Visitor asks: What do you think of
giving up high education for the family and children and becoming a full-time mother?
Heart love consultant answer:
This is a choice. It is definitely okay to choose to give up and choose to persist. The important thing is to be clear about your choices and the responsibilities you need to bear.
When we choose to enter family life and raise children, it actually means that we are choosing to give up. In many cases, the reason why we don’t think of giving up as we are giving up is that we have made choices automatically and will not be entangled because of this. When we start thinking about some choices, it may also mean that we are right to do There are uncertainties in your decision, and there are ambiguities in your heart. You need to be pushed or pulled to make a decision. This requires exploration and interpretation of your own heart.
for the family and children to give up their high education, such a choice is really difficult, one is family and children, and the other is one's own school or career. When there is a conflict between paying for yourself and others, you can explore what makes the conflict between the two? Will there be a conflict between the two? Can there be a more suitable decision? Is it possible to sit down with the other half and discuss it together?
's choice to become a full-time mother is both a personal choice and a family choice. When it is only one person's decision, it is likely to be an existing relationship model, which will cause many problems. As an identity role in the family, full-time mothers need to be viewed in the entire family system. The entire family will relocate and distribute relationships due to the emergence of this role identity, and the role position of everyone in the family system needs to be Correspondingly, it has been transformed and rebuilt a new family atmosphere. Before making a decision,
therefore needs to negotiate among members and form a relatively unanimous concept, that is, to face all the uncertainties that may arise afterwards. The process of negotiation will not be a simple agreement or disagreement. It needs to be honest with each other, face each other in real life, and their attitude towards their chosen lifestyle, including the need and understanding of emotional interaction in the relationship, etc., which may require Spend more time to listen to and understand each other's minds, and gradually create a relationship model that can trust and support each other.
Consultant: Liu Liyu
