An 80-year-old man and his wife are separated by a wall, and I don’t see each other once in 10 days: only when a person is old will his wife be useful

all say "young couples come to accompany each other", I think it would be hard to empathize if it weren't for the old age.

This is just like when many old people said when they were young, "I will not need to take care of my children when I am old, and I will not burden them". Actually, what will happen to your physical condition when you are old? Will you get sick? controlling.

What is the purpose of this? just wants to tell you that life is very long, don't talk too much, don't do things too hard, to leave a way out for others is to leave a way out for yourself.

There is such a man in my grandmother's village. When he was young, he wandered around and never wanted to live in peace. His wife was pregnant with her pregnancy. Not only did he not help, but he went around making flowers and grass. He has two children. It is said that he was not around when his wife gave birth, let alone wait for the confinement.

The man's behavior hurt his wife's heart, but at that time, few people thought about divorce. Everyone didn't seem to have that concept, and the man's wife was the same. She was disappointed in the man, even disgusted, she didn't want to live with him again, but she never thought about divorce.

Neither thinking about divorce, nor wanting to live together, what should I do?

The man's parents live next door to them, separated by a wall. The wife cleaned up the man's clothing and sent it to his parents, saying that he would live with his parents to take care of the two elderly people.

This man actually wanted to get out of his wife's sight. He thought that his parents were in good health anyway, and he didn't need to take care of him. He just happened to be able to wander around in a fair manner. But the man’s parents felt like Mingjing, knowing that the daughter-in-law did it deliberately, and they were also afraid that the son would have a bad life in the future, so they would always try to get the son back. The man

said to his parents at the time: "You don't have to worry about it. I wish I would never go back. I can't see and be upset. As long as she doesn't come and beg me, I won't want to see her in my life. "The two of them are separated by a low wall. The man said a lot, so his wife naturally heard it.

How ridiculous is this man?

In fact, we can all hear that he was angry, or he was deliberately tough in front of his parents. But he also reacted a little from the side, he didn't realize his mistake. He did something wrong, not thinking about making up for regrets, but expecting his wife to come and beg him to go back.

But men should never ignore the will and determination of women. It is said that a woman is easy to feel soft, because her heart has not been broken. When you really hurt her, don't expect her to look back in your life.

When the man's wife heard what he said, her heart was already broken. Before that, she might just be angry, and didn't really think about being irrelevant. But since she heard those words, she really regarded men as passers-by. At this time the man was still dreaming of his wife begging him to go back.

At that time, my grandmother's house was very close to this man and his parents' house. They often visited each other, and always listened to the man's parents talking about their couple. The man's parents once persuaded his daughter-in-law, hoping that she could give the man a step down and lower her posture to let him go back. They also said, which man is not confused when he is young, you must give him some time to grow up.

This involves a very common phenomenon. Parents always feel that their son is still young and needs time to grow and mature, and they don't think that the son's mistakes are serious. You might even think that your daughter-in-law is making a fuss.

In fact, when a man has two children, he still doesn't know how to live his life, and he still plays mischief, which is more or less the result of parental indulgence. If parents are sensible, they will inevitably ask their son to correct their mistakes and seek forgiveness from their daughter-in-law. But judging from the way the parents-in-law asked the daughter-in-law to step down the steps for the son, the man's parents were not the kind of sensible parents.

Here, I want to remind those parents, especially parents who have become in-laws, that they must not tolerate their sons too much and let their daughter-in-law be wronged. You are not for the good of your son, but for his future. Da Hang.

The man was persuaded by his parents for many years, but his parents left one after another.In the world, he has no rules. It is said that his life style has once become a "fun talk" in the village.

The man's wife raised the child alone, helped the child marry the wife and have children, and led a happy life. And this man got worse and worse as he got older, and eventually became bedridden.

This year, that man is 80 years old and has been lying in bed and unable to take care of himself for more than three years. I once asked my grandmother who was taking care of him for more than three years. My grandmother said it was his son and daughter-in-law, who came to deliver him food every day, and then left after delivery. Sometimes I get busy, maybe only a day. Once, the man can only be hungry, very poor.

I asked, what about his wife? Grandma’s answer was this: "His wife is still separated by a wall from him. Sometimes they are persuaded by the children to come over and take a look at him, and then leave in two minutes. A man once complained about not seeing his wife once in 10 days. If you don’t expect her to take care of him, it’s okay to talk to him. He’s too bored to lie in the house all day. But who can blame him? When he was young, he was too full of words and said that he would not want to see her all his life Only when you are really old do you know that your wife is useful."

My grandmother is also in her 80s this year. My grandpa left five or six years ago. I think she must have experienced the loneliness in the past few years. Miss my grandpa. It is precisely because of this that she feels profound about this kind of "young couple and old companion".

On the way back from my grandmother’s house, I have been thinking about this question: Since a man is old, he knows that his wife is useful. Why doesn’t that man’s wife desire his wife to talk with him as much as he does?

I think there should be two reasons for this.

First of all, he hurt his wife too deeply when he was young. She would rather be alone than be with him. Secondly, his wife raised a child and has a grandson, so he can enjoy family happiness, and because he has done so absolutely, he can neither get the care of his lover nor the company of his children, so he is better than Wives need old companions more.

I knew today, why bother?

When discussing marriage with some friends or readers, many men will express this point of view: men do not rely on marriage and wives, and sometimes it is easier to live alone.

Then I will tell you why you have such an idea. Because you are now young and strong, you can make money, you can cope with life, you can go out and play, and even your parents take care of you. Marriage really adds constraints to you. But after a few decades? When you are old and sick, can you still say such things with confidence?

Yes, you may have saved a lot of money, but the money needs someone to help you to eat and drink or even go to the hospital to see a doctor. You can also spend money to ask a nanny to take care of you, but the nanny will not be with you sincerely Chat to relieve boredom. You may have a filial child, but the child also has his own life and has to work hard on his career. He has no time to stay with you.

Only the lover who has walked with you for a lifetime in the wind and rain is the one who can really stay by your side. If she is in good health, she will take care of you. If unfortunately she is not in good health, you can encourage and accompany each other. This day is also full of warmth.

Really, please cherish your "old companion" from now on.

About the author: is a lonely tree of happiness, a woman who likes to read and write. I hope my words can accompany you warmly.