1. Always be generous in attitude.
We can be generous, but we can’t always be generous in our attitude, because the more generous you are, the more people think you are a person of no opinion. In fact, when interacting with people, how to grasp your own attitude is a very knowledgeable thing. If your attitude is too good and generous, although it will make people like to associate with you, it will also make people "lao". If you have a bad attitude, you can still get the respect of others, but this respect is the kind of respect of "respect and stay away." In short, the attitude is very important when interacting with people, not too good or too bad.
Don’t always be too generous in your attitude. The more generous you are, the more people will feel that you have no opinion and that you are a bully "honest person". Then you will eventually become a "tool" for losing yourself to satisfy others. , Will only make you lower and lower.
2. Be generous in things beyond the scope of ability.
Since ancient times, there has been such a saying, "Without a word, it is difficult to chase a horse". It can be seen that the things that promise others must be done. In today's society, there is also a saying, "What you say is like splashed water." As long as you agree to others, then you will not be able to take back these promises.
Therefore, when someone asks you for help, no matter how good the relationship is with you, as long as it is beyond your own ability, then you must not be generous, not for the so-called "face", for the so-called "brothers" Friendship," he agreed with a hot head. After all, things like this are just empty talk if you can't do it. In the end, you didn't fulfill it, dug a hole and buried yourself.
You must know that the more generous you are in things beyond your ability, the easier it is for you to lose faith in others. In the end, it will only ruin your reputation and make your interpersonal relationship worse and worse.
In short, before you make promises to others, you must first distinguish the weight, whether you can do it, and you will not lose your trust. Otherwise, if you promise but fail to do it, this is undoubtedly a deception.
3. The bigger the money, the higher the desire of friends.
People are selfish in nature, no matter how good the relationship between you and others is, how close the relationship is, as long as it involves interests, especially the kind of money involved, then it is easy to cause all kinds of troubles. Things.
There are many people in society who do not have their own bottom line when it comes to money. They always feel that to make friends is to be generous with money, so that they can have "face" and make others value you. For example, every time friends eat and drink together, they are rushed to pay for it. In fact, this kind of behavior is quite wrong. If you have such a habit, others will have to make an inch of it and treat you as a mobile "cash machine." When interacting with people, "reciprocity" is the healthiest way of communication. Everyone respects each other. Today you invite me to have a meal, and I will invite you back tomorrow. This will not only exchange feelings, but will not hurt your peace because of your interests.
Many people don’t understand this truth. Regardless of their financial situation, they are always generous in money, especially in front of friends. They don’t know that they don’t take you seriously at all, and this will only make The desire of friends is getting higher and higher. If you are not "generous" someday, your friends will blame you for being stingy.
Summary:
The more generous you are in the above three aspects, the less people will take you seriously. Readers will be encouraged to change if you have any.
