Just after the Spring Festival of 2022, Wang Qiuhua (pseudonym), who lives in Henan, found a local emotional mediation agency to help persuade her eldest daughter-in-law to return home.
According to Wang Qiuhua, her daughter-in-law Linlin (pseudonym) went back to her parents' home half a year ago, but never came back. She left behind her three children: a 6-year-old and a pair of twins who were over one year old. They didn't care about her.
She and her husband Wang Hua had three grandchildren. They couldn't bear it anymore and called their daughter-in-law, but she didn't answer the phone. She asked her son to pick her up, but her mother-in-law kicked her out of the house!
Seeing that the weather is getting warmer, Wang Hua has to go to work, and his youngest son is getting engaged soon. The family is very busy, but his daughter-in-law hides away to enjoy some leisure time, not even caring about her own children. Wang Qiuhua was so anxious that he couldn't sleep all night!
Really unable to do anything, Wang Qiuhua asked the mediator for help, hoping that the mediator could persuade her daughter-in-law to go home.
So, why did Wang Qiuhua’s daughter-in-law run away from home? Can this family dispute be resolved? Let's look down together.
Pregnant before marriage, the wedding was looked down upon by her husband's family
The mediator contacted Wang Qiuhua's eldest daughter-in-law Linlin. She took the initiative to ask the mediator to meet, saying that she had a lot of grievances and had nowhere to talk. After
met Linlin, she told the mediator that the conflict between her and her parents-in-law had occurred as early as seven years ago.
In the winter of 2014, Lin Lin met her husband Wang Lei through a friend's introduction. The two had similar temperaments, and after getting along for a while, they established a relationship.
Everything went smoothly, but when it came time to talk about marriage, Wang Lei's mother, Wang Qiuhua, disapproved of the marriage. When Lin Lin came to her house for the first time, she felt that Lin Lin did not look like a person who knew how to live a good life, so she persuaded her son to end the relationship.
But Wang Lei made it clear: I will not marry anyone who is not Linlin! Wang Qiuhua reluctantly agreed to the marriage.
Next, when the parents of both parties sat together to get engaged, some unpleasant episodes occurred because of the bride price. Linlin's mother believed that her future mother-in-law was too cunning and would not be a good person, so she advised her not to get married, as it would be difficult for her to live in the past.
Originally a loving couple, they were caught between their parents and didn't know what to do. At this time, Linlin became pregnant, and both parents took a step back. Wang Qiuhua and her husband also began to arrange their son's marriage.
At that time, Wang Qiuhua bought a new house, which had not yet been renovated. She told Linlin that the house would belong to the young couple sooner or later, but it was too late to renovate it, so they would rent it as a wedding room first. Linlin agreed.
In the spring of 2015, Linlin and Wang Lei were preparing to get married.
On the day of the wedding, her mother-in-law Wang Qiuhua clearly agreed to buy a three-gold , but she only gave her a diamond ring.
Linlin's mother was very angry when she learned about it. She believed that the groom's family was bullying their daughter into being pregnant and wanted to get married even if she didn't want to marry. She didn't take her daughter seriously, so she stopped her daughter from getting married.
At this time, a banquet was held at the groom's house, and the guests were all waiting to see the bride, but the bride still didn't get in the car. The two families were completely at odds over this, and there was a big fuss on the wedding day.
The big day was so chaotic that Linlin was in a dilemma, not knowing which way to turn.
A few days later, Wang Lei came to pick up Linlin. She decided to return to her husband's house and live peacefully with her husband. When
walked out of her parents' home, her mother said sternly that as long as she stepped out of her parents' home, their relationship as mother and daughter would be over!
Linlin gritted her teeth and bowed to her mother, resolutely returning to her husband's house. After that, she didn't even step foot into her parents' house for seven years.
The house was given to the younger son, and the eldest daughter-in-law returned to her parents' home angrily.
In order not to be looked down upon, and to reassure her mother, Linlin has been working hard to run her own small family. She gave birth to a son with her first child, and then gave birth to a pair of twins a few years later. The couple has always had a good relationship, and her parents-in-law often help them take care of their children. Linlin is also very grateful to them.
In the past seven years, the family lived a peaceful and happy life, but they never thought about her brother-in-law's marriage, which made Linlin's heart completely unbalanced: her parents-in-law actually gave her younger son Wang Liang the new house they promised her back then.
Linlin's family has been renting a house. She and her husband have mentioned moving to their parents-in-law, but her mother-in-law always used various excuses and reasons to stop them. Linlin felt that her own house would be hers sooner or later, and because her children were too young, the newly renovated house was not suitable for living, so she kept putting off the move.
But what Linlin didn't expect was that the real estate certificate of this house had her brother-in-law's name written on it from the beginning. Her mother-in-law just coaxed her to marry her!
