The following article comes from Hangzhou Business Hospital Heart Association
Is there such a person around you? The impression is that they are always angry and losing their temper, making people stay away from them. They are like a string of firecrackers, "exploding" at one point, making people around them avoid them. Therefore, it is often difficult to gain friendship with such people in life because everyone is afraid of getting close to them. They fell into the trap of the "Wild Horse Effect".
I want to talk to you today about the "Wild Horse Effect".
There is a kind of vampire bat on the African grassland. It often bites on the legs of wild horses and sucks blood. They rely on sucking the blood of animals to survive. No matter how furious and running wild wild horses are, there is nothing they can do with this "little guy". They can calmly suck their fill and then leave, and many wild horses are tortured to death.
However, zoologists have found that the amount of blood sucked by vampire bats is very small, far from enough to kill wild horses. The cause of wild horses' death is their own rage and running.
For Mustang, vampire bats are just an external challenge and an external cause, and Mustang's violent emotional reaction to this external cause is the most direct cause of its death.
Real example
On the way to work, I was splashed with water by a passing bus, which made me not in the mood for work all day; I had a big quarrel with my colleagues because of some differences in concepts, which affected the day's work; as mentioned above These examples actually fall into the trap of the "Wild Horse Effect".
What are the characteristics of people who are prone to the wild horse effect?
. People who are highly emotional are easily controlled by their emotions. There are some people who are very emotional. No matter what happens to them, big or small, their emotions will become uncontrollable and become "emotions". slaves". Once this happens, work and life will be seriously affected, and even end up in a mess.
. Easily influenced by the outside world , as if one's own emotions are controlled by the outside world. "If the outside world treats me, I will do it." This kind of person is tantamount to handing over the switch of his emotions to others, as if his emotions are not his own.
. Self-centered Usually people who suffer from the "Wild Horse Effect" are "self-centered" to some extent. This group of people only care about themselves when they have been wronged, and ignore the people around them. Spread your own negative emotions to others.
Manage emotions
. Always stay rational and learn to look at problems from a dialectical perspective. When negative emotions are about to explode, learn to give yourself a hand and tell yourself: wait first. Over time, when pausing becomes a habit, you will become calm and avoid the outburst of negative emotions.
. Understand life clearly and learn to let go. Life is a practice, and everyone will encounter misfortune. Since the pain has already happened, why don’t we actively face it and start over, but let ourselves continue to suffer?
. Always maintain a positive, optimistic and open-minded attitude. Suffering is not terrible. What is terrible is that we lose our love for life because of suffering. You must believe that the world is worth it, make yourself open-minded, and face the unsatisfactory situations in life calmly.
4. Establish a correct value. Learn to accept your imperfections and always be hopeful.
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