Recently I read some articles by Professor Shen Heyong , and I have some insights. However, I am too stupid to describe it myself. I read some of the annotations, excerpted the text, and condensed it into this article!
Let’s talk about the logical sequence of this article first. When we do psychology, we will first explore the origin of psychology, then explore why people get sick, and start from this reason to find the way to cure, which evolved into healing techniques (psychological sandbox) and techniques. Application ( cancer ). The most appropriate application lies in the process of self-understanding, acceptance, healing, and realization!
1. The origin of psychology
Western psychology regards the motto of the Temple of Delphi " know yourself " as the origin of psychology. Psychology is about understanding oneself, understanding others, and promoting human development. In an ancient mythology, the Sphinx Sphinx that looms on the cliff outside the city of Wubai blocks passers-by with various riddles. The most proud riddle of this green forest banshee is: What animal walks on four legs in the morning, two legs in the afternoon, and three legs in the evening? Among all living things, this is the only animal that walks with different numbers of legs, and when the number of legs is the most, it is the speed and When the power is at its smallest. 's outstanding hero Oedipus found the answer to the riddle: man. The ancient myth of the Sphinx shows that while humans understand nature, they also put forward requirements for the spirit to understand people themselves. This is an important sign of moving from ignorance to awakening.
Temple of Delphi
And psychology is about the psychology of the soul
The goddess of the soul Psyche (Psyche) was originally a very ordinary girl, because she was gentle and kind, everyone liked her, but she offended Venus (because of Psyche, the world ignored Venus, the goddess of love and beauty). The son of Venus is Cupid, the god of love. She asked her son to find a way to marry Psyche to the ugliest and most ferocious beast in the world. After Cupid saw Psyche, he couldn't bear to hurt her. He took Psyche away and agreed to meet every night, but he made an agreement with Psyche not to ask where he was from because he wanted to hide it from his mother.
Cupid and Psyche
Psyche broke the agreement one night and lit an oil lamp to see what Cupid looked like. The lamp accidentally burned Cupid. Cupid was very sad when he woke up and left Psyche. After Cupid left, the goddess became depressed and committed suicide by throwing herself into a lake. Who will provide her with psychological counseling after she commits suicide? Pan God (Note: Pan, The god of sheep and shepherds in Greek mythology, was later considered to be the god who helped lonely voyagers expel terror).
What method did Pan Shen use? Music Therapy, because Pan has a Qiang flute. Later, Psyche decided to muster up the energy to find Cupid. She had to cross the Styx River (to find Venus) first. This Styx River was as thrilling as in "Journey to the West" and required courage and courage. wisdom. When she met Venus, Venus asked him to complete three tasks before she could meet Cupid. Psyche has completed these three tasks, but the third task is more complicated.
In the process of completing her task, she and Cupid moved Zeus . In the end, Zeus presided over the wedding, and the god of love and Psyche were united. Zeus put Psyche in charge of the human soul, and she became the goddess of the heart, which is also the combination of love and soul. This is a good example of understanding nature and individuation.
The prefix of psychology is actually psyche, and psychology is named after her. The real psychology is the psychology of the soul.
2. Why do we get sick?
Why do people get sick? Mainly because of pressure, intangible, tangible, and all kinds of pressure.
There is a psychological stress scale in psychology. For example, getting deducted points for running a red light and speeding may be 7 points of stress, and quarreling with others may be 15 points of stress. If an elderly person in your family is seriously ill, your stress may be close to 80 points; Unfortunately, someone has passed away, and your stress may be 100 points...
The scores of these life events are added up, and if the score exceeds 150, you may become ill. I am talking about psychological illness. Mind and body influence each other, and as a result, your (psychological) immunity may also be reduced. If the total score exceeds 300 points, you may get seriously ill or even develop cancer.
We cannot change events such as the illness and death of relatives, so what can psychology do? What are the healing factors?
If we cannot change the molecular level (the pressure caused by life events), then we work on the denominator, and we explore with the clients how to face difficulties.
When encountering a crisis in life, advice is always pale..
"Only one thing seems to work: that is to face the approaching darkness directly, without prejudice and innocence, and try to understand what its mysterious purpose is and what it wants from you. ”
Psychological Sandbox
3. Psychological Healing and Psychological Sandbox
Teacher Shen: The martial arts secrets I use for consultation
I give you two sentences, which are also the martial arts secrets I use for consultation. The first sentence, "Who can stop the turbidity and make it quiet and clear?"
