In the relationship between the two genders, many women are worried about whether men like themselves. They simply divide emotional relationships into two types: love and not love. Being good to her means loving, and being bad to her means not loving.
This too absolute black and white view of love often causes women to misjudgment about emotions. They cannot tell what is like and what is true love.
In fact, like and deep love are two completely different reactions in a man’s heart. Like can be very impulsive, but love can be very calm. Sometimes a man’s like comes purely from the natural attraction between the opposite sex. Like can be effortless, but love must require action.
The Power of Deep Love
In the Thai drama "Friendship Above", the heroine and the hero maintained a 10-year friendship, because the heroine once said to the hero, "Being friends means not having to worry about the other party, not having possessiveness, not quarrels, not thinking randomly, and most importantly, friends will not break up."
So the hero never told the other party what he wanted, but in each of his ten years, the hero will always respond to the heroine's request, and even the reason for each girlfriend's breakup is because the other party thinks the hero cares too much about the heroine.
The heroine didn't bring paper when going to the bathroom. The hero took off his brand short sleeves and gave it to her. The heroine suspected that her boyfriend cheated on her. He accompanied her to cross the entire Southeast Asia to investigate because the heroine said "I want to see you" and left everything to find her without saying a word...
The hero's love for the heroine in the play made him willingly give. When he fell in love with someone, the center of the world became the other person.
Men’s true love can change themselves, and the power of love is often greater than we imagined.
And men's liking seems much easier. Just a casual saying I love you, proper care makes women mistakenly think that it is love, but often ignore the love that silently gives, which is actually far away and close to you.
Love is action, not fantasy
In the TV series " Ode to Joy ", Andy is a returnee girl with high IQ and high IQ, and strong work ability. She is an independent woman in the new era.
There are two suitors around Andy, one is the singularity of extraordinary IQ, and the other is the humorous and witty Bao Yifan , but in the end Andy's choice is the elegant and humorous little Bao.
Although Singularity also loves Andy and is willing to show off all his family background to make the beauty smile, it seems too natural to take it for granted in the management and handling of love.
Andy has always had some psychological problems because of his unfortunate childhood experience. Singularity always emphasizes repeatedly, "You have to be cured, I can accompany you", but Xiaobao Zhong says, "If you love someone, don't care about these."
small bag is always sunny and always makes Andy happy through his own actions, while Singularity always likes to preach and tells a lot of big principles.
When Andy decorated her new home, Singularity and Xiaobao always said that her furniture was not suitable, making the home too deserted, but Xiaobao also bought new furniture without saying a word, turning words into reality.
Shelley once said: Love is the action of will, not the impulse of lust. When a man likes someone, he says more and does less. Men say less when they love someone deeply.
Like is exchange, love is unconditional
People often say that the feelings between men and women are exchanges of values, and they all take their own needs. Although it is reasonable, it is not entirely true. Sometimes true deep love is willing to give unconditionally.
The reason why love is great is that those who truly love deeply have a spirit of dedication. It is precisely because of the unmaterial and demanding response that makes true love appear so precious.
In the TV series " Beijing Love Story ", Wu Di and Yang Zixi have been boyfriend and girlfriend for many years, but because Wu Di accomplished nothing, Yang Zixi finally chose to give up this relationship and turned into a gold-worshiping woman, and became a wealthy man. Their final love could only come to an abrupt end.
Yang Zixi is with the rich second generation, which completely changes her life. She has endless clothes and endless shoes to try. The rich second generation also opened a flower shop she had dreamed of...
But behind Yang Zixi's seemingly happy, all the "deals" are hidden. The rich second generation boyfriend often loses his temper at her and drinks. When Yang Zixi is uncomfortable, he is asked to drink.
The rich second generation likes her, just likes her beauty, and thinks she can show off, but has never loved her. However, Wu Di is still willing to protect her silently in the face of Yang Zixi's letting go.
He bought a diamond ring for her and arranged a proposal. When he saw her being bullied, he still loved her unconditionally even when Yang Zixi had already given up this relationship.
For men, liking is an exchange. The beautiful qualities he dedicates to you must require your equivalent feedback or your attraction, but deep love is an unconditional dedication and dedication.
Because I love each other deeply, I can give up the desires and selfishness of human nature, just as NetEase Cloud wrote in a hot comment: I love you, it has nothing to do with you.
Love is a responsibility
American psychologist Thomas Rikaun once said: In interpersonal relationships, true intimacy refers to understanding others. Only when a man truly loves someone can he be willing to spend energy to understand the other person.
The extramarital affair between Xu Huanshan and Lin Youyou in the popular TV series " Thirty" some time ago made many netizens feel angry, and Xu Huanshan was disapproving because of his wife's disapproval of him.
Facing Lin Youyou, a graduate who seemed ignorant and infinitely admired himself, ignited a flame of love, because he found a superiority that he had never felt in his marriage there.
When the story broke out, Xu Huanshan chose to pray for his wife's forgiveness, and showed unprecedented determination to Lin Youyou's pervert.
Perhaps for Lin Youyou , Xu Huanshan is her lover, the man who gives her all her longings, but for Xu Huanshan, she is just a sustenance for her emotional and ideological deviation, and she just happened to meet her.
If Xu Huanshan truly loves Lin Youyou, he would not ignore her after the matter was exposed. If Lin Youyou, he would not only make promises but no action to her.
If he truly loves Lin Youyou, perhaps he will not be the third party that everyone scolds, but will choose a more correct way to deal with each other's relationship.
A man’s deep love must be based on understanding. This understanding is a kind of desperation to simply consider the other person, rather than satisfying his own selfish desires.
Really loving someone requires courage and ability, and you must also bear the responsibility and risks of love. Facing your lover requires action rather than verbal skills. For men, liking and deep love are actually completely different existences.
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