Many people always want to do addition, they want to learn many skills, many goals, and many family affairs...
don’t know that in fact, doing subtraction is the best way to help me live efficiently and reduce anxiety!
1. Reducing the number of planned targets
Too many goals will only distract your attention and energy. Under the premise that "willpower" is already limited, 10 things, each thing distracts 1 point of attention, and the result is that everything is not done well. The negative feedback of "can't do it well" will directly affect your status.
This is also the reason why most people get frustrated from time to time. If you have too many things (goals), everything will be slow and you will be even more annoying. If you have too much pressure, you will be unable to breathe.
2. Reduce the types of information to be obtained
people are prone to fall into the "growth illusion" when they obtain a large number of different types and brand new information. feels that every one is full of practical information, but the result is that I can’t even remember a common sense popular science I read a few days ago. A large amount of different types of information is difficult to connect with one's original knowledge system, thereby forming memories, and when rarely used, these memories will be lost very quickly. It's meaningless and a waste of time.
So if you want to learn, you can get more knowledge in one or two fields to reduce interference from other information.
3. Reduce the time to think about small things in life
What clothes to wear tomorrow, what to buy, what to cook, what time to wash clothes, what time to take a shower, and wash dishes later...'In my opinion, these thoughts are too exhausting and often delaying things.
reduces the efficiency of doing things and the utilization rate of time, and easily forms a "procrastination, hesitation, and even weak character", because the habit of repeated hesitation will erode your action and courage.
obviously has many solutions:
clothes are hesitant, then you can directly unify the style. As long as it is not ugly, there is nothing to be embarrassing.
hesitate to eat, then write down the food you like and take turns.
When is the time to wash clothes, bath and dishes? Isn’t it a solution if I do it now?
attaches more importance to clothing? Then remember the combination and take turns to wear it. Don’t hesitate...
4. Reduce the "cost" of wanting to do something
. Below are common, self-made "obstruction".
① Strategy type obstacle: If you want to learn to shoot videos, you must first read a lot of strategies; if you want to run, you must first read a lot of ignition videos and strategies; if you want to read a book, you must read a lot of book recommendations...
② Ritual type obstacle: If you want to study and work on Saturdays and Sundays, you must organize your desktop, place your computer, look in a mirror, post a circle of friends, and read the copy of the circle of friends...
③ Equipment type obstacle: If you want to run, you must carefully choose shoes; if you want to learn shooting, you must carefully choose equipment; if you want to learn English, you must carefully choose textbooks, courses, and software...
Read less strategies and practical information, read less auxiliary tools, act first, and find problems when encountering problems.
One thing you will encounter n+1 problems, all you need to do is start with 1.
amplifies the number of problems, which will create psychological obstacles and be discouraged when you look at Mount Tai;
reduces the number of problems, overlooks all the mountains, walking like flat ground, just a little far away.
5. Reduce long-term thinking
I think people today, especially young people. There is really no shortage of long-term vision, and we can distinguish what abilities will have good development in the future. What is lacking is focusing on the current life, daily life, and daily actions.
The so-called long-term thinking of most people: I want to... (omit 100 words)... basically not achieved much, right?
focuses more on short-term things: I have to complete this month...; there are several important things that must be done this week; today I have to...
people's value is like fruits and has its seasons.
——La Roche Fuke
Don’t lose yourself in blind comparison, and don’t stop moving forward in unnecessary anxiety. Everyone has their own season of blossoming and fruiting, and will usher in the highlight moments of life value and gain their own "result season".
Far from long-term things, very empty, and many changes;
All we can master is the present.
reduces unnecessary energy consumption in order to maintain a high energy level to do what you really want to do.
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The epidemic has been difficult in the past few years, and China is now an era of surge in labor force competitiveness, which is destined to be difficult.
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