To survive in this world, we are destined to be inseparable from interacting with others.
People with high emotional intelligence can always handle all relationships just right, and getting along with them feels like spring breeze. People with low emotional intelligence always don't know what to say and what not to say. The first time they speak, they end the topic. No matter how much they do, others will not appreciate it.
Therefore, in the adult world, getting along with others is an art and a kind of wisdom. But no matter what kind of interpersonal relationship, comfort is the premise.
A truly comfortable and stable social relationship must start with enthusiasm and end with distance; start with friendship and end with blessings.
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One of the social rules of adults
Distance produces beauty
Distance produces beauty, which is actually the most basic human connection. Human nature is like this. No matter how good the relationship is between two people, as long as they get along for a long time, conflicts and disagreements will inevitably occur. Even couples with the best relationship will do this.
Because being too close means seeing each other too clearly, including all the shortcomings and flaws of the other party. Once they do not meet expectations, they will complain and conflicts will accumulate here.
No one likes to be pestered all day long, let alone being supervised all the time. Keeping an appropriate distance is to leave space in each other's hearts, leave room for easing conflicts, and avoid embarrassing situations.
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The second social rule of adults
Keep a low profile
When getting along with others, always remember that keeping a low profile is the real great wisdom. Because not everyone in this world wants you to live well, or even not want you to live well at all, so that they can be qualified to look down on you from a high place with a sense of superiority.
Some people always like to do things and behave in a high-profile manner. At the slightest hint of trouble, I want to announce it to the whole world. But as everyone knows, people who are jealous of you have long been hiding in the dark, racking their brains to pull you down.
Only if you appear to the outside world that your life is not so good, will others not be coveted. Being low-key is a kind of self-cultivation and a kind of cultivation. The lower-key the talent, the more truly they can win respect and admiration.
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The third social rule of adults
Know when to stop
In the relationship between adults, maintaining the right amount of concern and just the right amount of enthusiasm is a basic awareness that each other should have. Just like a glass of warm water, neither cold nor hot, just right.
Sometimes, excessive care will increase the psychological burden on people. The daily overflow of care is far less memorable than the warmth that came from the last time. Excessive enthusiasm will make people feel uncomfortable. Once the enthusiasm subsides, only awkwardness remains between them.
Therefore, when getting along with others, you must have a good sense of proportion. Don't get acquainted too quickly, and don't get too close. When encountering difficulties, we will do our best to help sincerely. If nothing happens, everyone wishes each other well and is well.
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The fourth social rule of adults
Be cautious in your words and deeds, treat yourself as an outsider
Life is a long road with ups and downs. After all, you have to walk it and experience it alone. No matter how good your relationship with others is, never treat yourself as an outsider.
Never overestimate your status in the hearts of others. In any relationship, we are all just outsiders after all. Because everyone is busy, no one will spend time and energy worrying about you unless you can bring him real benefits.
Always remember to be careful in your words and deeds, do not talk about others behind their backs, and do not impose your ideas on others. Precipitate yourself and cultivate your wisdom. If you talk too much, you will be wrong.
