Zhengzhou Chinese Medical Hall: The essence of education is for one soul to awaken another soul and let her see the light and hope of life. Don't take care of your children because of your own problems. This is not love, this is sadness. First, the more afraid you are of yourself

Zhengzhou Chinese Medical Hall: The essence of education is for one soul to awaken another soul and let her see the light and hope of life. Don't take care of your children because of your own problems. This is not love, this is sadness.

First, the more afraid you are of yourself, the more you want your children to be.

The less anxious you are, the fewer problems your children will have in your eyes. Fear will control you. Small things that you might have tolerated will be magnified on your part and passed on to your children, who will see them as something more serious.

The more scared you are, the more likely you are to hold onto something that makes you feel safe. Children have no judgment of their own; their reactions are based on our reactions and are easily controlled. They are happy when we are happy and sad when we are sad.

So, when we think a child is a problem child, is it true? Would he really be a stunted child without our anxiety, control, or judgment? Contemporary psychological development theory is more inclined to believe that children, like sunflowers, are born with the potential to know what they need and how to develop.

Second, when you are a completely fearless parent, your children can grow up naturally

People expect their children to be wise and capable enough when they grow up. How do children show "enough" intelligence and ability when they grow up? That is, let him grow according to his own nature. If a child grows up like him, his intelligence and abilities will be maximized. On the contrary, if you consciously cultivate or train him, he may have good abilities in some aspects as an adult, but his wisdom will not be fully utilized.

It is not difficult to let a pony gallop freely on the vast grassland. This requires the pony owner to have a fearless heart. Otherwise, he would worry about the pony encountering such dangers and problems on the road. He will worry about what will happen if he lets the pony go like this, what will happen when he grows up, etc.

So, how dare we let your child go? From parents who let their children grow up freely, we can see how parents do it. They let go bit by bit as the child grows. They have a certain grasp of the child's ability, can evaluate the difficulty and danger of the task, can ensure that the child completes the task in a safe state, and they can provide timely support.