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The reasons why girls don’t like you and still “hang you”
1. Satisfy her “vanity”
Deep down in everyone’s heart, there is vanity and a desire to gain a sense of accomplishment from the outside world.
Whether it is praise, admiration or pursuit from others, it can greatly satisfy a person's emotions.
After all, in an intimate relationship, no one is willing to resist proving their charm.
If you are pursuing a girl, the girl is unwilling to give you any clear answer.
Not only that: she also keeps showing off to people around her that she is being pursued by you and that she has received gifts from you. This shows that subconsciously, she only regards you as a means to "show her own charm".
is pursued by more boys, which greatly satisfies the vanity of some girls.
2. She is treating you as a "spare tire"
How to judge whether you are being used as a spare tire by a girl?
has these measures.
Her attitude towards you is: no rejection, no initiative, no acceptance.
will not refuse your efforts. No matter what you pay for her, she will accept it all.
will not take the initiative to find you, will not send you messages, and will reply to your messages depending on his mood; he will not take the initiative to do anything to you, but will not resist your initiative.
does not accept your confession or your request to "go further".
If she consumes your efforts so naturally, please don't doubt that the girl is using you as a spare tire.
3. "Ride a donkey to find a horse" view of love
Some girls will never invest their feelings in one person, at least without getting enough benefits, they will not find someone to marry and live such a dull life. People like
are called "Female Sea Kings".
In her sea, you are not the only big fish.
She enjoys your kindness and dedication, your love, and your various attentiveness to her;
However, it is impossible for her to fall in love and get married with you, because she has more suitors.
Riding a donkey to look for a horse, eating from the bowl and looking at the pot.
In her eyes, there is no "most perfect" partner, only someone with greater value.
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How should boys pursue the girl they like?
1. You can give, but don’t “overpay”
Remember, any relationship should have a sense of proportion; any payment should have principles and bottom lines.
Pursuing the person you like does not mean that the more you pay, the better.
On the contrary, sometimes the more you give, the less the other person knows how to cherish it.
There is a concept in psychology called "diminishing marginal utility effect".
can be understood as:
The more people get the same things, the lower their pleasure and satisfaction.
The concept of sending someone a bouquet of roses every day is completely different from sending a bouquet every month.
Only if you understand this truth can you understand how to get along with girls.
can be pursued, but "with reservations";
can express yourself, but leave some trump cards for yourself;
can be nice to her, but remember to wait for her to give you feedback.
2. Never fall into the misunderstanding of "self-impression"
For example:
You buy supper for her in the middle of the night, appear on time every day at her company downstairs to pick her up after get off work, and every time you take the initiative to send her a message and call her.
Is this what she asked you to do? Not really.
What you pay is all based on your wishful thinking.
Such dedication will only make you fall into self-impression.
In an intimate relationship, giving itself is meaningless; you must get corresponding feedback for every effort you make.
For example:
Every time you pay for a girl, ask her: "How do you want to thank me?"
"Do you also want a reward? "How about giving me something to reward you?"
If she is willing to give you feedback, it means that you two have a good relationship and she is not disgusted with you;
If she does not give you any feedback and enjoys it as a matter of course, then stay away as soon as possible.
3. Pursuing girls with "low self-esteem" will only make you become a "licking dog"
What is "low self-esteem"?
For example:
You have no principles, even if she hurts you, you still have to force her.
She obviously doesn’t want it, but you still chase after giving it.
In front of her, you have lost yourself. You are obviously a very confident person, but you have low self-esteem, please and wrong yourself.
You have no dignity and always compromise.
A state like this will not make her like you.
Boys need to understand: the essence of intimate relationships is attraction.
If you can attract her and there is something good about you that makes her curious, then you have succeeded.
Good relationships don’t require you to work hard to pursue them.
You only need to express some of your feelings to her, and she will naturally get closer to you.
You have to understand that if a girl likes you, how can she bear to let you pay alone?
Today’s topic:
Have you ever experienced “failure in pursuit”?
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