Jiang Gang (pseudonym) still has a deep memory of the day his Cambodian wife left. The wife said she went to the beach with her cousin for a few days and packed her clothes. He didn't notice the abnormality, so he happily helped, and personally drove her to meet her cousin.
He didn't know that his wife would be gone forever. He spent 5,500 US dollars on a "flash marriage" with a Cambodian girl. From the blind date to the marriage to the wife's departure, it took only 7 days.
This article is based on Jiang Gang's narration. The reporter tried to contact the girl and her sister many times to verify the relevant situation. As of press time, the reporter has not been able to contact the girl, and the conversation with her sister can only get limited information.
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"pies" flying over
On September 1, Jiang Gang received an ambiguous private message from a stranger on Facebook. The other party was a Cambodian woman who could type and speak Chinese. After chatting, she learned that he is single, and the woman said that there are many girls in Cambodia and she can introduce him to him. Although
was a little surprised at what the woman said, she hurriedly said "OK", but didn't take it seriously. He thought, how could the pie fall on his head. Anyone knows, on October 1, the woman asked him to meet in Phnom Penh, saying that he had arranged a blind date for him, and the woman was her sister.
But her sister claimed that Jiang Gang took the initiative to chat with her privately, and Jiang Gang claimed that she took the initiative to privately believe him. (In addition, the original sister agreed to talk to the reporter and the sister. When the reporter contacted again at the appointed time, the sister refused the reporter's request and emphasized that she was not clear about the relationship between the sister and Jiang Gang.)
He hesitated to go to the appointment, but he thought. Turn, other girls are not afraid, what is he afraid of a big man. Just as the construction site was suspended, he agreed with the mentality of trying.
The blind date is set at a restaurant. In his eyes, the Cambodian girl sitting opposite is young and beautiful, without makeup and wearing simple attire, which makes people look comfortable. The
girl is about 22 years old. She introduces herself in fluent Chinese and speaks softly. She confessed that she had previously married a Chinese man and had children. That's how she learned Chinese. The requirements for a spouse are not high, just treat her sincerely and honor her parents.
Jiang Gang didn't mind her marriage history in the slightest, "I can meet the above requirements. This is the basic requirement of traditional Chinese culture for men." But he completely joked about girls.
After dinner, the girl's sister suggested to go shopping. There was a beggar in the street, and the girl gave 1,000 Cambodian coins. He thought, this girl is so kind.
After returning to the hotel, the girl sister kept her head down and stared at the phone screen, "constantly sending ambiguous messages to other men on the Internet." Jiang Gang said. In contrast, the girl sat quietly next to each other, and the two girls formed a great contrast, "I feel that she is very honest and responsible."
stayed in Phnom Penh for 2 days. He returned to the Westport construction site and was not at the same time about this relationship. Hold any hope. He was to her as if "The toad wants to eat swan meat."
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The confused wedding
was only three days later, and the girl called and told him that she would marry him and show him to his parents.
He wondered, he was not a handsome guy, where did he capture her heart? He is more suspicious and afraid than happy. He held the phone in silence. But the girl didn't give up. After making a few calls to urge him to come to Phnom Penh, he set off nervously. The girl originally claimed to take him to his parents' house, but then recounted that the parents' house was too far away and took him elsewhere.
So far, Jiang Gang still doesn't know if it is her grandma's house or relatives' house.
She asked for a meeting ceremony, and he took out all the $5,500 that had on him, and then held a wedding in confusion.
The wedding was very small. The guests were villagers nearby, with only 30 people. The new couple changed two sets of clothes to take pictures, and the two little monks sprinkled water and recited sutras. Throughout the wedding process, he was still ignorant, like a dream.
At this time, he felt very fortunate that he married a beautiful girl as his wife, and looked forward to the future.
He has consulted about obtaining a marriage certificate and learned that the man must have an income certificate of US$2,500 and has no criminal record in China. The criminal record is simple, but the income certificate cannot be issued. The wife is tolerant and will admit this marriage.
On October 6, the second day of the wedding, he took his wife back to the Xigang site, quit his job, and was ready to start a new life. After staying for one night, she complained that she was unaccustomed to living and wanted to find her cousin in Westport.Play on the beach for a few days. Although she put the clothes in the suitcase and took them away, he didn't worry too much.
was afraid of her wife being sunburned, so she bought her a hat and sunglasses. Worried that she has no money to spend, she gave her another 70 dollars and drove her to Chinatown by motorcycle. He was relieved when her cousin came to pick him up. When bidding farewell, he told her to be safe.
