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The first question is that my husband and I have been together for 7 years. I was married for 4 years. I was pregnant when we got married. Now the child is 4 years old. My husband cheated three years ago. Later he told me there was nothing between them. , But I have been called my husband and wife, facing the child, I pretended to forgive him if nothing happened, and then treated me very well.
But when I was giving birth to my second child, he cheated again. He always held his cell phone every day. Later I had trouble and mentioned divorce. He ignored me, I talked to him, and he said that he finished giving birth. Besides, now that we are divorced, we are still living together. Suddenly, we feel that we are unable to take care of our children. The two of us are one child and one child. The key is that I can’t bear him, but he does have a woman out there. I know, what should I do in this situation?
I answered like this: the handling must be carried out in a calm state of oneself, derailment has become a fact, no matter how noisy it is no use, and if you always use the other party’s mistakes to punish your mental outlook, you will be complaining every day. In the end, you will only turn yourself into a bitter woman. If others dislike you, you can't cheer yourself up. I suggest you adjust your mentality at this time.
Now men in this society are faced with all kinds of temptations. It is hard for men not to cheat. It is no longer a problem for you alone or for a family. It is a social problem. You might as well think about it from another angle. You are a couple and a partner. In the process of living and adopting children, happily working together is the first.
Since derailment has become a reality, then minimize your own pain, strengthen yourself to improve your own living standards, let the other party contribute to the family to the greatest extent financially, so that you have more energy and money to improve yourself. When you are good enough, the opponent will respect you three points.
may wish to improve your appearance and connotation at the moment. When you have the highest value, communicate with the other party to show your tolerance, use the correct emotional value to face each other, and communicate with each other more from the perspective of children , If a child grows up in an incomplete or unhappy family, it will have a great impact on the integrity of the personality in the future. Knowing the reason and moving with affection, so that the other party will seriously reflect on his own mistakes and get a fundamental solution .
Today’s second question is that two children cheated on my husband when I was pregnant with the second child. He did not admit that I thought too much at first. When I put the evidence in front of him, he acquiesced, but He has already shown his true affection for that woman. I can feel that every time this woman buys a lot of clothes for my daughter, she is also very concerned about my daughter and husband. This woman is divorced and is in the same village as her husband. It’s also very good. She took a 6-year-old daughter. My husband’s thoughts are now all on him. They also had sex. Now my husband is not going home anymore. How can I save my husband in this situation? ?
I answered like this: I suggest you adjust your mentality, deal with it calmly, don't make noise, and focus on yourself, including the improvement of your appearance and connotation, work ability, etc., because you have just finished giving birth and are in Lactation period can be said to be the lowest value in life. You do not have the advantage, let alone get divorced because you will regret it in the end. Once the divorce is raised, your husband will be pushed to a third party.
Currently they are playing fiercely, it is obviously unrealistic to separate them now, so the best way for you now is to develop your body and improve yourself, and don’t just cheat on this matter. The best way is to keep your mouth shut. Don't talk about it, because the other party cheated during your pregnancy, and physiological needs accounted for part of the reason, so there is not much emotional basis between them.
Now let your husband come into contact with children and cultivate his sense of family responsibility. When your own value is high enough, you will start from the perspective of family and children with your husband, and remember the good things you have experienced together before. The other party appreciates the warmth of the family and your changes, and once again in-depth communication, and men can recognize their own problems better.
Marriage is a practice, everyone needs to seriously solve the problems in marriage. If you have a marriage problem, pay attention to Baicha Qinghuan to solve the problem for you!
