Marriage has a great influence on women. Some women work hard and search for love in the first half of their lives, so that they can find a good man who can rely on themselves. Two people can join hands for a lifetime.
But whether a marriage can be happy or not is not entirely determined by the person you marry. As Lu Qi said: "When you get married, you are not married to a certain person, but to all the social relationships of that person. So you marry What kind of marriage will be given to a family."
In marriage, there are many factors that affect the relationship and the quality of marriage. Among them, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is one of the important factors that affect the relationship between husband and wife, and it is also a lot of marriage. Emotional killer". If in marriage, the mother-in-law is too prejudiced against the daughter-in-law, and the person married is a mother-in-law, then the life after marriage will definitely be difficult for a woman, and her heart will be chilled at that time, and she will give up on marriage.
Mentioned "Ma Baonan", many people can think of him being considerate of his mother and accommodating his mother's eccentric appearance. Ma Baonan does have many shortcomings, but not every woman can understand his mother rationally Bao Nan's shortcomings, although some mom Bao Nan is partial in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he has a good attitude towards women in daily life.
Miao Ying’s ex-husband, Sun Zhe, is a proper mom, and their marriage is very unfortunate.
The two met at university. At that time, the young and frivolous feelings were vigorous, and the two of them fell in love with me, especially Miao Ying.
Sun Zhe looks handsome and is very considerate to her. He often helped her occupy a seat when she was in college, and secretly boiled brown sugar water for her in the dormitory during her menstrual period. After graduation, Miao Ying's job was unstable, and it was also the job Sun Zhe helped to introduce. At that time, Miao Ying only saw Sun Zhe's various caring for her, but ignored Sun Zhe's mommy treasures.
Women tend to take love very seriously, and love hurts women's hearts.
When they wanted to get engaged, they were blocked by their mother-in-law. The mother-in-law disliked Miao Ying's instability and gentleness, and spurred her on all kinds of things. In the end, if Sun Zhe insisted, Miao Ying lowered the bride price and followed Arrange the wedding as my mother-in-law said,Miao Ying is afraid it will be difficult to marry.
When she got engaged, Miao Ying’s mother had some worries. She felt that Sun Zhe obeyed her mother’s words. Sun Zhe’s mother was strong and feared that her daughter would suffer in the future, but Miao Ying said nonchalantly: "Mom, you think too much. Anyway, I am also Sun Zhe’s wife. Even if she doesn’t like me, Sun Zhe can’t see me at a loss. Moreover, after marriage, we don’t live with my mother-in-law, but we are together during the Chinese New Year. Contradiction, it's okay."
My parents couldn't help Miao Ying, so they could only agree to their marriage. After their marriage, their marriage room was far away from her mother-in-law, so Miao Ying did not suffer from the conflict between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Until the death of her father-in-law due to illness, her mother-in-law moved to live with them, and Miao Ying's life fulfilled her mother's worry.
After the death of her father-in-law, her mother-in-law put her thoughts on Sun Zhe and paid special attention to Sun Zhe. Whenever there was a little unsatisfactory place, she would complain that Miao Ying was not well taken care of. For example, when both of them went to work, Miao Ying morning Too early to get up to cook, the two went out to buy and eat. The mother-in-law was very displeased when she saw it. She disliked the unhygienic breakfasts sold outside, and kept saying that the wife Miao Ying was incompetent, and she couldn't even do things like breakfast.
In addition to picking up on these daily little things, her mother-in-law also felt that Miao Ying's cooking skills were not good, the rice was not delicious, the work was not good, and the sanitation was not in place. Miao Ying did everything because her mother was an elder. It is possible to avoid direct conflicts with her mother-in-law. Miao Yingquan did not hear the words specifically said to her, but because of her indifferent attitude, her mother-in-law's dissatisfaction with her was more aroused.
The mother-in-law’s attitude towards her is not good. Sun Zhe can see it, but he doesn’t say anything. Miao Ying complained to him, and Sun Zhe left her a sentence: "You said my dad is gone. I can’t blow my mother away. She’s my mother, she’s an elder after all. You just have to bear it a little bit. Don’t be so careful.”
That day, Miao Ying finally took off a class to make up for sleep at home. It was three poles in the day. When I went to the living room to drink water, I saw my mother-in-law sitting in the living room watching TV with a displeased expression. Before she could speak, the mother-in-law said, "You said that this young man is like this now, and he must be an old man. Come and serve, I am so old, and I still have to serve you two, both for cooking and cleaning,Tired every day. "_P1p
Unwilling to listen to her mother-in-law's nagging, Miao Ying took the initiative to do sanitation. She thought about mopping the floor. When the mop was just mopped, her mother-in-law picked up the melon seeds and ate them one by one. All of them fell on the ground without permission.
