Is there any pure friendship between men and women?
Can male and female friends have friends of the opposite sex?
How close is the distance between you and the opposite sex to be considered ambiguous?
When it comes to these issues, I believe everyone has their own set of logic.
Lao Bai would like to talk to you today:
How to control the social distance between you and the opposite sex?
1. To call
, you can directly call him by his name
or you can use a friendly name.
But it is absolutely not allowed:
Brother, please bring me some milk tea, please~
It is absolutely not allowed to act like a baby and call me brother or sister, baby or the like. Because nicknames are exclusive to couples, using nicknames with the opposite sex is ambiguous.
2. Chat
You can ask him questions or express your gratitude.
but definitely not:
is there?
is here, is something okay?
is fine, I just want to find someone to talk to.
There is also a relationship between you and others. Who would believe you if you say you are fine?
3. Share
Cue him on things related to him, and you can also share it with friends at gatherings.
But absolutely not:
Look at this cloud, it looks like a swan
Look at this cat, it’s so cute
This song is so nice, I want to share it with you
If you are serious, you have to send him a WeChat message every day. You have to know that the desire to share often includes love, remember to control it!
4. Gifts
You can join in with others, or you can boldly give
as ordinary friends, but absolutely not:
Send some gifts with obvious meanings
such as roses, underwear, precious jewelry, etc. The meaning is too obvious and it is easy for people to misunderstand.
5. Take a car
You can carpool together, or you can occasionally ride in the car
But absolutely not:
I will bring you breakfast every day in the future, and in return you can give it to me every day
What do you want to do in the car every day? He is not your exclusive driver, the co-pilot is always your girlfriend’s!
6. Eat
You can have dinner together as colleagues
You can also occasionally meet and have a meal together
But absolutely not:
That restaurant has a discount on ribs today, should we go buy them together?
I heard that the lemon chicken feet at this restaurant is good, would you like to try it together?
A new restaurant has opened downstairs. Let’s try it together?
Being invited to have dinner together every once in a while always makes people feel weird. Anyone can be a meal partner, but why does it have to be him?
7. Work
You can work overtime together on weekdays, and you can also work overtime on weekends
But absolutely not:
Ah, honey, I am working overtime alone, I will come back later
I talk about working overtime alone, but in fact there are other colleagues of the opposite sex. Don't say that you are afraid of your lover misunderstanding. When you start hiding it, it means you already have a problem!
8. Physical contact
You can hold hands while playing games, or you can hug and take a group photo after graduation
But absolutely not:
Let me take a bite of your
Creating ambiguity when alone like Lin Youyou must have ulterior motives!
How to maintain social boundaries between men and women, especially how to maintain social distance between men and women of the opposite sex after falling in love, has always been a difficult problem.
Some people think that there is no pure friendship between men and women, and there should be no other contact except necessary social interactions, while some people think that it is just fun and no problem. But Lao Bai feels that if two people are single, it's okay to be ambiguous, and there may be a possibility of being together, but if either party has a partner, it will be very uncomfortable to do so.
The most important thing is that both lovers must agree on the standards of the opposite sex and avoid double standards, so that the relationship between two people can be stable.
Okay, that’s the end of this issue. If you still have any questions, you can send a private message to Lao Bai! Click to follow and let’s see you next time!