The visitor is very anxious, as turbid as water, what should I do? Lao Tzu's words are very simple, "Quietness makes Xu Qing". If the goal of our consultation is to make them less turbid and quiet, then their hearts will calm down.
However, many counselors shake their clients and tell them: You can’t do this, you have to go for a run tomorrow, you have to go...it takes time to calm down, and counselors need to calm down. Calm down, and the turbid water will slowly clear up. Clear, but it takes time, slow down, "slowly"... Many consultants are too anxious now.
Lao Tzu's second sentence, " What can be settled for a long time is the growth of movement" . How to maintain the client's long-term self-healing ability? Inject inner resources into him. His inherent goodness is the inner resource. Even if he is afraid of damaging the little ants in the sandbox, putting the ants in a place with water is not a simple action in the sandbox game. You will see the kindness of the child. If you can feel, sense or resonate with his inner goodness, this is his inner resource. I have always believed that the real healing factor lies deep within the client. You may confirm with him that the eyes, the innocent eyes of a child, are the real healing factor, not just the methods and theories we learn. The real healing power also lies deep within the client's heart. A good counselor feels it, awakens it, and gives it the opportunity to express it.
The child's gaze
It is the counselor who is doing the treatment, not the sandbox tool that is doing the treatment
In 1962, the first year after Jung passed away, Kalf gave a report at the international conference held in Zurich, . At that time, Kalf was not very famous. Jung had many talented people under his command, so Kalf was not very prominent at that time. She reported on the sandbox game treatment, in which she talked about a child case. The child was (psychologically) sick and came to seek help. After playing the sandplay game, the client had obvious changes, which was amazing.
Everyone thought it was amazing, so they asked Kalf, what is the factor of healing? "I didn't do anything," Kalf said, emphasizing the power of clients to heal themselves.
Dora Kalf, the founder of Psychological Sandbox Game
"Psychological flexibility" has been a relatively fashionable word in the past 20 years. Psychological resilience means that a good counselor can feel the therapeutic flexibility deep in the client's soul.
Kalf said, I create a space of freedom and protection for the visitors. Without the space of freedom and protection, psychological flexibility will not rebound. It is very important for the counselor to create a space of freedom and protection. This is a condition. With this condition, the client can heal here and his psychological flexibility can be restored.
Kalf once had such last words. If you want to be a good sandbox game consultant, you must have two abilities:
First, you can provide a space of freedom and protection. This requires hard work, your affinity, and dedication. And the attitude towards visitors makes visitors feel at home, feeling free and protected;
Second, be able to understand imagery and symbols, because every sand set in the sand table is symbolically expressed, and you have to understand what is behind it.
Western psychologists were once curious about which psychological method was the most effective, so they conducted a study to explore the factors of healing. The final conclusion made all researchers find it incredible: 80% of healing has nothing to do with therapy/technology, but depends on There is one common factor - the attitude of the counselor. It is the counselor who is doing the treatment, not the sandbox tool.
Each of us has our own destiny, and if the path you take is not your own, you will feel uncomfortable. ,
In terms of symptoms, if it is windy or rainy and you don’t have an umbrella, you may feel uncomfortable after getting wet. In this case, you may panic, be anxious, and be nervous. This is a metaphor.
So what is personalization? If destiny is your own path, you may feel more comfortable and at home.
Can you imagine the difference between the two - being forced to take a path arranged by others, which is not the path you want; and taking a path destined to be your own?
Some of my early visitors couldn't find a sense of themselves, like they didn't have a home, they were living under someone else's roof, they were drifting. They are confused and trapped by life. At that time, I was thinking that if I could help visitors find their own way and find their own home, going home would be healing.
In this way, "individuation" can also be understood in this way, If you are not walking your own path, you will be anxious, hesitant, fearful, and forced; if you find your inner self and walk your own path, your The symptoms will disappear.
This is a more in-depth consideration of psychological treatment. It is not just about curing symptoms, but also reflecting on the reasons behind the symptoms, why people are sick; and also reflecting on the factors for healing. If you can understand, combined with our sandbox games and using sandbox games as the main body, it can play a role in our psychological counseling work.
4. Shadow and psychological analysis
The so-called psychological analysis is to deal with the shadow
Sandbox game therapy should start from a safe place, gradually come into contact with the trauma, and end at a supportive place. How to face shadows and complexes? Behind all symptoms may be a shadow.
