Lawyer Zhou Jiangxiao, has been engaged in financial services for many years, and is familiar with various investment products and methodologies. Now he is engaged in legal services, mainly providing corporate, financial, other civil and criminal and other related business agencies. Everyone is welcome to come for consultation.
The pressure of "expensive"
Liu Qiangdong once recalled that during the financial crisis in 2008, JD.com had problems with its capital chain. If it could not obtain a new round of financing, the company might collapse. During the most difficult days, a strand of hair in front of his forehead turned white overnight. Big Screw sometimes has this kind of pressure. It needs to develop so many new customers every year. The customer reviews of agents are generally good, but how do I get them to recommend me to their friends?
Back to stress management, one word to describe stress is called “expensive”. Why is it called that? According to statistics, in the United States, "regular absenteeism," "absent-mindedness," and "reduced creativity" caused by excessive employee stress will bring staggering productivity losses to companies. The overall loss exceeds 150 billion U.S. dollars every year, which is almost the same. 1% of the US GDP1%.
"ABC principle"
So how do we face pressure? Teacher Fan Deng often talks about a well-known "ABC principle". "A" is the occurrence of the event, "B" is your opinion on the matter, and "C" is the stressful situation caused by it. The most painful thing in the world is that we hope to change "C" by changing "A". For example, a single person thinks it would be great if he finds a girlfriend because he is lonely. But if you really have a girlfriend and worry about losing her all day long, it would be better if you get married. But when I get married, I am overwhelmed by my wife’s control. I just want to have a child to distract my wife. After giving birth to a child, I found that I couldn't sleep at all. It was extremely tiring to raise a child, so I just wanted the child to go to school. Then you have to worry about your children going to college, your children finding a job, your children looking for a wife, and then it's another cycle of stress.
Human desire is the most difficult gap in the world to fill. As long as there is desire, there will be pressure. If you have one million, you want ten million. If you have ten million, you want one hundred million. Your stress will never become less after how much money you make or after you change a certain situation. Therefore, changing "A" actually changes the event itself, and will never change "C", which is the pressure. Of course, there is also a "B". "B" is your opinion on this matter, which is somewhat similar to your world view and values.
So how to interpret this "B"? The Christian "B" says that all of this is God's problem, you can't solve it, it's all God's arrangement. The pressure is also from God, just do your own thing. Why do Buddhists have all the four elements? The understanding of "B" in Buddhism is: everything has cause and effect. Whether what you encounter is good or bad, it has already been decided, and there is nothing to worry about. The Confucian understanding of "B" is: do your best and obey destiny, that is, you should work hard, and let the rest go.
Understand stress management in one sentence
Do your best and obey fate.
If you want to change stress, don't change the event itself, but change how you think about it. Three small ways to adjust stress: First, brainwash yourself: "GTD work method", empty your mind and complete things one by one; second, clean yourself up: throw away what should be thrown away, Delete whatever should be deleted; thirdly, give yourself a holiday: there is always one on the way, body and brain.
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