Now my brother-in-law Wang Liang is getting married, and every aspect of the engagement has surpassed that of Linlin back then, which shows that the parents-in-law attach great importance to their youngest son's marriage.
Linlin recalled her shabby and sloppy wedding, and she couldn't figure it out for a moment. She said to her husband, "Go back to her parents' home" and left.
After returning to her parents' home, Linlin burst into tears the moment she saw her mother. She regretted not listening to her mother's words, but in the end she was tricked by her mother-in-law.
Linlin’s mother persuaded her to live with her parents’ family. If her husband’s family didn’t give her an explanation, she would never go home! In this way, the two sides remained in a stalemate for half a year before the husband's family thought of resolving the conflict.
It can be seen from Linlin's words that Wang Qiuhua and his wife were not equal in the marriage of their two sons, and favored one over the other, which led to the current situation.
said that the person who tied the bell must untie it. He wanted Linlin to go home and wanted Wang Qiuhua and his wife to give a reasonable explanation about the house. The mediator
told Wang Qiuhua what Linlin said. She said with great embarrassment that her younger son's marriage had been decided and he would get married soon. If there was no house, the marriage would be ruined!
She hopes that the mediator will do the work of her eldest son Wang Lei and ask him to persuade his wife to go home. She felt that her son's attitude in this matter was obviously biased towards his daughter-in-law. It was also possible that the son did not allow his daughter-in-law to go home, and the couple deliberately created problems for their parents.
The love between brothers is deep, and the family is reconciled as before.
It is said that upright officials cannot handle household affairs. Wang Qiuhua and his wife not only have conflicts with their eldest daughter-in-law, but there also seems to be a gap between them and their eldest son. In order to resolve the family conflict, the mediator brought Wang Qiuhua, his wife and their two sons together.
Faced with the mediator, Wang Qiuhua's eldest son, Wang Lei, finally vented the grievances in his heart in front of his parents.
Wang Lei felt that his parents were too partial. When he got married, his parents really didn't care, and many things were done by make do. Perhaps in their eyes, their wife Linlin is pregnant, and they want to get married even if they don't want to marry. There are not so many conditions to negotiate. Even the promised house was deceived. Now he has three sons, and the family burden is heavy. He has been renting a house, but his parents gave the house to his younger brother. He is very dissatisfied with his parents' approach.
Regarding her eldest son's complaints, Wang Qiuhua explained that when Wang Lei got married, their conditions were not as good as they are now, so it was easier to arrange the marriage. But after Wang Lei got married, the old couple have been helping to take care of the children, and they have also provided a lot of subsidies. As for the house, they agreed verbally at first, but now that their youngest son is old and their marriage has been decided, they can't afford the money to buy a house for the time being, so they have to use the house as a wedding room for their youngest son.
When Wang Qiuhua talked about the house, she felt ashamed of her eldest son. After discussing with her husband, she decided to give the old house to her eldest son. When the old couple works to earn some money, they can make up the difference for the eldest son. I hope Wang Lei will understand his parents' difficulties and not compete with his brother for the house.
learned that the younger son Wang Liang (pseudonym), who had been silent because the sister-in-law of the house had returned to her parents' home, walked to sit down next to his eldest brother Wang Lei, took his hand and said sincerely: He knew that his parents were biased because of his marriage. He reassured his eldest brother that he would not forget the love between brothers. After marriage, he and his wife helped his eldest brother and his family.
Wang Lei was also moved by his younger brother's words. He said that he was also a father now and could understand the current difficulties of his parents. He no longer cared about the past things. He also agreed to give the house to his brother. As for his wife Linlin, he believed that based on their relationship as a couple, Linlin would definitely go home and take care of the children.
In this way, after the mediator's persuasion, Wang Qiuhua, his wife and their eldest son resolved the estrangement in their hearts and reconciled as before.
Now that things have come to this, it can be considered a dream come true. But the question is, can Wang Lei bring his wife back from her parents' home? After all, Linlin's mother is still "making suggestions" for her. Does she listen to her mother or her husband? What do you think about this? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area.
Conclusion
As the saying goes, the palm of the hand and the back of the hand are all meat, but the meat of the palm of the hand is always thicker than the back of the hand. Just like parents treating their children, they always favor one over the other, and rarely can a bowl of water be treated equally.
But people with a discerning eye can also see that the child whose parents favor is either the weakest among the children, or the most capable among the children.
When it comes to children, once parents develop "partiality", it will definitely affect the harmony of the family. At best, the children will be at odds, or at worst, the children will become like enemies and stop interacting with each other.
Therefore, if you want peace at home, parents should set an example and make a bowl of water even.
When people come into this world, what they cannot choose is: parents cannot choose their children, and you cannot choose your parents. Since it is all destiny and cannot be changed, just cherish it!
