How much savings do young people in the rural areas of Fengxian dare to get married? Seeing this number, my heart is upset!

Wen: What should I say in 1983?

Picture: A cousin from Fengxian on the network

, 29 years old this year, as the only "older youth" in the circle of relatives, his situation has attracted everyone's attention. My mother is his aunt, and she is even more concerned about her natal nephew. Whenever she calls him, she will ask him how he is talking and when she can get married.

Actually, my cousin has been talking with a girl in Xiayi, Henan over the years. It’s been almost three years since I was talking about marriage. Just when my uncle and aunt breathed a sigh of relief, but in December On the 6th, the two sides broke down because of the house, car, and bride price. According to my cousin, the relationship was stranded again.

Hearing this from my cousin, I couldn't help but cut in. Now, how much does it cost for young people in Feng County to get married? You have worked for so many years, and your monthly income is 6,000 to 7,000. After talking for so long, how can you give up easily? Cousin

said that the conditions put forward by the girl’s family could not be met at all in his family, and the total cost was 1.1 million. My family’s savings are currently only over 360,000. I can’t let my parents carry debts for the rest of my life just because I got married.

After listening to it, I feel confused, because in my concept, the cost of getting married is at most three to four hundred thousand. This cost of millions of dollars at every turn seems to be beyond the reach of many rural post-90s generations.

I am a post-80s. When I got married, my parents spent more than 200,000 yuan. They still felt that they could not bear it.

At that time, I still built a house in my own village, with three rooms and two floors, plus a furnished room. After a simple decoration, it was only about 150,000, plus the gift (38,000) and wedding gifts. The total expenditure does not exceed 250,000.

has only been around for 10 years, but that number has long since passed.

Nowadays, with the large number of rural people migrating to the cities, even if the houses in the countryside are built, they have become a yellow flower yesterday. Because nowadays young people, especially those born in the 1990s, almost no one wants to go back to live in the countryside. After they get married, their nuclear family must also live in the city.

Therefore, in the eyes of many young women, what is more practical is actually a house in the city, not a house in the rural home. Coupled with the comparison with peers, they naturally have a reason to include a city apartment in the list of gifts.

But if you buy a house in the city, even if you buy a house in the county town, it is now about 6000 yuan per square meter. According to an ordinary 118 square meter, just buying a rough house will cost 710,000, and then adding decoration, it is estimated that a house will cost 850,000 In addition, the cost of gifts, cars and weddings should be at least 300,000 yuan.

Calculated like this, the number of young people in rural areas who get married should exceed 1.1 million at least. On

Weibo hot searches, topics like "modern young people, how much money do they dare to get married" appear from time to time, which shows that people have always paid a lot of attention to such topics.

In the past in rural areas, people did not value material things. Many rural girls married, often paying more attention to the character of the boy and the reputation of the family in the village. Some girls even didn't want anything. But now, that ethos is long gone.

Today’s girls depend not only on the man’s character, but also on the man’s financial ability. Both lack the same and cannot be achieved. The formation of

is not just a problem in one place. Every place is similar. It is not because the girls are too snobbish. It is the inevitable result of the development of this society.

If society wants to progress, it must develop rapidly. If it fails to keep up, it will be eliminated, so everyone has no way to stop. Especially men, you must be self-improving, otherwise, marriage will make you a big headache.

Whether you are born in the 60s, 70s, 80s or 90s, every age group will have difficulties for every age group. Instead of complaining in anxiety, it is better to deal with it calmly.

1.1 million is a relatively large number for anyone. This also tells us that happiness is not so easy to get. If you find your own happiness, you must cherish its hard-won.

Finally, I just want to say two words to my cousin-come on!