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Perhaps, for some men, it is better to have a confidante than to fall in love.
Confidante is simply a friend of the opposite sex. Although they are not husband and wife, their emotional relationship goes beyond that of husband and wife.
Because they have the same interests and hobbies and the same depth of soul, they often speak at the same frequency.
The tacit understanding between them may be deeper than that between husband and wife. This is why some women do not want their husbands to have confidante. Their existence severely threatens the status of their wives.
Communicating with a close friend is soul satisfying.
It is difficult to find a person in the world who has the same thoughts as yourself, and it is even more difficult if it is a person of the opposite sex, so most men will cherish such a relationship.
A fan once asked why men long for a confidante and are willing to tell her even things they don’t want to tell her.
In fact, men have only one psychology when they long for a confidante: to achieve psychological comfort and pave the way for their own feelings.
As we all know, women are not willing to share their lovers with other women.
And men are not stupid, they don’t know what their women want.
But unfortunately, most men still cannot resist the temptation of their confidante and choose to continue to have contact with each other.
They will get to know each other and get into each other's lives.
Firstly, it is to satisfy one's own spirit, and secondly, it is to have the opportunity to develop with the other party in the future.
In the final analysis, men have other motives for longing for a confidante. You must know that people who truly love in their hearts will not do such ridiculous things as excessive contact with the opposite sex.
Confidants can know their thoughts and are consistent with their living habits, which leads to them having a great sense of satisfaction.
They are obsessed with their confidante, but there is someone around them who can't bear to live their current love life, so they hang on to each other.
Perhaps, the confidante also has the other person’s heart, and the confidante’s thoughts are also consistent with the man’s.
Getting along with people of the opposite sex requires a lot of attention. If a man doesn't pay attention to his thoughts about his "lover", then he will most likely have other plans for his relationship.
Many couples will quarrel because of their confidante. In the eyes of women, a confidante is a meddler in the relationship and threatens the existence of the relationship between lovers.
From a man's point of view, if he finally finds someone who has the same interests as him, he definitely doesn't want to let go.
Therefore, the difference in thinking between the two people led to emotional discord, and confidante has also become a "derogatory term".
I heard a saying: "If a man treats a woman differently by gender, it is possible for them to have an intimate relationship."
Generally speaking, true pure friendship between the opposite sex is when men treat women as brothers, and women treat men as sisters.
Although men who long for a confidante may not necessarily go out of their way, they must really like having another woman by their side.
To put it another way, if there is a person of the opposite sex who can listen to everything about you and understand your difficulties, you will not be able to withstand the temptation.
Because that is the understanding that your man cannot give you. For you, the other person may be your little sun, which can relieve all your unbalanced emotions.
There is a popular saying on the Internet. A man's confidante is disgusting, but a woman's confidante makes people happy. This is the same truth.
Many people’s feelings are actually a piece of cake. It is not difficult to understand that they want to find someone to talk to.
There is a fundamental difference between just wanting to talk and wanting to develop a relationship.
If you want to tell the difference, just look at the behavior between a man and his confidante.
Those who talk frequently but keep a distance between the two are simply talking; those who behave in an intimate manner, even more than a couple, are those who want to develop a relationship.
All ambiguities between opposite sexes are often caused by "permission".
If a man calls the opposite sex a "friend", that may not necessarily be a problem, but if he calls the opposite sex a "confidante", there is a high probability that there is something wrong.
In his heart, this confidante must have entered the other person's heart, so he received such a high evaluation.
A confidant is hard to find, and you may not always find a confidant in your life.
But a man regards a woman as his confidante and is still complacent, which shows that he is delighted with this confidante.
If the two of them hadn't already had someone by their side, maybe there would really be some development.
Of course, some men still have thoughts about their confidante even if there is someone by their side. Keeping the other person by their side to keep in touch is actually to pave the way for future relationships.
When a person meets someone who understands him better than his wife, what will he do?
This question is actually not difficult to answer. There are two situations. One is to guard your heart and keep this love in your heart; the other is to get closer to the person who understands you better and leave your wife when the time is right.
These two answers actually point to the same psychology, which is to satisfy the comfort of the soul and plant the seeds of emotion.
It is understandable that men long for a confidante, but if a man really goes to find a confidante, and the relationship between the confidante and you breaks down, then such a man is not necessary.
Perhaps, people really meet many people they like in life, but true love must stay with the first person.
Because liking can never be equal to love, loving someone is because two people have experienced things that others have not experienced, and have feelings that others have not. That is the beauty accumulated over time, which cannot be erased or replaced in a lifetime.
Therefore, a smart man will not look for a confidante, let alone make his lover unhappy.
