mother would be unable to eat one day. My expectation of managing is that one day my mother will not recognize me.

I also remembered Teacher Wu Jun’s article "Living toward Death" (recommend all his books), which gave me great inspiration... It is more appropriate to call it "Tips": Living toward Death is also my homework.

How long you live is not important. What is important is that you can fulfill your life wishes before you die.

In the era of increasing life span and centenarian life, the above sentence should be corrected to two sentences:

1. It is not about pursuing a long life, but about pursuing a quality old age. Health management is the foundation.

2. It is not before death, but before death. It is to fulfill one's life wishes before becoming "disabled".

Tomorrow’s sun and accident, you don’t know which one will come first.

After talking about this, dear friend, I want to ask you: What is your life wish? What did you do to make your wish come true?

Life is a miracle, life is so precious, live up to this jackpot you won, speak out your wishes, and the whole universe will come to help you!