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There is a saying that smart people know how to show weakness, while stupid people like to be strong. The view of
is an empirical discussion based on the existing facts, and it is the two kinds of people that first came up with this view.
On the surface, we can tell whether a person is smart or stupid from whether he knows how to show weakness. In fact, the basis for such a judgment is not accurate, because there is a word called "disguise". Some people "show weakness" are not really smart, but they are smart and pretend to be weak.
Some people may be puzzled. They don’t understand how to pretend to show weakness. In fact, it is very simple. Take an example. You immediately understand: After a man betrays his marriage, when his wife cannot bear to get a divorce, the man kneels to beg for mercy at this time, just pretending to show weakness. Really weak.
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Xiao An’s ex-husband, A Zhou, is the kind of person above. He knows that he has made mistakes and betrays his marriage. He believes that he is not wrong and that he will not be punished. He only knows that he underestimates Xiao An when the punishment comes.
Women can be divided into two types: one is really weak, the other knows how to restrain. Xiao An belongs to the latter. The tenderness and weakness she exhibits is not really weakness, but restraint because of love.
If her love is put on a good man, it will have a very good effect. However, putting it on A Zhou not only had no effect, it was counterproductive. A Zhou felt that she was a bully, so he dared to betray her marriage unscrupulously.
At first, Xiao An drew a clear line for herself, and didn't want to ask what A Zhou must do. He felt that as a wife, giving her husband a little freedom can make the relationship between husband and wife better. However, this became an opportunity for him to betray. If Xiao An wanted to catch him, she would have caught him. It was because he was given too much freedom, thinking that he would be conscious, and finally took this opportunity to betray.
Xiaoan finally discovered that his betrayal was due to his actions after returning home from a business trip. That day, Xiao An knew that he should go back on a business trip, and waited for him at home after he made a meal, but when he called him, he said he wanted to have a meal with a friend. Xiao An waited until midnight, but still didn't see him go home, so he called him again. The answer this time was: "I won't go home today, I will go to my friend's house to sleep!"
Xiao An asked all his friends. After discovering that no one was eating with him, he finally asked a friend who had a close relationship with A Zhou and asked him to ask where A Zhou was. Only then did he know that the friend in his mouth was a woman.
After the truth came out, when he had to accept the punishment, he began to kneel and beg for mercy, and asked Xiao An to forgive him once, saying that he would not dare to be the next time, saying that he was just a ghost before, saying that it was not his problem, but the woman's problem.
He doesn’t say that. Xiao An just divorced him. The more he said that, the more angry Xiao An was:
"You can think of me as a fool, but I will not let you treat me as a fool. After the divorce, you said you were wrong. Why did you go? Didn't you know that you were at fault when you betrayed your marriage? Don’t you know that you are at fault when you are away from home on a business trip? Since you don't think you are at fault, what is the point of pretending to be weak now? Make it clear that it’s not sincere confession, but you don’t want to be punished or ruin your personality and reputation. But I can't help you. I just want everyone to know what you did. You were not afraid when you betrayed, and you shouldn't be counseled now! "Z1z
From the last words Xiaoan said, it can be seen that she is not a weak person. She hasn't attacked before, but restrained because of love; but when she is betrayed, she no longer loves, so naturally there is no need to restrain. Up. She turned her face, and for A Zhou who had always underestimated her, it was naturally a heavy punishment.
03
There are a lot of truths and concepts in life, and you can’t just look at the surface, you need to look at it from multiple angles, not only to know what is happening, but also to know why.
For example, the "showing weakness" mentioned above. Good men know how to show weakness, but men who show weakness are not necessarily good men. Scumbags may also pretend to show weakness. You can't just forgive him when he shows weakness. It’s his fault, but to realize his weakness for what purpose. The more hypocritical people
are, the more they will "show weakness" after betraying you. Their purpose of doing this, just like Xiao An said, is not to keep you, but just for himself and forIn order to protect his own reputation, in order to prevent others from seeing his betrayal. People like
should definitely leave early, because he is lying to you. He doesn’t really love you. People who really love you will not show weakness when you have to punish him, but will be in normal life. Show weakness, will not confront you tit for tat, will not care about trivial things.
In addition, Xiao An's practice in that marriage was not very good. Restraining yourself because of loving someone is a sign of weakness, but if you restrain yourself and ignore what the other person does in the future, it is easy for the other person to be too free. Once he indulges himself, the ending will often not be good.
Although whether a man will betray or not depends mainly on whether he is conscious or not, it has to be said that some men are unconscious, just do not manage themselves well, and require strict discipline from their wives, so that he can be safe. If you marry this kind of man, you can't be too restrained, otherwise it is yourself that will be wronged in the end.
