Mr. Qian Zhongshu once said that marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to go in, people in the city want to come out.
People who are not married are eager to find the other half of their lives and look forward to a marriage with their lover. People who are married but unhappy want to escape the shackles of marriage.
How does a fifty-year-old woman feel after choosing a divorce? After listening to what people have said, I hope everyone can think more about marriage.
01, Ms. Yang
has been married for thirty years, I think I never have a happy day. From the moment I married him, I was like their free nanny, washing and cooking for him and taking care of the children.
I got postpartum depression because of having a baby. During that time, I was very depressed, but he always felt that I was groaning without illness.
He never knew how to be considerate of my difficulties. He never cared about me when I was most helpless and depressed.
How many times have I wanted to leave him, but I have endured it for the sake of my children. Until now, I can finally not live with me.
really want to leave no one to stop. That's how I came here. It feels so cool after leaving, and the air is sweet every day!
02, Ms. Li
When I fell in love, I felt that love is the most romantic thing in the world. The moment I decided to marry him, I was more or less impulsive. After I got married, I realized that the best is not necessarily suitable, and the best is the best.
My ex-husband and I are people with extremely inappropriate personalities, and we are both stubborn and unwilling to change for each other, and we barely live together.
has been together for so many years, but we rarely meet each other. He didn't like to tell me anything, and gradually I didn't bother to tell him. Even though there are grievances in each other's hearts, but no one wants to speak first, just keep consuming.
Sometimes I talk to him, and I talk for four or five minutes by myself, and if people don’t breathe, I just ask him, can’t you answer after I said it for a long time? They slammed me directly, did you let me answer?
At that moment, I thought I was really a fool.
I am nearly 50 years old, although I am not good at cooking, but still resolutely divorced. Now I feel very relaxed, especially mentally.
The two of us often couldn't talk together. We spent more than 20 years in a daze, and felt that the future was meaningless. If we don't get divorced, it will only be painful for the two.
03, Ms. Zhou,
, the first divorce was when we had a lot of quarrels. He was a person who likes to think about things, and when he is old, he retires and is more nosy. When children have children, I have to go out and play. To manage. There is a bag of rice and a pot of oil missing at home, and he has to talk endlessly and ask questions about everything.
I think he may be too idle, so I recommend him to participate in some community activities. But he misunderstood me and disliked him and was angry for a long time. I have to take him with me in everything, but he always likes to pick and prick, and this is not good for a while, and that is not for a while.
I feel like I'm tied up. I haven't seen a man doing more things than him. I divorced him out of anger. When the divorce first started, I was very happy and felt much calmer. After a long time, a person feels bored. I began to miss the dull life of two people, and I felt tired after a few days alone.
But I don't know whether to reconcile with him. My daughter told me that he also intends to reconcile. After 30 years of failed marriage, I don’t know if I have the courage to continue with him. If two people are together or arguing every day, it is very tiring. I still want to think about it for a while.
marriage must be managed carefully, and divorce is also a helpless move.
If you have not become a better version of yourself in your marriage, but have been exhausted by the marriage, and there are only bitter tears when you look back, then this marriage is not worthy of your memory.
It's better to leave unrestrainedly, don't go against your original intention, and live your life bravely.
But if your significant other still loves you, the contradiction between you is not irreconcilable, then why are you unwilling to give each other another chance to re-examine each other's strengths and weaknesses.
Don’t lose this plain happiness because of the momentary mood, give upThis person who cherishes you. Stumbles are inevitable in marriage. Only by learning to understand and tolerate can marriage last longer.
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