Recently, an engagement ceremony was held somewhere in Hebei, and the atmosphere was very sweet.
The engagement ceremony is very grand. Relatives and friends of both men and women come to congratulate each other. There are a series of steps such as getting married, getting married, proposing, and having a banquet. The level of grandness is similar to that of a wedding ceremony.
The newcomer had a little incident on the stage. According to local customs, the two newlyweds must complete the handover in the presence of relatives and friends, which means cuddling and getting intimate.
The two newcomers were very shy and staged an embarrassing scene. I saw that the two were clumsy and could not hold each other. The groom didn't know where to put his hands, and the bride didn't know how to cooperate. The people waiting to eat were anxious.
An aunt in red came to the rescue and signaled the two of them to stand opposite, but the groom still didn't know where to put his hands.
The aunt came directly to the stage out of desperation and taught the two how to hug each other step by step. She put the groom's hand on the woman's waist. The bride lowered her head shyly, her posture still very unnatural.
Some netizens also noticed a detail. The groom was about to kiss the bride, but was interrupted by the aunt in red. The two looked at each other and smiled awkwardly. After
's "guidance" was completed, the two newlyweds kissed in public under the cheers of their relatives and friends, which was very sweet.
The most interesting thing is that the host in black clothes holds a microphone in his hand. He wants to say something but has no chance. He just stares at this scene with an awkward smile on his face from time to time.
Many netizens lamented: At first glance, they look like they know each other on a blind date. Only if they are not familiar will they feel shy.
It can be judged from the boy's clumsy movements that the two newcomers are not very familiar with each other. The boy does not even dare to put his hand directly on the girl's body, which shows that the two of them rarely have physical contact.
Compared to boys, girls are more proactive. This is a typical unfamiliar characteristic. Boys are embarrassed to make direct physical contact with a woman before getting a clear signal to avoid offending her.
side note, this is a well-educated boy, at least not a scumbag. It seems that he rarely has contact with girls, so he is more cautious, and he doesn't even know how to hug. In this fast-paced era, such clumsy love seems very precious.
As for looks, some netizens said that boys are not good enough for girls, so there’s no need to worry about it. Carrots Vegetables each have their own preferences. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. In the eyes of girls, maybe the man is a handsome guy!
The aunt in red dress who taught them how to hug each other was probably their matchmaker.
Blind dates are common in rural areas and are clearly different from blind dates in urban areas. One characteristic of blind dates in rural areas is that both parties know each other well. The matchmaker usually knows both parties and knows their family details.
is such a big place in total, everyone meets without looking up, and the matchmaker is an acquaintance of both parties, so the matchmaker is responsible for both families and will not introduce unreliable people.
In this case, even if the man and woman are not familiar with each other, as long as they do not exclude each other and are willing to continue developing, they can basically be inseparable until they get married.
An engagement before the wedding is not only a reassurance for the couple's relatives and friends, but also a "thank you" to the matchmaker. As long as you get engaged, the matchmaker's work is completed, and the next step is for the parties to go on their own. At this time, you need to give a certain amount of thanks to the matchmaker.
Some netizens also focused on the engagement ceremony: Is it necessary for the engagement ceremony to be so grand? It's almost time for the wedding!
Customs and habits vary in different regions, and different families have different attitudes toward engagement. In some areas of Hebei, engagement ceremonies are indeed valued, but this is not the case in all areas. It should be done according to the family conditions of the couple.
For families who are wealthy and value rituals, ceremonies such as betrothal gifts, engagements, and marriages are more grand. For girls, it is probably only once in a lifetime, and they attach great importance to the sense of ritual.
Engagement is just the first step. As far as the newlyweds are concerned, they have never even hugged each other. It seems that they have not been together for a long time. The engagement ceremony is equivalent to establishing a love relationship, which can deepen the communication between the two, lay a solid foundation for marriage, and also promote the marriage process.
If you are a rich friend and have many friends, you may be able to receive certain gifts, which can also be regarded as a channel to increase additional income.
Having such a grand engagement ceremony is not without its drawbacks.
Engagement is a folk custom in some areas of our country. It is governed by the ancient " Marriage Law ". Marriage usually requires complicated procedures to reflect the legitimacy of the marriage. Generally, it is the parents' orders, the matchmaker's advice, the conclusion of a marriage contract, the exchange of gifts, and the wedding of the bride in a sedan chair.
Now with the Marriage Law, engagement has become an optional procedure and does not affect the legality of the marriage. In other words, an engagement is a consensual pre-nuptial process.
If the engagement is too grand and all the relatives and friends of the couple witness the process, it is actually equivalent to locking the relationship between the two parties. From the ceremony, the two parties are recognized as husband and wife, which invisibly creates a kind of pressure.
If there is a rift between the two in the process of getting along in the future and they cannot be together for some reason, then the engagement ceremony will become a psychological pressure for both parties, not only consuming money, but also consuming their minds.
Therefore, you need to be cautious when getting engaged unless it is absolutely necessary. It is best not to make the engagement too grand to avoid being slapped in the face.
Because of the incident that occurred during the engagement, the bride accidentally became popular. A large number of people flooded her personal social account, all teasing her for not being able to hug.
looked through his past works and found that there is a big difference between the bride’s real appearance and her appearance under the filter, and the difference in style is even greater. During the engagement ceremony, the young lady was shy, gentle, well-behaved and smart. The young lady on the Internet has a bit of an internet celebrity style and is full of royal sister style.
Netizens ridiculed that she does not look like a person who cannot hug; some netizens said that she is submissive in real life and aggressive on the Internet; some netizens later added that she should be submissive when she is in her hometown and chic outside. . Miss
did not respond to these sensitive questions, but thanked the netizens who wished them happiness one by one. This can be regarded as a side response!
Falling in love is a matter between two people, just like when people drink water, they know whether they are warm or cold; marriage is a matter between two families. Outsiders only see a happy scene and cannot understand the sadness.
Take the issue of betrothal gifts, for example. In Hebei, the betrothal gifts range from 100,000 to 200,000. Of course, not all families require betrothal gifts. This is just the number summarized by most people. According to this number of betrothal gifts, those who can afford to get married are the best.
