The most difficult thing for people is to know oneself; knowing oneself is the hardest job for mankind; only when you really know yourself can you know others, can you completely overcome depression, and be able to understand everything. Today, I will share with you: the true source and truth of the negative and pessimistic state of depression.
In theory: "Any behavior of ours has a meaning. We can all benefit from it, because we can benefit from it and continue this behavior."
-----Spiritual psychologist's original mind and inspiration
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The source of depression is to protect yourself from depression h1 p3p 125 The purpose of the various negative and pessimistic thoughts and thoughts of the patient is to avoid adjustment and change; the various negative and pessimistic thoughts and thoughts included in the adjustment and change are also hindering their further adjustment and change. Negative and pessimistic thinking patterns and behaviors are a psychological defense mechanism, the purpose of which is to protect oneself from harm. This protection mechanism is in fact nameless and cannot protect itself at all. 
The purpose of depression patients to hinder their adjustment and change is to avoid failure. They are subconsciously afraid of failure after hard work, and failure after hard work is a huge insult to patients with depression. As the saying goes, it is not very harmful and extremely insulting. In order to avoid the unbearable insult of failure after hard work, they chose to escape, and the best way to escape is a variety of negative and pessimistic mentalities.
It is very important for people with depression to realize this. Failure after hard work is a huge shame for them; if they don’t work hard, they have been in negative and pessimistic thinking and behavior, and ultimately they fail. At least they have an excuse in their subconsciousness: as long as I work hard, I will definitely be able to overcome depression. It's just that I don't work hard.
The most unacceptable thing for them is that they have spent time, money, energy, and effort in exchange for failure. As Gu Cheng said: "Because I am afraid of failure, I dare not take the steps of action; it is also because I have never taken the steps of action, it is doomed to fail forever from the beginning."
Too many patients with depression said to me: "Teacher, if you can promise to cure my depression, I can spend 100,000 yuan; if you can’t guarantee to cure my depression, I’m sorry. , I don’t spend a penny!" What people with depression need to understand is: the psychologist is the guide, and you are the walker. No matter how good the road leads, you still need to go. Even if the psychologist puts you on your shoulders and walks with you, if you don't work hard, you still can't learn to walk. The world has never lacked the right path. What is lacking is people who go on step by step.
When you learn to be responsible for yourself, not afraid of any failures, difficulties, setbacks, and always go forward courageously; especially if you have such a strong confidence With courage, just these courage, confidence, courage, your depression will be half healed.
------Spiritual psychologist's original mind and inspiration
Another source of negative and pessimistic attitudes of depression patients is to obtain the mercy of others in our tradition of 1span1
h 125 In his mind, he is pitiful, pitying the weak and the sick.A person's negative and pessimistic mentality forms depression, and he will get simple and superficial understanding, pity, and compassion from those around him. Depressed patients survived with this little compassion.
As my visitor said: "I like the state of depression. Because, I am depression. I have mentioned to her many times that I want to commit suicide and you should not irritate me. My mother will let me When I lose my temper or worry, she will tolerate me and accept me unconditionally; if I am not depressed, and I am a healthy person, I need to study hard, work hard, and accept her all kinds of things. Accusation, criticism, and reformation of reasons. Depression is much better for me than nothing."
This is pathological psychology. The patient will benefit from the disease and gain the compassion, pity, tolerance, and understanding of others. When the family members of depression patients cannot understand, tolerate, pity, and sympathize with them, they will be very irritable, very uncomfortable, very resistant, and even threaten to commit suicide to force their families to continue to tolerate and sympathize with them unconditionally. Therefore, the family members of depression patients suffer and are very uncomfortable in the process of communicating with depression patients.
Depressed patients have made a good excuse for being immobile because of their negative and pessimistic thinking. They have found a good excuse for avoiding them; they appear in front of their family members in a variety of immobile and unchanging appearances. Out of understanding and respect for the patient, the family is very worried that the patient will commit suicide and become cautious and cautious.
At this time, patients with depression continue their negative and pessimistic thinking and emphasize with their families: Depression is not a joke, I will commit suicide at any time, you must treat me better. This is the psychological phenomenon that depression sufferers subconsciously use depression to seriously harm their physical and mental health in order to obtain a little bit of compassion from others.
The most difficult thing for people is to know themselves.If patients with depression can fully recognize their own problems, boldly change them, face the results that may still fail after hard work, and live with enough courage, strength, and confidence under the blue sky and white clouds, what a joy, Healthy model!
This is tens of millions of times more than your own mode of getting a little bit of pity from your family in extremely negative and pessimistic thinking actions! Why can't we give it a go, open our hearts completely, and live a good life? What's more, time flies like arrows, and time is passing fast. We should act sooner and live a healthy and happy life in a healthy and reasonable way.
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