The 55-year-old father sent me a video to borrow 500 yuan. This is because I have a younger brother who is not living up to expectations. It is really ridiculous and sad!
My father opened a small lens processing factory a few years ago with more than a dozen machines. A person can earn more than 100,000 yuan a year. My mother works and earns 3,600 yuan a month. My younger brother also earns more than 5,000 yuan a month. My sister-in-law takes care of her nephew at home.
Logically speaking, if the whole family works to earn money, the family's life should be very good. However, at some point, my younger brother got involved in gambling and owed hundreds of thousands of dollars behind his family's back. He even tricked his sister-in-law into borrowing more than 70,000 yuan from and .
Later, when people outside and the car were controlled by outsiders, we found out at home that he had dug a big hole.
The car was just bought when he got married. It cost about 140,000 yuan. In order to get his brother and the car back, his parents emptied all their savings and borrowed more than 200,000 yuan from outside. At that time, it can be said that my father wanted to die.
For as long as I can remember, although my family is relatively poor, my parents have never owed money. Now that I am 50 years old, I suddenly owe hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt because of this unfulfilled son.
My parents didn't tell me about this at that time, but my cousin who worked with them called me and told me. My cousin said: Your father has been lying in bed for two or three days without eating or drinking. Your mother has gone back to her hometown to raise money. No matter how much we try to persuade your father, it is of no use. You should come over. He usually listens to you the most.
I remember very clearly that it was the Qingming Festival holiday, and I ran to the station crying to buy a ticket to go back to see them, but all the tickets in the past few days were sold out. I called my father at the ticket office crying and said that I couldn't buy a ticket to go back.
My father was also crying over there and said: I asked them not to tell you, so why are they still saying it? Don't come over. I don't want to see anyone now. Just leave me alone for two days and figure it out on my own. Listening to my father's feeble voice, I, a daughter who is married far away, feel so helpless.
After returning home, I called my mother to find out how much money I owed outside. The mother said that their savings were wiped out and they borrowed nearly 300,000 yuan from relatives and friends.
At that time, I told her not to borrow it from relatives and to get it from me first, but my father said she couldn't use my money because I was married far away. Although I was living a good life now, they didn't want such a scandal to make me unable to hold my head high in my husband's family. They also asked me not to mention this matter to my family.
So even if I had money and wanted to help them, they refused. I know that my father, who has been strong all his life, is also trying to save face for himself, because he doesn’t want people to poke his spine when he comes to my place in the future, and let people know that he has educated a prodigal son.
Since then, my parents have been living a life of paying off debts. As long as they save some money, they will immediately pay it back to relatives. In the past few years, they suddenly look much older. Every time I went to see them, I never dared to mention that matter again. Every time I mentioned it, my father would worry about it for a long time.
And I usually find various reasons to transfer money to them. At first, they wouldn't accept it if I transferred too much. Later, I transferred hundreds of dollars each time to them in multiple installments. I couldn't usually accompany them, so I could only help them in this way.
My father would never accept my red envelope every time, so I would send it to my mother’s mobile phone, or to my cousins for them to pass on.
Due to the epidemic in the past two years, lens processing has also been greatly affected. The work is not as much as the previous two years, and the income is not as much as the previous two years, so the parents are even more reluctant to spend money.
This morning, I guess my father really had no choice, so he sent a video to lend 500 yuan, because he had not settled with the boss for several months, and this time he wanted to change engine oil . He asked me to ask for money because he didn't have enough money.
My husband asked me to transfer more, but I know my father. He said 500 is 500, and he won’t accept more, so I ended up transferring 500 to him. Although my father said he borrowed the money and he would pay it back, in the end we definitely wouldn't want it from him.
Over the years, I am really grateful to my husband. He often reminds me to transfer some money to my parents. He also often talks about it. If it doesn’t work, he will help them pay off the remaining debt from us, so that my parents don’t have to work so hard.
But every time I was rejected by my parents. They said it will be fine in the past few years and will get better next year. As long as you live your own little life well, I'll be relieved.
I have been married far away for 11 years. I am grateful to have met my good parents-in-law and my good husband. They have never made me feel wronged at all during these years. It's just that I have a younger brother who doesn't live up to expectations, making my parents suffer and burden me, and making me worried.
