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With the baptism of the years, we will always gain a lot of things in this life, and also lose a lot of things at the same time. If there is gain, there is loss. This is life. No matter what, the loneliness in the end will be ushered in.
When we were young, we were accompanied by our parents, and when we got married, we were accompanied by our partners, but as we got older, people around us would gradually leave us. At first we came to this world alone and enjoyed it for a while After the warmth of her, she had to face life alone again, and finally left alone.
In real life, many elderly people feel very lonely because they have lost their spouse. In order to cope with the loneliness of their old age, many single elderly people will choose to live with their children so that they can rely on them in life, but even though the children are themselves My dearest person, but it’s not easy to live a happy life. Z3z
02. Talker: Uncle Hu
I am 65 years old. I had a son and a daughter after I got married with my wife. Now my son is married and now works in the city. My daughter met a boyfriend from another city and later married a foreign country. , Six years ago, my wife left me because of a car accident. After my wife left, I also lived with my son for a while, but later moved back.
I am a countryman. After my wife left, I thought I would spend the rest of my life alone. I didn’t expect my son to let me move in to live with them. In fact, I had never been in the city before. I have been farming for a living. I was afraid that I would not be used to city life, but I was particularly unaccustomed to being alone in my hometown, so I agreed to give it a try.
That day, my son drove back to the countryside to pick me up in person. When I first entered the city, looking at the tall buildings outside the car window felt very novel. This kind of scene was only seen on TV. I was a little at a loss in the unfamiliar environment. .
We arrived at the community where our son lived. It was the first time I took the elevator. When I walked into my son’s house, I was stunned by the scene in front of me. The living room was very gorgeous, clean and tidy. I was embarrassed to do it when my son asked me to sit on the sofa. Afraid of getting dirty, my daughter-in-law was very happy to see me here, and immediately prepared meals.
The day after I moved to my son’s house, my son took me to the supermarket to buy clothes. When I heard the price of the clothes, I was shocked. It took me several days to earn the price of a piece of clothing. I said it was too expensive. I don't want it, but my son insists on buying it for me.
It took me a month to get acquainted with the surrounding environment after I moved to my son’s house. To be honest, life in the city is not as comfortable as in the countryside. As long as I go out in the countryside, I can meet people I know. You can go to any place when you are hungry. Eating, but it’s different in the city. When I go out, I don’t know anyone, and every house is closed, just like a thief.
After a long time, I have gradually become familiar with the life of the city. From the beginning I didn’t dare to go anywhere until now I dare to go to the supermarket and the park by myself. Although there are many novel things around, but facing the noisy environment I feel that this life is still unhappy.
thought that living with my son would not feel lonely, but slowly I realized that I couldn't integrate into their lives at all. Although they all lived in the same house, I felt that it was actually no different from living alone.
son, they are usually busy at work and I also help with cooking at home, but they rarely eat at home. Many times I prepare meals and wait for them to come home. They always say that the company has socializing and eats outside, and often Come home very late drunk.
And I usually don’t have much to say with my son, and I even feel that I’m a little redundant. Often the couple watch their favorite TV, and I sit next to it as if it’s redundant. Usually when the couple go home, they run back to themselves Close the door to chat.
I’m not saying that my son and they don’t want to see me. In fact, my son and daughter-in-law are very filial, but I also understand their young people. After all, they are not the same generation. Our lifestyles are very different. For their young people I can't get into life at all.
When I first moved to my son's house, I was also looking forward to my future life, but as time passed, I felt more and more boring, and I felt better than farming in the countryside, surrounded by neighbors, and the living atmosphere was much better than in the city.
I also told my son that I wantedThe idea of moving back, my son thought it was because he didn’t do a good job. I quickly explained that it was not like that. I told them my idea is that rural life is more suitable for me. After hearing this, my son agreed. Drive me back to my hometown.
Since I moved back, the neighbors are very puzzled and asked me why I don’t enjoy the good fortune with my son. I just said that I should take comfort in my own home.
Conclusion
In fact, many single elderly people who live with their children just don’t adapt to living alone, but many live with their children, but life is not as good as they originally thought. Because of the difference in age, there is communication with young people. There is a generation gap, and many elderly people live with their children, because of their different lifestyles, and there are many contradictions due to small matters.
Although living with children in old age is a way of life, this kind of life is not suitable for everyone, and often interferes with the lives of children.