The rubbish that Miao Ying had just cleaned up, and the ground that had been dragged was soiled by her mother-in-law, so she told her mother-in-law to put her on the table, she would clean it up later, who knows But the mother-in-law said: "Just these two melon seed skins are not the same where they are thrown. Will you not clean them again after I eat them? Anyway, your drag is not clean, there are still hair there, and there are oil stains and dust in the corners, look. _P1p
Miao Ying glanced at the floor and didn’t speak any more. She ran to the bathroom, rinsed it again, and mopped the floor. Just when she was about to drag it again with a dry mop, her mother-in-law got up and her shoes were too slippery and dropped. , This makes the mother-in-law angry: "Did you say you did it on purpose? If I made the ground so slippery, I didn't just say a few words to you, it's really unfilial! "_P1p
Miao Ying explained that her mother-in-law was still scolding her when she was angry. Miao Ying went back to the room and didn't come back until dinner at night. I thought it was not a big deal, no Thinking of her mother-in-law suing Sun Zhe, saying bad things about Miao Ying, saying that Miao Ying had no education, did not respect her elders, and "murdered" her.
Miao Ying couldn't listen anymore, so she explained it in front of Sun Zhe. In this matter, I originally thought that Sun Zhe would be on her side, but she didn’t expect her to say: "Don’t say anything, no matter how you say you are a junior, what my mother is saying, she can’t blame you, why are you? Now that you are so insufficient, there is an old family like a treasure, how can you dislike my mother? If you have an opinion, you can't hurt her! _P1p
After listening to Sun Zhe's words, her mother-in-law looked at her triumphantly. Miao Ying felt unreasonable and went back to her natal family. This wave was not flat, and one wave rose again. Because the money at home was in charge of Miao Ying Miao Ying often buys express delivery on weekdays, and sometimes she buys something for her natal family. When her mother-in-law sees it, she acts as a demon again and wants to take care of their money.
Her mother-in-law’s mouth means that Miao Ying spends money and cannot save money. It costs a lot for the child to save money. Miao Ying feels that her mother-in-law’s hand stretched too long, and Sun Zhe would not agree, but Sun Zhe really agreed and said, "My mother too For the good of both of us, if you think about how much money you spend, let's listen to my mother! _P1p
Miao Ying heard Sun Zhe say so,I said directly: "Okay, listen to your mother, let's divorce, your mother is so precious to you, I really can't stand it, you can just live with your mother for a lifetime."
Miao Ying's words are not just for fun. This time she took the luggage and went back to her parents' house, but she didn't plan to come back again. She could be regarded as seeing the true face of "Mum Bao Nan". While she is still young, divorce is her best choice.
In real life, there are always some girls who will be dazzled by love. They are desperate for love and do not care about the gains and losses in marriage. It is not that moms should not marry, but sometimes girls must be careful After all, love is not the same as marriage. When you get married, you are not married to a person, but a family.
Out of consideration for their own future, girls should still carefully observe before choosing a marriage partner. Mother-in-law’s attitude towards herself and the character of a man is not a good thing because a mother-in-law is too strong and a man is too precious. Therefore, before getting married, women should keep their eyes open to see clearly, recognize the character of the man and the character of the mother-in-law, so as not to always suffer a loss in the future.
Moreover, if a man can't do a good job in a marriage, he just blindly favors his mother, no matter what kind of contradiction occurs, a man respects his elders and his mother-in-law is the greatest, then this Marriage is also mostly unfortunate.
Uncle Su said: I have seen too many families where the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has a sensible husband. Instead of shouting "she's my mother", he asked his wife to compromise; he didn't stand idly by, letting two people go to war. Most of the problems of marriage are human problems in the final analysis.
The misfortune of a marriage is not caused by one person. Most marriages that end because of "contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law" are the inaction of men.
So I also advise men in marriage to not be too foolish and filial. Marriage is a matter of two people. Contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not a problem for one person. If you are always partial to your mother, you will chill your wife. Heart, then my marriage cannot be kept.
Moreover, as a husband and son, with two roles, you should assume the responsibilities of the two roles, instead of just favoring one of them. Don’t ruin your love and miss out because of filial piety. A lover worth cherishing.
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There is a husband of Ma Baonan, how bad will your marriage be?
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