Don't slander the other person behind his back, and don't publicize your family scandal.
Some people, after forging grudges with others, will do some tricks behind their backs. Based on the principle of "If you don't make it easy for me, I won't make it easy for you", they will slander the other person behind their back.
spreads unfavorable remarks about the other party everywhere, talks about the other party's private family affairs, and tells others one by one about the hatred between each other.
Some people may want to slander the other party out of venting their anger, while some people may want to let others comment and stand on the same front as themselves.
No matter what the purpose is, once your hatred spreads to a third person, the matter has deteriorated, making your relationship even colder and difficult to turn around.
Especially when you are relatives, with the blessing of family ties, you are even more taboo about slandering the other person behind his back or sharing your grudges with others.
First of all, family scandals should not be publicized. No matter how big the dispute is between relatives, it is a family matter. It must not be spread to the outside world. It will only make other people laugh at your family.
Secondly, the hatred between brothers and sisters is very likely to be temporary. After all, the broken bones are still connected, and maybe one day they will reconcile as before. And when you start spreading unfavorable remarks about the other person behind his back, once it reaches the other person's ears, it means that there is no possibility of repairing the relationship between you.
Don’t talk to each other when you meet them, let alone slander them behind their backs. Leave some room for each other and retain some dignity for the family.
Don't bring your hatred towards your parents. Filial piety must not be lost.
When brothers and sisters become enemies, the parents are the ones who feel the most sad and sad.
The palms and backs of the hands are full of flesh. The biggest hope of parents is that their children can help each other and be united and harmonious.
Especially when parents are older, they want nothing more than a happy family, filial children, and a happy family.
Even if there is a conflict between you, try to hide it from your parents as much as possible. Don't bring your mutual hatred to your parents and let the elderly worry about it.
No matter how serious the conflict between you is, the word filial piety cannot be lost. Although your brothers and sisters may not have helped you, the nurturing grace of your parents is something we must never forget.
Even if you and your brothers and sisters really don’t want to see each other, the etiquette you should have for your parents must not be changed because of anyone.
It is inevitable that we will meet each other during the holidays. We will always meet each other when we go to our parents' house every day. We should also pretend to be harmonious in front of our parents.
Don't collide in front of your parents, don't break up on bad terms, do your part in your parents' affairs, and don't let personal grudges affect your filial piety towards your parents.
Don’t transfer the hatred between each other to the next generation.
I once heard from a friend about her family. Dissatisfaction with their parents’ favoritism led to a split between them and their aunt’s family.
They had a good relationship before. She often went to her aunt's house to play after school. The sisters got along very happily and harmoniously.
After the conflict, her mother often complained about her aunt's family in front of her and refused to let her play with her cousins. From then on, the two families were like strangers and never walked around again. She also developed a dislike for her cousins in her heart and would avoid them when she saw them.
Later, although the hatred between the two families slowly eased, the seed buried in her heart never went away, and the relationship between her and her cousin would never be the same again.
Don’t tell your children easily about the grudges between adults, because children often lack the basic ability to judge and only follow the words of their parents.
There may not be much of a conflict, but in the minds of children, it is as big as the sky. Even if adults can relax in the future, it is difficult for children to forget.
The grievances and grievances of the parents' generation do not need to be involved with the children, and there is no need to transfer them to the next generation. Don't say certain things in front of your children. They should make their own judgments and not be influenced by the previous generation.
Enmity between brothers and sisters is nothing new, and the friendship between each other is often not that indestructible.
Therefore, when getting along, you should not be too casual. You should also pay attention to one thing. You must not act recklessly in the name of family affection. In the end, it is very likely to hurt each other's feelings.
Even if one day you really become enemies, you must not do the above three things, otherwise it will only deepen the hatred and you may regret it in the future.
