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When it comes to help, some people think that you should ask someone you know for help, some people think you should ask someone you can trust, some people think you should ask someone you can trust, and some people think you should ask someone who is good at bullying.
The first few situations are still normal, but the last situation is not the behavior that a gentleman should have, because it is at the expense of others and is too unfair to the person being bullied.
Conversely speaking, if you are a good bully, if someone thinks you are good bully, you must adjust yourself to prevent those who think you are good bully from bullying you again.
wants to do this, the best way is to be "savvy", learn to refuse, do not be deceived by the rhetoric of those who bully you, you know he wants to bully you, you want to be responsible for yourself, need Refuse.
For example, some men always ask their ex-wife for "help" after divorce, and they make some unreasonable requests, which are difficult for strong people. As an ex-wife, they should refuse, they should be affectionate, and they should change their ex-husband’s in this way. Cognition. Below, we will talk about three things that should not be helped as an ex-wife.
1, a man lacks money after divorce, but you are responsible for paying the bill.
Some men forget about each other after divorcing their ex-wife and do not disturb each other. And some men always disturb their ex-wife after divorcing their ex-wife. The purpose of interruption is nothing but to ask for money and to make the ex-wife pay for themselves.
We have talked about cases in this area before. You should have seen and heard similar cases. For example, a man spends money on his birthday, but he calls his ex-wife to pay the bill; a man remarries and lacks money, but calls his ex-wife to borrow money. . When a man like
asks his ex-wife for money, he never forgets to play the emotional card and asks his ex-wife to help out for the husband and wife. It sounds pitiful, it sounds like he is asking for help from his ex-wife, but actually just thinks his ex-wife Good bully.
As an ex-wife, this kind of favor shouldn’t help, no matter how good your relationship with a man is, even if you can still "be friends" after divorce, this kind of favor should not help, because he has no reason to ask you for money, you You don't owe him anything. If you help this kind of favor, there will only be two endings: Either he has borrowed but not repaid, or he will ask you for money many times later.
You can only leave him with a bad impression of bullying and stop him from continuing to bully you only if you are a little affectionate and ruthlessly reject him the first time.
2, if a man remarries badly, he is looking for you as a soul mate.
The above point is about material issues. Men have the need to spend money. They ask you for money when they think you are bullying. In addition to this situation, men have other needs. For example, some men have trouble feelings after divorce, no one cares about them, and they can’t marry a daughter-in-law, so they turn around and disturb their ex-wife, either by pestering the ex-wife to remarry, or after the remarriage fails. , Asked her ex-wife to be a "soul mate" with herself.
Menglan encountered this problem after her divorce. Just after she got rid of her ex-husband, she breathed a sigh of relief, and her ex-husband began to disturb her, first to remarry with her, and after being rejected, she changed her words and said: "Anyway, we are still single. Since you don’t want to remarry, then be a soul mate with me. We can stay together and not marry until we find the other half. Of course, it’s not bad to stay with each other for the rest of our life!" Z1z
Menglan is not stupid, she was The reason for the divorce and the feeling of relief after the divorce is because the previous marriage hurt her too much and made her feel too bad. To be more precise, the bad feeling was brought to her by her ex-husband, a scumbag. She just got out of the sea of bitterness and let her jump in again. She would definitely not want:
"Sorry, you found the wrong person, although I am Your ex-wife, although you were married to you, we are already divorced and I have nothing to do with you. Since I don't want to remarry with you, I just don't want to get involved with you anymore, so it is impossible to be a soul mate with you. Everyone is an adult anymore, there is no need to play this kind of trick, what soul mate, what companion but not marriage, you are just beautifying yourself for malicious purposes, I will not be fooled, please also Don't bother me again! "Z1z
Other women should also have this kind of awareness and courage after divorce, especially those who have finally gotten rid of their ex-husbands, whether the ex-husbands remarry with youOr let you be a soul mate with him, there are ulterior motives, no matter how nicely he says, you should not agree to it, don't help with such a favor!
3, the second marriage of a man is not happy, use you to test his wife.
After some men got divorced, although they remarried smoothly, their second marriage was unhappy. Some men will compare with their ex-wife at this time, some men will be nostalgic for their ex-wife at this time, and some men will use their ex-wife at this time and want to use their ex-wife as a tool to test their wives’ sincerity.
is so busy. To put it bluntly, let the ex-wife cooperate with him in betraying the marriage, and let the ex-wife come out to challenge the status of the remarried wife. This really does not do any good to the ex-wife. Good bullies will make this request. As an ex-wife,
definitely shouldn't help this kind of favor. Since you have been divorced, whether your ex-husband is happy or not has nothing to do with you, it has nothing to do with whether you are happy or not. If you help him and break up his marriage, you will incur infamy; being taught by his remarried wife will also damage your reputation, which can be said to be harmful to no benefit.
Not only should divorced couples not make unreasonable demands under the name "after all, a couple", other relationships are the same, even if you have a good relationship with others, you should not be busy with others. Especially when you look down on you and feel that you are so bullying and ask you to help, you should refuse it because their request is only for your own sake, and has not considered your feelings at all, let alone what will bring you What are the consequences? If you don't want to cause trouble for yourself, stay away from such people.
