life, we are accustomed to labeling people around us, and what kind of person we think he is, and this judgment is likely to be based on subjective determination and lack of objective inspection.
Of course, this phenomenon is also very common in blind dates. When a woman meets a blind date for the first time, she will label him through his words and deeds to determine whether this man is worthy of further contact.
1. The label made her mix very well.
Xiaolai has been in the company for many years. She said that she has never overlooked anyone, unless the other party hides too deeply, otherwise most people can't escape her.
She likes to label colleagues in the company, some may be obtained through her eyes, and some may be obtained through a colleague's chat.
She feels that this has played a very important role in her work. She can assign the work appropriately according to the labels she puts on her colleagues to ensure that she can complete the tasks efficiently. This also makes her appreciated by the boss.
So she can sit in the position of personnel director, it is not unreasonable.
2. Labeling the blind date
She also applies the labeling in her life, putting various labels on familiar or strange people around her. The most typical thing about
is that someone introduces her to her. She can basically determine what level the man belongs to and what kind of person he will be through the occupation of that man.
She had been introduced by someone before and met a financial person. She said as soon as she came up, "I think financial people are relatively busy. If we become the two of us and have children in the future, how can you take care of it? What about career and family?" The financial man who had a blind date with
froze, and then said, "I am not particularly busy at work, but I can take care of my family."
"If you are not very busy in finance, it means you are not working hard enough. , I can’t make a lot of money.” She said directly.
The other party listened to it, and it took a long time to say, "Do you think that being busy means making money?"
"Unless you are a rich second-generation or something, it is impossible to make money in such a leisure time. I personally don't like the lack of fighting spirit and let it go. People." Xiao Lai saw the casual look of the other party, and it was even more confirmed that he was an incompetent man. The relative who introduced him said that he is the director, and it must be just a nominal title!
"Sorry, I don't think we are suitable." Xiao Lai said directly, and left two hundred yuan on the table.
3. The label made her deflated
, but later, Xiao Lai realized that he had been beaten. He was indeed a very capable man, and he was not a rich second-generation man, but had made great achievements in financial management.
But it was too late, and the relative introduced him to her cousin. When she went to her cousin’s wedding, she regretted that her intestines were blue.
did not expect that she had always tried Bailing's labeling method, and in the end, she was pitted on life-long events.
When interacting with others, you must have a spectrum in your heart, and you probably know who the other person is. This is understandable.
However, you must not pass through the mouth of others, or people who have only met once, and define others without careful observation. In this way, there will be bias or a situation that is contrary to the facts.
If, like Xiao Lai, lose a good object, it would really outweigh the gain.
