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Falling in love is just a decision, but getting along is a process. There will always be conflicts in the process of getting along with men and women. Men don’t understand why women are always so emotional and addicted to feelings. Women don’t understand why men place so much emphasis on career and rationality. The root of everything is that their thinking patterns are different.
Generally speaking, men’s thinking mode is aimed at solving problems, focusing more on results, while for women, focusing on feeling and being understood, the results are really not very important.
Those who are more affectionate and can keep fresh for a long time are all because they have found the most comfortable mode of getting along with each other, knowing about empathy, men know how to consider women’s feelings, women know how men’s thinking, consider each other and recognize each other. With so many taking it for granted, paying and responding to each other often becomes sweeter and sweeter.
In fact, the thinking between people is very different, and the thinking mode between men and women is even more different. If you always guess and ask the other half according to your own mode, it will often produce huge contradictions. If you can’t Resolve it in time, and the gap in the relationship will often be larger in the end. Although some lovers of
are together, they rarely have spiritual communication and connection with each other, and they will gradually separate from each other in the end.
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When Lin Xueer and her boyfriend Cai Chen are together, she seldom considers that giving and caring are mutual. She only asks for Cai Chen, often a little bit of unsatisfactory things, will blame Cai Chen, often take Cai Chen Chen is an emotional trash can. If she thinks that Cai Chen is her boyfriend, she should consider her feelings and treat herself well, but she is just immersed in the fantasy of being a princess, and even Cai Chen has trouble working for a while. , And did not care at all, and still asked Cai Chen to accompany him and give himself gifts.
The unsatisfactory work, coupled with the entanglement and unreasonable harassment of her girlfriend, made Cai Chen discouraged. Later, Cai Chen proposed to break up. Cai Chen, who has always been calm and restrained, told Lin Xueer: "I feel I am not looking for it. A girlfriend, but found an ancestor. You never care about my mood. You will only ask me to pay for you. But I am also a human being and need to be cared about.” Z1z
Lin Xueer realized then It turns out that I was too selfish and blind in my feelings. I always get along with my own ideas. If I can think about it more, maybe they won't be like this.
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Anything requires skill, and getting along is a learning. If you want to be more smooth on the road of feelings and easily capture the hearts of men, you must know how to use "male thinking."
Pay attention to the face of men
In fact, everyone wants face, and men value their own face more than the sky, so the first principle for women to get along with men is to take into account the face of men in everything, if you don’t know how to give men Face, the ending between you will not be too good.
is like when Lin Xueer gets along with Cai Chen, she is more independent. She often points out Cai Chen’s shortcomings in the face of Cai Chen’s friends, and makes Cai Chen very embarrassed, Cai Chen. Chen is only introverted and doesn't like to refute directly, but she has already remembered a sum in her heart.
Men themselves are creatures with high self-esteem. Men want their women to worship themselves. If a woman doesn’t know how to give herself face and dignity, the love between the two will not last long. Since a woman wants to capture a man Heart, we must understand what a man cares about most, so as to protect a man's face, he will surely win a man's heart.
Actively create a common language
The interests and hobbies between men and women are sometimes very different. Men prefer playing games and sports. If a woman doesn’t know anything about this, the two people will have a lot less in common. Language.
There is always a need to pay in the relationship, and the relationship needs to be deliberately maintained. Since you want to capture the heart of a man, you must enter the world of men and create more common languages. For example, you can learn the game properly and be with men. Playing games will have a lot of fun, create a lot of getting along between two people, and the feelings will be deeper.
Sometimes men are very simpleSingle, what you want is a partner who is with you, so the best foundation is to get along with each other like a friend. You might as well give up the high expectations of the relationship. Start with being a good friend and lay the foundation for the relationship between two people. Will be more relaxed and at ease.
Silently supports the pursuit of men
In fact, everyone needs to be supported, and the same is true for men. In a man’s world, feelings are only part of it, and they have their own higher pursuits and want to realize themselves.
In the process of pursuing ideals, my heart is very lonely. If you can get strong support from your partner, a man will feel very comforted in his heart. The best relationship is to be with you. Sometimes a man really doesn’t What you need to do too much is just your encouragement and support, that is his greatest motivation and source.
If you want to capture a man’s heart, he must know how to do what he likes. In the process of a man’s pursuit of ideals, he must do his own duty, give understanding and support, and give space. Often men will be very grateful. Naturally It will also be very good to you. This is also a process of mutual achievement and motivation.
Don’t over-indulge in feelings
Everyone needs space to breathe freely. No matter how good the relationship is, two people will be tired of being together, and they will be aesthetically tired. For men, there are many important things to do. It takes time to be alone. Lin Xueer was particularly addicted to feelings at the time. Apart from work, only feelings were left in her eyes, so she was very clingy. This put a lot of pressure on Cai Chen and made Cai Chen feel suffocated.
In fact, feelings need to be deliberately maintained. Excessive indulgence will inevitably be counterproductive. Sometimes a proper distance can increase the relationship between each other.
In a man’s thinking mode, freedom is a very important thing, so you might as well be rational, give men space and give each other space, instead, let each other’s feelings have more room for growth and keep space and freedom for each other. Mutual promotion and growth are the foundation of a good relationship.
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Love is always mutual. If you only know to take, the relationship between two people is very unbalanced. The one who pays will be very tired, and if you don’t get a response for a long time, you will feel chills. It is easy to have problems with each other .
Some women always rely on being a woman, always asking men, always asking, but don't know how to give back. In fact, they are consuming each other's affection, which will be exhausted one day.
has to act for the sake of his own happiness, has to learn the wisdom of getting along, think more empathy, master male thinking, and prescribe the right medicine. It will often get twice the result with half the effort, and there will be a long time between two people.
