just past Double 11, you are-
chop hand party , eat Guiren or last money .
Don’t forget, you’re still a
single-body-dog
Do you remember that Double 11 used to be Singles Day?
Double Eleven has become a shopping carnival only a few years ago, and it has existed as a "Singles Day" More than twenty years.
It is said that Singles Day originated in a certain university in Nanjing in the 1990s. Since then, Singles Day has become popular with people's eagerness to get out of the singles.
In fact, being single for a long period of time has become the new normal for many young people in China.
01
my country’s single adult population is 240 million
According to data from the Ministry of Civil Affairs, In 2018, China’s single adult population was 240 million, of which over 77 million adults lived alone.
predicts that by 2021, this number will rise to 92 million people.
Are you one of 240 million? Or one of 77 million?
is different from the ideological trend of “shameful older age” a few years ago. Now more and more young people believe that single as a “free” and “controllable” way of life is highly respected by many young people.
They don't want to be in love, they don't want to get along with the opposite sex, and they don't want to get married.
According to a survey by the Pew Research Center in the United States, 's global marriage rate has been lower than 50% . More and more people would rather die alone than enter marriage.
is that mobile phones are not fun, beer is not good, supper is not good, TV shows are not good, you want to fall in love and get married?
02
Being single is cool for a while, and being single is always cool.
Who does not want to get married?
Maybe from the perspective of your parents, it is not a matter of making a small profit and a bad career, but it is the original sin if you are not married and single.
No matter what reason you resist, your parents will always hold arguments that make you speechless.
When discussing the topic of "fear of marriage" in "Wonderful Flowers", Li Dan said a classic sentence:
"I think it is not a disease to be afraid of marriage. In a society, it is a disease that people must get married." .
Marriage is no longer a necessity for many people, and love is just an option in life. Daisuke Yongri, the protagonist in the Japanese drama "The Form of Family", is such a person.
The 39-year-old Yongri Daisuke is an older single man, a celibate, and a stationery company as the planning team leader. After struggling for many years,
bought a large apartment in Tokyo with a loan and prohibited outsiders from entering the house.
life alone is really cool.
His life is also very regular and he doesn't like being interfered by others.
Only drink fruit juices for breakfast, calorie intake for lunch, go to the gym every day, ride a road sports car...Everything must be placed in its own prescribed position and used to live at its own pace. A colleague of
asked him, is it lonely and cold to be alone? He replied: "Go to the gym and do 100 squats, and you will have no lonely thoughts."
03
independence + cats and dogs = life winner
About loneliness, Lin Yutang once interpreted beautifully:
Looking at it, there are children, fruits, dogs, and butterflies, enough to hold up an alley in the midsummer evening, full of human touch."
is more human than before, "bachelors", "leftover girls", "single mothers", etc. With the label of demonization, many single young people are no longer anxious at the moment, in other words, are not coerced by the anxiety in society, and define the winner of life as "independent, cat and dog."
"People's Daily" once launched a small survey-"Young people, why do you get married late?"
"Inability to bear family responsibilities" and "not meeting the right person" accounted for 53%. Someone concluded that work is too busy , The circle is too smallYi talked and didn't have time to accompany him, and slowly got married late. Some people at
think that they are more "pessimistic":
"You will one day be old, sick, unemployed, and encounter various difficulties. It is better to have someone with you than to carry it alone."
But having said that, how can you predict in advance that someone will accompany you through the storm? According to previous experience, "flying separately when the catastrophe is imminent" seems to be more consistent.
The probability of encountering an ideal object in a lifetime is only 0.00006% , and "getting off the order by ability" has become a major problem for young people.
Whether we are single, in love or married late, we all have the right to choose our own way of life. There is no "most suitable age for
." There is also no "standard of happiness for
." The standard life of
is no longer suitable for everyone.
