pictures | Xiao Shede
text | miki porridge
Before, it was said that young people were lying flat, and they fled from Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, returned to small counties to take public exams, and lived a carefree life from then on. Is it really that good?
recently read an article telling the stories of several young people who returned to the county town.
It is true that life is quite nourishing, and she has realized a beautiful life of working nine to five, going home to eat, and having her parents take care of her children. But a good life comes at a price, and there is too little money. If young people want to maintain a decent life with a house and a car, most of them need subsidies from their parents.
The parents in the system are in the county seat and are at the top of the contempt chain. Their retirement salary is more than that of young people, so they are willing to subsidize. But since you pay for it yourself, you need to have the absolute right to speak -
When you get married, have children, find a job, you have to make the final decision on every detail. Do young people want to be independent? Then you risk losing your decent life.
As a result, the younger generation is lying flat, with no love for life and no pursuit of the future. Eating, drinking, and dawdling around every day, and even doing work in vain...
The parents who desperately dragged the baby back to the county town began to worry again: they knew nothing and would only grow old at home.
Why is this happening? They don't think deeply. You still feel that you have given everything you have for your children, so why can’t you make demands according to your own will? You eat more salt than you eat rice.
hey. This reminds me of two stories.
01
I have a friend. Her father came to Shanghai in the 1990s and was very good at making money. He quickly bought several houses, with a total area of more than 1,000 square meters. They were still in core cities. After ten years of soaring housing prices, think about how rich they are.
The rich father believes that if one person makes money, the whole family will not be hungry, and the others can be supported by him. Therefore, her mother had never worked as a full-time housewife in her whole life, and she did not study well, so her father sent her to a good school and became a poor student.
Anyway, there is a thread in her heart that no matter what, someone will always tell the truth.
But her grades are really bad, her temper is bad, and she has absolutely no awareness of cherishing the five-star card in life. But think about it, if wealth has existed objectively for as long as you can remember, such as living in a villa, driving a luxury car, eating king crab and feeding caviar, most likely you will not find this rare thing.
almost failed to pass the high school entrance examination. Her father spent money to find a tutoring group for her to barely pass. The competitive father was so angry that he said: I have never lost in my entire life of passionate entrepreneurship, how come you are in such a mess?
Out of sight, out of mind, so he spent a lot of money to send her to study abroad. Maybe you feel that only by sending your children out can you quickly become independent, or that you only know how hard it is to make money as a father after suffering?
However, the study abroad destination chosen by the rich father is very strange. It is the kind of place where wealth is endless and everyone is tired of lying down. The school can also apply for it with money. In the end, I spent millions and spent four years abroad without even speaking English.
After returning to China, he also found a job within the system.
I have to say here that her father is indeed far-sighted. At that time, there were very few international students, and those who came back from abroad would be snatched up regardless of their grades. It was not like now that even if you graduate from an Ivy League school, you can't find a good job.
She didn't work long enough before she encountered all sorts of troubles, including office politics and harassment in the workplace. How could a person who had been pampered since childhood endure such a tone, so Da Che Da Wu immediately resigned and went home to gnaw on old age.
Her father is quite adaptable. He has a rich family and can afford to support the whole family. It's just that because the whole family is in his boat, no one is financially independent, and their arrogance is getting higher and higher.
He feels that since he provides for the whole family, everyone should be taken care of, but this is just wishful thinking. The stay-at-home wife has lived with him all her life, and although she is used to not fussing too much, her children will not become well-behaved just because they are old.
The father and daughter quarreled when they met, and the quarrel was so intense that only money was left to maintain their daily life. No matter how angry one is, he will never struggle with money, and no matter how angry the other is, he can't make up his mind to cut off the supply of and .
One time, a friend was very angry and came to me to complain that she was using money to find her father. Her father took out the cash and slapped it on the table and slapped her in the face. It was really disrespectful...
I said, since you are so angry, why don't you consider finding another job?
She sighed, she didn’t choose to go to work even though she was enjoying her youth. How could she possibly return to the workplace when she was already 35 this year? Just make do with it.
