Ancient people said: "A family that accumulates good will have good fortune, and a family that accumulates bad will have good fortune."
Families that accumulate virtue and do good will have deep blessings, and their descendants will not be much worse; families that have no virtue will generally have shallow blessings, and their descendants will be relatively poor.
A person's destiny is not only related to his own abilities and talents, but also closely related to his family.
Why are there such a big gap between the descendants of aristocratic families and the descendants of nouveau riche families?
The blessings of the former are accumulated from generation to generation. In other words, these aristocratic families not only have a long-term foundation, but also have long-term concepts and principles. The family system has been relatively complete.
The latter's blessings accumulate too quickly, and it is easy to have "coming in a hurry and leaving in a hurry". nouveau riche families accumulate money in a short period of time, but these families do not have correct views and principles, and they will lose sooner or later.
, let’s see what grandchildren these two families have raised. The former cultivates children and grandchildren with positive concepts and self-reliance, while the latter cultivates children and grandchildren with extravagance and debauchery. This is the gap.
A family with good fortune will be "better than others" in these three places, and future generations are generally not simple.
1. Fuhou Home has an atmosphere of "correct three views".
The atmosphere of a family is the foundation of a family. To put it more exaggeratedly, these backgrounds are the "soul" of the family. Whether a family has spiritual energy determines what kind of children and grandchildren it can cultivate.
There is a family at the entrance of the village. The parents like to "quarrel". They scolded each other all day long, and the family couldn't be quiet at all. When their children grow up, they are also irritable people and often yell at the people around them.
Nowadays, the relationship between this family is getting worse and worse. The children even go against their parents, ignoring their parents' lives and death, so that the whole family lives in anxiety and hatred.
There is a saying that is very realistic: those who are close to red are red, and those who are close to ink are black. The kind of parents and the kind of family atmosphere there are, the kind of children and grandchildren there will be.
Family is not only a place for people to live, but also a cradle for cultivating people. Schools outside can only cultivate people's learning ability. And this school of family will teach you how to be a human being.
So, if we want future generations to be excellent, we must first create a good family atmosphere. Otherwise, unfilial sons will still give birth to unfilial sons, which will become an unchangeable vicious cycle.
2. Fortune and Fortune, everyone has a "one heart".
The so-called "A person's heart is united, and his family is like Mount Tai , and he cannot be damaged even if he is stormy; if he is lost, his family is like loose sand, and even if he is small wind and small waves cannot be stopped."
The family that people's hearts are condensed is like a solid fortress, and no one can break it unless his relatives fight in their nests. Once the human hearts disappear and are not condensed enough, the family will be like loose sand and blessings will gradually be lost.
Many people think that as long as I am strong, why do I still have to be on the same mind as my family?
has a very realistic truth: a person is strong, but it cannot change the tendency of a family to decline; the whole family is strong together, and everything can be easily solved.
is like helping parents to support their elderly care. If you three brothers work together to support their elderly care, then your elderly care pressure will be shared and your personal pressure will be smaller.
On the contrary, you are reluctant and still beat the ball everywhere. In the end, the conflict between parents and children emerged, and the brothers disliked each other, and the whole family was separated.How can a family prosper like this?
3. Fuhou Home has the concept of "self-reliance".
In your opinion, is money important for the family, or is the concept of "self-reliance" important for the family?
Regarding this, Zhuangzi said: "It means that the fire is poor, and the fire is transmitted, and I don't know how it is exhausted."
The wood will eventually burn out on the day, and only the fire can be passed on. "Wood" itself is not the most important thing, but the most important thing should be "tinder".
For a family, Money is "wood", and the concept of self-reliance is "fire".
No matter how much money it is, it will be squandered by the descendants' children and grandchildren, and the efforts of the predecessors will be wasted. Children and grandchildren with the concept of self-reliance can make more money, and the efforts of their predecessors will appear more valuable.
The so-called "It is better to teach people how to fish than to teach people how to fish." Letting children and grandchildren have the ability and spirit to survive is much more important than letting children and grandchildren have the money and material things to survive.
open source is the fundamental. Reduce money, that's a story later.
to the end
The education of modern people gradually tends to be material rather than paying attention to atmosphere and spirit. This is a big misunderstanding.
Sometimes, the invisible part is actually more important than the visible part. is like the spirit of self-reliance, and assets and material things mentioned above. That must be the spirit of self-reliance.
As elders, we still need to have a long-term vision. If we only think about money, then "wealth is not rich for three generations" will eventually become a reality, and "wealth is not not poor for three generations" will appear frequently.
Only by maintaining the family development strategy of "stable progress" and moving slowly, will children and grandchildren and family get better and better, and will not decline in the middle way, or "everything will turn back to the extreme".
text/Shushan Youlu
