After the reform and opening up, the social economy developed rapidly, the Western concept of freedom rushed into the country and continued to integrate with Eastern ideas. People's concepts gradually open up, their self-consciousness gradually rises, and the imprisoned souls are gradually liberated from feudal autocracy, forming free personalities one by one.
Especially the concept of marriage and childbirth, young people are no longer detained in marriages arranged by feudal families. Free love has become the mainstream of marriage and love in today's society. The concept of freedom changes not only marriage, but divorce also becomes common. More and more women are reluctant to be bound to unfortunate marriages, and the divorce rate has risen year by year in recent years. High divorce rates have become a serious social problem in today's era. In addition, a survey by authoritative state agencies showed that 70% of divorces were filed by women.
Chinese women have been bound in feudal society for thousands of years. Confucianism despise women and advocates the patriarchal idea of "men are superior to women" and "husband is the leader of wife". He believes that "women follow others, they follow their father and brother in their young age, and when they marry, they follow their husbands, and when their husbands die, they follow their sons." Some works in feudal society, "The Biography of the Strong Women" and "The Ring of the Women" became the pioneers of imprisoning women's ideas. Feudal men even include some feudal women who believe that women cannot have their own independent concept. They have been instilled with since childhood that "women have no talent, virtue", and they are just subordinates of men, and they can only accept it and swallow their anger. They didn't go out of the door and could only do housework at home and serve their husbands, parents-in-law and children. After thousands of years of practice and interpretation, this concept has penetrated into the blood of Chinese women, and can be seen everywhere even in today's free thoughts.
The founding of New China not only drove away foreign invaders, but also brought about the liberation of women's thoughts such as "women can stand half the sky". Especially after the reform and opening up, with the development of the economy, modern women have become more and more independent and self-reliant. With the openness of concepts, the development of the economy, and the popularization of compulsory education, women have gone out of their families, started to study and find employment, and began to face the vast world to find their own value and show their own style.
Women are beginning to wake up.
Modern women are economically independent, breaking the tradition of supporting their families by men. Women have also become the pillars of the family's financial expenses. They can earn money to support their families with their own labor income, and be as beautiful as flowers. They form their own unique views on things and express independent opinions on matters of big or small in their families. This is the main reason why modern women can marry independently.
Economic independence and ideological independence have created the personality of modern women who are "not going to settle down". They do not want to be regarded as men's subordinates like their ancestors. They began to pursue the quality of their marriage and began to care about their inner feelings when they were together. When a marriage fails, they no longer want to be wronged and are no longer willing to tie themselves to a failed marriage.
In the old days, divorce was an extremely humiliating thing for women and their original families. If a woman wants to get a divorce, her family will be the first to stand up and stop her. Some women choose to settle in a painful marriage for their children. It is often believed that a perfect family is very important for the growth of children. A perfect family can indeed create children with good social intimacy. But an unhappy marriage and a frequent quarrels in the family environment may cause greater harm to the child. What's more, women are independent people and have independent personalities, and no one should be born to sacrifice for anyone. After the divorce, as long as both parties handle it properly, the children can still live a happy life.
The reason why women in the old era was difficult to divorce was mainly because the return to their original family after divorce would cause financial and reputation burdens on their original family. In modern society, women are economically independent and will not bring economic pressure to their original families. The relaxed ideological environment also allows people around them to be calm about women's divorce.
Survey and research found that women who are willing to remarry after divorce are far smaller than women who are unwilling to remarry. Most women are emotional and often do their best to treat marriage. So once the marriage fails, it will make women feel exhausted and dare not love or want to love. Whether they dare not love or protect their children, most women are unwilling to have another relationship that can torture each other.Since you have left the besieged city, why bother to rush in? "The world is as dark as crows." You can earn money by yourself and drive a car by yourself, why do you still have to remarry? A person's life is still wonderful.
Finally, end today's topic with a famous saying -
A failed marriage is a tragedy; ending a tragedy is equivalent to starting a comedy. --Qiong Yao