Whether the "shadow" will become our enemy or our friend depends on us. It is only when the shadow is ignored or misunderstood that it becomes hostile. The so-called psychological analysis is to deal with the shadow, and the shadow is a part of you.
The Minotaur
The Minotaur may be the largest shadow cast by mankind. The Minotaur originated from Greek mythology. After Minos became king, he sought a miracle from Poseidon, the god of the sea, in order to prove that he was right to take the throne. Poseidon asked Minos to promise to sacrifice the best bull to him. The next year, a huge white bull was born, but Minos had never seen such a beautiful bull and forgot the promise. He killed the second best cow and sacrificed it, trying to cheat his way through.
The angry Poseidon cursed the queen, causing her to suffer from zoophilia. The queen had a relationship with a cow and eventually gave birth to a half-man, half-bull monster - the Minotaur (Minotaur).
It was very chaotic and evil when it was born. It was cruel and bloodthirsty and carried out a crazy killing. Due to its huge strength and size, Minos' soldiers died in a sea of blood, and finally subdued it.
In order to prevent the Minotaur from running out again, Minos has been looking for a way to build a maze for the Minotaur. Anyone who enters the maze will lose their way and will never get out.
When Minos imprisoned the half-man, half-bull Minotaur in the underground maze out of shame, the Minotaur became a shadow that humans could not face.
In myths and legends, Athens, conquered by Minos, sent seven pairs of boys and girls to the labyrinth that contained the Minotaur every year, which increased people's fear of the Minotaur.
In the view of psychoanalysts, because people are afraid of finding the true source of all misfortunes in themselves, they project all manifestations from the shadow onto some nameless evil in the world, including the Minotaur. As a result, the Minotaur has almost become synonymous with "monster" and "evil".
5. Case application and summary
There was a visitor, a teenage girl, who had been hospitalized for more than a year. She was first treated in the neurology department, and then transferred to the brain hospital. Almost all the examinations were done. When the attack started, the man The nurses couldn't hold her down. Later she made a sandbox at one of my students. Of course, if you are just a counselor, you cannot work with such serious cases. Because our Mental Health Law stipulates that our psychological counselors cannot touch the psychiatric department. This practice is illegal, but this student is a doctor himself, and he is not affected by this.
There are spiders, centipedes and snakes in the middle of one of the sand tables. You can imagine, if these snakes, spiders, centipedes are not on the sand table, but in our stomachs, in each of your stomachs, how would you feel? It's going to be hard on you, right? When we feel uncomfortable, we may act hysterically. Then we can understand this child. If these snakes are in her belly and bite her heart-breakingly, how can she not have an attack?
I think no matter what the disease is, whether it is obsessive-compulsive, depression, autism or , there may be some common elements deep in the hearts of patients, and we can divide them into fine details, but among these common factors, there are He has his insecurities and his anxieties. Put it this way, the snake was given her fear, the spider was given her nervousness, and the centipede was given her anxiety. The fear, tension, and anxiety in her heart came out within ten or twenty minutes. Just came out.
So the first step has a healing effect, why? Because she could take a breath, otherwise she would have an attack for two or three hours every day if it was held in her stomach. This is actually the first step in combining our psychotherapy with neurological diseases. When the patient's inner anxiety is expressed through a centipede or a spider, the skill of the psychological counselor is tested.
How are you going to work if it comes out? This is the test, followed by the second, third, and fourth steps...
The student was very excited. He said:
"Teacher Shen, the sand table is really effective!"
He wanted to say it was a miracle, but I said What's wrong? He said that after a year of treatment, there was no change. Anyway, he had done all the examinations and taken all the medicines, but there was no change. In the previous sandbox, the child was very scared and confused. She used sand to bury the snake. But after working eight times, the visitor slowly began to change. For example, she used to have seizures twice a day, but now she has seizures 2-3 times a week. She used to scratch and bite you, but now her attitude has become very good. This is a change in this child diagnosed at the behavioral level.
So what did he see during this period? The snake is bent. The child bent it by herself. She placed it in one direction by herself. She also placed the spider together by herself. The same goes for the centipede. This is called order. She is no longer out of balance. , the arrangement itself has a healing effect.
But this is only a superficial phenomenon. The most incredible thing is that the teenage child has never studied psychology, but she took the initiative (produced this change) in her own way, rather than the therapist taking the initiative.
I have always believed that the real limiting factor lies deep in the heart of the client. If there is a space of freedom and protection, (healing becomes possible). If he is young, of course we also hope to awaken his inner resilience, not just psychological resilience , but also physical resilience.
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