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Many women spend a lot of their youth on a man, always trying to "get back their money", even though they know that this man is no longer the best choice.
This is actually the " sunk cost effect " in psychology. Because they are not willing to part with the time, money and effort they put in upfront, women often choose the wrong path when they make the final choice. Even if they know clearly that there is no future, they are still unwilling to let go.
Women will always have the idea of recovering the " sunk cost ". They feel that if they spend energy on a person, they will get a corresponding return, even if this return needs to wait for a long time, or there is no such return at all.
Women mistakenly believe that as long as they are willing to wait, they will eventually see results.
However, they ignore that some people are not destined to be together. No matter how long you wait, it will be in vain. It is better to let go as soon as possible.
Don't deceive yourself. You have feelings about whether his heart is with you and whether he still loves you.
When he loves you, he will unconsciously move closer to you from body to soul. But when he doesn't love you, even if he talks about love on his lips, his rejection and disgust for you cannot be hidden in his words and deeds.
At this time, what you have to do is not to continue to please, but to see the facts clearly and make the right choice as soon as possible.
Three women tell you: When a man hates you, he will treat you like this. Don’t understand.
Peng Liya, 26 years old, account manager: As long as a man is indifferent to you and ignores you for a long time, there is no need to doubt it, he must not love you anymore.
What women are best at doing is to make excuses for men. They clearly feel that men have changed in their hearts, but they just don't want to trust their own intuition.
When a man is indifferent to you and does not reply to messages for a long time, he is still making excuses for him, saying that it is because he is too busy.
As everyone knows, the man has already planned to leave, but he just keeps delaying it until you can't bear it anymore and take the initiative to break up.
When you have a premonition that a man may no longer like you, the truth is often like this. Your feeling is right, he does not love you anymore.
But many women are reluctant to let go, always feeling that as long as they work hard, men will change their minds.
Even many women are not willing to give up until they get something in return. They drag it on and exhaust all their patience.
If a man is willing to be so indifferent to you, it means that he has no feelings for you anymore, but you have been lying to yourself.
Instead of deceiving yourself, it is better to let go early and give yourself more time to find the right person.
Yin Nengshuang, 27 years old, assistant: If a man avoids talking to you about the future, it means that you are not included in his plans at all, let alone marrying you. This is impossible.
My boyfriend and I were introduced to each other by family members. We don’t have a deep relationship with each other. We can talk together because the conditions in all aspects are relatively suitable.
However, after we got together, I found that we had no common language. Many times when he talked, I was echoing him. I was not interested in those topics at all.
Although we don’t have a deep relationship, from my point of view I still want to work hard. After all, I am older, and it is not easy to find someone who is more suitable in all aspects.
I have made sacrifices in front of him many times to enter the next stage of my life, but every time he changed the subject and avoided it.
Although he avoids the topic of marriage, he will always give me excessive reasons, such as living together for a while to get used to each other's living habits.
When he made such a request but objected to marrying me, I knew that he had no feelings for me.
He just regards me as a cheap tool that can be used and wants to take advantage of me. When he is done with it, he will kick me away.
If a man doesn’t want to marry you, that means he doesn’t love you. Don’t make excuses for him, and don’t paralyze yourself. Letting go as soon as possible is the best choice.
Cui Qiulin, 26 years old, politics teacher: When a man talks about marriage, if he bargains hard or even threatens not to get married, it means that he doesn’t have much love for you anymore.
My boyfriend and I are college classmates. After many years of long-distance love, I originally thought our relationship was indestructible.
However, when it came time to talk about marriage, I realized how ridiculous my thoughts were. I had just moved myself for so many years.
At the beginning of this year, the parents of both parties sat down to discuss the marriage. My parents meant that the betrothal gift should be elaborated and a formality, and the money would still return to the hands of us young people.
But the man’s family feels that the bride price is a backward feudal custom. Since the two young people are in free love, they should not give the bride price.
My boyfriend thinks the same way. He thinks I'm too realistic and won't let go of the bride price. He also said that he didn't realize that I was so materialistic before.
even said in front of me that if I insisted on asking for a bride price, the relationship that had lasted so many years would come to an end.
Every word he said seemed to stab my heart. I never thought that I was such a person in his heart.
never thought that our relationship for so many years could not compare to the tens of thousands of dollars in gift money.
But in the end, I figured it out. A man who threatens to break up for a mere gift of tens of thousands of dollars must not be accepted.
Time and Emotion Class:
When a man rejects you and hates you from the bottom of his heart, he will be perfunctory and indifferent to you.
Because in his heart, you are an unimportant existence, and he doesn't care whether you will be sad or not.
For his own benefit, he can hurt you or even threaten you.
If you are still nostalgic for old feelings and compromise blindly, then you are too stupid. It is wise to stop the loss in time.
When he looks at you with no warmth, only disgust and impatience, don't ask for trouble. He no longer sees your advantages in his eyes, which means that there is no future between you.
Really, if you don’t love him, then throw him down. Anyway, there are many good men in the world. You should meet someone who is more suitable for you and loves you more.