At that time, he thought, his wife doesn't hurt herself, who hurts? Unexpectedly, she was gone forever. She didn't answer the phone. Send a message, she will not reply.
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, a 29-year-old rural leftover man
Jiang has just met very few girls. He talked about a girlfriend in high school, and later his girlfriend married someone else. He was unacceptable for a while, was depressed for a few years, stayed at home, and went to Cambodia to make a living last year.
He handed over 10,000 yuan to the intermediary and is expected to go to Indonesia. Indonesia did not go to, and was recommended to Cambodia. The intermediary said the construction period was two years and the daily salary was 450 yuan.
However, he was caught off guard and was required to pay 6,000 yuan when he arrived in Cambodia, and the actual daily salary was 400 yuan. Even though he was deceived and angry, he still held on for six months with his head stuffed. Affected by the epidemic, he plans to wait for the fare to fall back to his country. used up his saved wages this time to marry his wife, including food and drink, nearly 7,000 dollars. After the wife of
left without leaving, he secretly sad for a few days, describing this marriage experience as "not going well."
Currently, he has decided to abandon the past and work on the construction site wholeheartedly to "recover blood" and earn some money first. He didn't give up and still hoped to find a wife in Cambodia. Looking for a wife while working.
"All roads can be married", if he has no relationship with a Cambodian girl, he will go to Vietnam. No matter what, go to Thailand. "No matter which country you are in, you will definitely not return to China if you find a wife, and you will settle down in your wife's hometown. In this life, that's it." Jiang Gang bluntly said that he has no nostalgia for China. When he was 8 years old, his parents died, and he and his elder sister were dependent on each other since he was a child, and now his elder sister has a new family, he is still alone at 29 years old.
This is not only Jiang Gang's plight, but also the helplessness and sorrow of rural men. According to a survey conducted by the National Bureau of Statistics of China, as of the end of 2019, tens of millions of men have no wives to marry, and the situation of “leftover men” in rural areas is particularly serious. There is even a saying that “unmarried at the age of 30 is a foregone conclusion.”
Jiang Gang has already included himself in the ranks of "single old men". He said that with his age and poor family background, it is impossible to marry a wife in China. But he was eager to have a home, "I attach more importance to feelings and family."
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Ideal wife
As an exotic guest, he lacks arrogant capital and dare not cause trouble. He didn't care so much about the actual lost money. But being deceived emotionally is what makes him the most unbearable.
was asked by his sister because of his emotional clues in the circle of friends, he had to tell them all. My sister was so angry that he asked him to call the police, "My sister is also a peasant woman, with little knowledge, I don't know that calling the police in Cambodia is useless."
didn't get a reply from the "wife" for a long time. He frightened her and said he wanted to call the police. She immediately contacted him and said that she would refund $1,500. He thought, let her retreat. In the end, he received 1,300 US dollars.
His ideal wife, whether hardworking or not, "I want someone to treat her well and care about her. I think that as long as I work hard, I can afford her."
He does not smoke or drink. , No bad habits. Perhaps because of the lack of family warmth, the other side's little effort has become his inner treasure. His former girlfriend cared a little about him and bought something for him. He was moved. The wife's departure from
did not obliterate her beautiful image in his heart. She was gentle, kind, shy, and pure, which was the appearance of his wife in his memory.
Jiang Gang recalled that his wife would never ask for money directly, but she often fought by the side. On a blind date in Phnom Penh, she said that she wanted to give her father 25 dollars, but she didn't. He had more than 600 dollars in his pocket, so she gave her 160 dollars. Saying that her sister had no travel expenses, she gave her sister another 30 dollars. Every time she gave money, she would shirk it, even saying that it was not for his money, but in the end she accepted it.
He remembered that his wife did not do anything for him. She is relatively lazy, does not fold quilts, throws her clothes in the bucket, and washes them when they are piled high. From beginning to end, sheHe didn’t want to see each other again, and only explained that leaving was a disagreement. “I’m afraid that I’ll be more sad over time, but she makes me feel that she has suffered all kinds of grievances.” Now that
has happened, he comforts himself. These few days are quite worthwhile , Spent money to experience a Cambodian wedding. In just 7 days of " roller coaster" marriage and love, he was trapped in the contradiction between suspicion of being deceived and denial of reality. Now he talks about it again, and he even feels sorry for her.
He smiled wryly and asked the reporter, "Can you understand?"
