Introduction
In real life, there are many daughters-in-law who ask their mother-in-law to give money if they don't have children, because they feel that since the mother-in-law can't do anything, they will pay, but this method will make the elderly miserable.
Three 65-year-old aunts cried: "I don't want to take my baby and my daughter-in-law to ask me for money. I find it is really difficult for the elderly."
Aunt Zeng/65 years old
I am 65 years old this year. The pension is 5000 bucks, my son is married and has a lovely grandson.
When my daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, she asked me to help take care of the child, but I felt that I had been busy for most of my life and should enjoy life well, and I had to accompany my wife, so I had no time to take care of the child at all, and then I refused.
But my daughter-in-law said that they are under a lot of pressure now, not only to make money to support the family, but also to pay off debts, but relying on my son to work alone is not enough to support the family. But I really don't want to have kids.
In desperation, I had to come up with a solution, that is, to give the salary card to my daughter-in-law and give them my pension, which gave me 5 years. Now my grandson has grown up, I His daughter-in-law also found a job.
Then I wanted to get my salary card back, but my daughter-in-law said: "What kind of money can you spend as an old man, now we are in need of money, how good it is to give this money to us, then your grandson will have to spend a lot of money , so just stay here, who makes your son have no ability and can't make a lot of money, if you take away the card, what will our family eat?"
At that time, I was very angry when my daughter-in-law said this. Why does my money become their money, and then I insisted that my daughter-in-law give it back to me, but I didn't expect my daughter-in-law to get angry: "If you insist on taking it back, that's fine, I will ignore you in the future, no matter if you are sick. No matter what happens, I won’t take care of you, and I’m going to divorce your son now, I don’t want to let this day go.”
Later, when I heard that my daughter-in-law was so threatening, I had to compromise and I could only keep the money. For them, but now I have no money to use every month, I can only spend my wife's money, but without my money, our life is very tight.
Sometimes I feel that the elderly are really too difficult.
Aunt Lan/65 years old
I am 65 years old this year. When I was young, my wife and I gave everything for the sake of our children. Now that we are retired, I want to enjoy life well. I didn’t expect that my grandson was just born, and then my daughter-in-law wanted me to take care of the children. But in my retirement I just want to enjoy myself, not to be busy, because I want to fulfill my unfulfilled dreams when I was young, I have kids, I can't go, and I can't do anything.
Besides, their own things should be done by themselves, not by me, and then I refused my daughter-in-law's request, but I didn't expect my daughter-in-law to say: "You don't need to help with the children, you can just give 5,000 yuan a month. Otherwise, I will never let you see your precious grandson for the rest of my life."
My daughter-in-law is a very strong person, and I was very afraid of doing what I said, so I agreed to his request. Anyway, my monthly pension is 6,000, and my wife also has 6,000. Even if I give it to my daughter-in-law, I can also spend my wife's. But after
gave them half of the money, I found that we couldn't go to travel as often as we wanted, because there was no money, and it would cost thousands of dollars to go.
At the end of the month, my daughter-in-law is like a ghost who keeps urging me to give me money. Sometimes I am really helpless. It is obviously my pension, but it has to be distributed to others every month, but what can I do? If I don't give it, I will never see my grandson, so it's really hard to be the grandma of a child.
Auntie Ou/65 years old
I am 65 years old this year, and my wife and I’s pension combined is only 5,000 yuan. When we were young, we didn’t have a good job, so we got so little.
And at that time, we worked hard outside for the sake of our children. When our son got married, we spent all our savings, bought them a car, bought a house as a gift, and owed a lot of debt.
Later, my grandson was born, and then my daughter-in-law wanted me to bring her there because she said she was inexperienced. I immediately agreed and I also wanted to hold my grandson, but I didn't expect that I had brought him here for three years, and I was with them every day. The family does laundry, cooks, does housework, and takes care of the children. My son and daughter-in-law have to work during the day, so they can’t help me share the burden, but at night, they obviously have time to help me share some housework, but none of them can help me. People are willing to help me.
I am the only one left to work there, no one cares, and no one greets me. Every day, my body is tired, sometimes it hurts not here or there.
Later, my grandson also went to kindergarten, I also relaxed a lot, and then I plan to go back to my hometown to live.
But I didn't expect my daughter-in-law to say that she was pregnant again. At that time, I really didn't know whether to laugh or cry. My daughter-in-law didn't let me go back and asked me to help take care of my grandson first, but I really didn't want to take it because I was really tired.
At that time, I didn't agree, and then my daughter-in-law said: "You have to pay if you don't work hard. If you don't help me, I won't be able to work. If I can't work, I won't have any income, so you can give me 4,000 yuan a month. I'll do it myself. Bring it, besides, you can’t give birth to a child for your family, if you want me to give birth and take me again, then I will be thankful.” To face my daughter-in-law’s request, I had to agree, but after giving Qian daughter-in-law, I I have no money to spend with my wife, only 1,000 yuan is left, and it is not enough to eat frugally every day, and we have to live together by picking up scraps and selling them.
originally thought that I would be able to live a good life after retirement, but I didn't expect that life after retirement would be so hard, so difficult, and when will this kind of life end.
Concluding remarks
The elderly are not obliged to take care of their grandchildren. They are only children. They should not occupy the time of the elderly, nor should they be required to pay the elderly if they do not have children. This is not filial, but also respects the elderly.
should be filial to the elderly and take care of the elderly, so as to be worthy of their conscience, because caring for parents is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and it is also the responsibility of children. Children should not shirk or threaten the elderly.
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