people reach middle age, there are too many things to worry about. When it's time to go to bed, I still feel that the day's things have not been completed. It would be nice if I had more time.
is "entangled in mundane tasks", so physical fatigue is naturally unnecessary, and the heart gets tired. I don't know when such days will end.
If you want to unburden yourself, you must learn to clear the past, start from the present, and go lightly, so that every tomorrow will be less sad and more happy.
Clear the past, learn to say "goodbye" to people who don't contact often
In winter, there is warm sunshine, and the mood is bright.
The small office in the same village moved to a new home and invited me to have a wedding wine. After hesitating, I decided to go.
We have not seen each other for more than ten years, and we are a little worried about how to find his home.
along the route in memory, casually asked the old man who was basking at the door of the house, and soon found a new house with a small hair. Sure enough, at the foot of the familiar mountain, a brand-new three-story building had bright and clean windows, and there were already many guests sitting around the table in the yard, waiting for dinner.
greeted the guests enthusiastically and caught a glimpse of me. We greeted and hugged. At that moment, it seemed that we were back when we were young. On the
dining table, almost all of us are from elementary school and junior high school students, but most of them are no longer known. The years of
have not only changed everyone's appearance, but also distanced each other. Different occupations and different experiences have caused everyone to fall into a situation where there is nothing to say except after recalling the common reading experience.
And many of these people are friends who played the best in the past.
The person who doesn't contact often, staying in the memory is a good thing and an expectation. But contact again, just as the long-awaited mystery is revealed, all hypotheses are denied, because the answer is unexpected.
people have accumulated too many such past events in their hearts when they reach middle age. I always feel that some people are worried and longing for a lifetime, and always hope that they will have the opportunity to continue walking together, but the reality tells us that everything can't go back. No one can accompany us through life after another. We are always meeting and saying goodbye, even if we haven’t realized it, sometimes saying "goodbye" is really "never again". not see".
Friendship is like this, family affection is like this, and so is love. Those who are getting away from us, let them have a fixed frame in their memory. If there is no contact for a long time, then never contact again. Seeing each other again is more speechless and embarrassing than joy.
Learn to say goodbye to them, not to forget, but to continue to set out with the love and touch they gave us. Perhaps, in a certain scene, at a certain moment, we will still remember all the good things we have had, and there will be warm waves in our hearts, that's enough.
Clear the past, learn to be less condemned and criticized for the previous self.
writer Sanmao said: "When we were 30, we were sad and 20 years old and no longer came back; when we were fifty, how wonderful it was to miss our 30th birthday."
grew up, we are all for Live the way you want and work hard. When I was young, I grew up listening to the nagging of my parents. After growing up, it was transformed under the pressure of fierce competition. There always seems to be a long, long distance between ideal and reality. Even if you have worked hard, it is always a little bit worse.
As a result, we become unhappy and suffer from gains and losses everywhere.
So, some people habitually blame themselves and complain about the past.
Everyone knows that any decision you have ever made, like now, has been carefully considered, and it was the choice you most wanted at that time. Z1z
blindly deny oneself, it will only make oneself more confused. For everything in the moment, I am even more uncertain about what to do so that I will not disappoint myself in the future. This approach of
is probably what people often call "mediocrity".
People in middle age must learn to be free and easy, not to think about the past, and not to fear the future. Wrong or wrong, the big deal will start over; if you love, you will love, even if you are accused.
No one is perfect, this life, We are always making mistakes again and again, summing up our experience, learning lessons, and then gradually becoming perfect.
For middle-aged people, the most important thing is to start from the moment. Z1z
writer San Mao once scared "growth is a kind of transformation, losing the old, it must be because of the new coming again, this is fair."
people in middle age, life has stood at a new starting point, no longer Looking back frequently, but bravely moving forward. Do what you should do at this age.
is like the passing of years, spring flowers , autumn moon, summer, winter snow, one season and one season, the four seasons are different, and all things on the earth have color and reincarnation.
is just "flowers have a reopening day, but people have no more youth." The missed days have already had a lot of regrets. It is just a waste of time to ask hard questions. Live every day now is the most correct and effective remedy. .
When a person begins to awaken and truly realize what life he wants, all his actions will have meaning and will have immediate results.
People in middle age, if you know what you want to do, don’t hesitate anymore, don’t wait and see anymore, do it first. Acting while thinking of ways, you will find that ways will definitely be more difficult than difficulties.
As the dream becomes reality a little bit, no matter how hard it is, it won’t feel hard anymore.
People who are in middle age, are all working hard for life, and hope that every busy you can release yourself from the past.
live in the present, cherish what we have, and do our best to work hard for a better tomorrow. No regrets, no complaints, let the days become fuller in their own hands.
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