I have a house and money but don’t have to work. In the end, I thought this kind of life was just doable.
Her father probably has never thought about how his son, who has been gnawing at him for decades, will fare if he cuts off his confession one day. The grandson can only eat chaffy vegetables.
So there were a lot of medical troubles in Beijing in the past. Mothers in their 90s were sent to the hospital. If the treatment was not good, they would go to the hospital to make trouble. People in a vegetative state would also hang up ICU to hold their breath, otherwise the doctor would be guilty.
Do you think they are really filial?
is not at all. They are all used to it, and they are reluctant to part with their parents' generous pension, so they try to find ways to extend their lives. In the end, it turned out that my parents couldn't hold on any longer, so they sent me to the hospital without treatment. In the end, they found a reason to cause trouble and make a fortune.
02
I also heard a story from a friend. There is a child in their work unit, and his family is rich and belongs to the second generation of Beijing real estate.
My parents are very powerful. Maybe he judged too early that the genes he inherited were mediocre, so he didn't want to let the second generation flourish. He sent his children into the system as soon as they graduated, standing on the shoulders of their parents, and there was no need to struggle.
This kid’s family is not short of money, so he spends money very freely. Iphone No matter what generation it is, as soon as a new press conference is held, the old ones will be eliminated and given away. When the new game consoles come out, no one can remember the old ones and throw them away. He doesn't want them either. He even said to forget about it and just leave them with you for now. I have no use for them.
I work in the office every day and don’t have much to do. I buy milk tea and coffee for my colleagues, which is very peaceful.
He did not want any development within the system, and he did not consider promotion. A small clerk plans to sit tight until the end. Anyway, he doesn’t have to do too much work, and the rest is his own life.
His parents sometimes worry that they are caught up in the family planning generation and cannot practice trumpeting, so their successors will have to suffer. This Buddhist only child will definitely not be able to inherit his mantle, so he cannot retire even when he is old, and must build like crazy.
Sometimes, it may not be enough to raise an obedient child, because parents may not have a long-term vision.
Cousin is the kind of person who survives a disaster. Back then, his father served as the factory director. He is determined to let his son inherit his mantle. The students around me were all assigned work in this way.
But my cousin is wild at heart and has a soft spot for Fortune 500 companies. He would rather go to Guangzhou to sell mobile phones alone than live a life of seeing everything under the care of his father.
Later, he worked hard to create his own world and gained a foothold in Shenzhen. I look back at my classmates in my boyhood. Some of them were bald, some suffered from premature aging, and they declined together with the declining factories...
The stable and high-quality jobs in the eyes of my parents back then have now become shackles that trap their lives.
doesn’t have the courage to break away. After all, when he was young, he could only obey the arrangements of his parents (both his parents were the beneficiaries of the iron rice bowl). Now that he is old, would he dare to start all over again?
Parents plan for their children throughout their lives, but most of them become a stumbling block for the next generation.
Many people hate the fact that iron cannot become steel. They scold the children for how old they are, and they chew them openly, almost sucking the blood of their parents, okay? But they seldom reflect on it, why do children who have been raised with care become like this?
Because of the script it was written, it was destined to lose the starting line and never keep up with the changes in the world.
I even think that obedient children may not necessarily be good, but misbehaving children are a blessing to parents. But when raising them, they will most likely get angina from the latter.
Parents of this generation are living in a bit of a pickle, including myself.
Sometimes I feel very worried when I look at my two babies. They are not working hard and do not distinguish between grains and grains. They don’t even know how to collect garbage. I want to throw them out of the house quickly to give them some exercise. If you want to eat your old age, there is no way.
But after one day, I will feel soft-hearted and feel that relying on them to study is hopeless. It is better to work hard to earn tuition fees, or to hoard fixed assets as much as possible, so that they can have enough food in the future.
knew clearly that the child was in need of beatings, but he still could not be cruel. I can only be anxious and worry about two carefree people. Why do they not know how to worry about their future...
