Text丨There is Love in the West Chamber
Time is not long, I hope you will meet in my words and it will not be too late!
Under normal circumstances, everyone will default to the idea that men are synonymous with open-mindedness and informality. But in fact, there are thousands of kinds of people in the world, and not all men are generous and considerate.
As women, although we cannot look at people with colored glasses, we should at least let ourselves see the man in front of us clearly and not be blinded by appearances and temporary love.
You must know that if you are with a selfish man, your love experience will definitely not be beautiful. If you still marry him, there will be countless hard days in the future.
So you have to remember that before you love someone, you must know whether he is worthy of love. The more a man cares about these three aspects, the more selfish he is, so you must stay away.
NO.1 How much money did you spend on him?
You may not believe it if you tell me. Once a selfish man turns his back on himself, he will simply not recognize his relatives. Some time ago, I saw such a strange relationship on the Internet.
There was a young couple who chose to break up because of their incompatibility. At first, when the two were together, the man was quite nice to the woman.
But when the girl broke up with the man, the man seemed to have changed into a different person and started to settle accounts with the girl.
Only then did the girl realize that the man had kept a special account during the years they had been together. Even expenses as small as a few dollars were not left out by the man.
Now that she has broken up, the man thinks that it would be a great loss for him not to ask the girl to get the money back.
But in fact, in this relationship, the girl has paid a lot. However, a selfish man only sees his money, but cannot see the girl's sincerity.
Therefore, when a man insists on asking a girl to pay back the money, the girl feels more and more that her choice to break up is a very right thing.
After all, when you are with such a free man, you can't experience the beauty of love, but only have endless accounts to settle and a head that you can't hold up.
In his eyes, you come second to money. In other words, he can live without you, but he cannot live without the blessing of money.
So, don’t try to fall in love with a man who likes to care about money, because you will never be as important as his money.
NO.2 The depth of your love for him
is a beautiful thing that comes from the heart without expecting any return, but in the eyes of a selfish man, it is the result of weighing the pros and cons.
In other words, how much he loves you depends on how much love he feels from you. He can't be more than you, and you can never be less than him.
But there is never a standard of balance in matters of love. We all act based on our feelings, so naturally we cannot achieve 100% reciprocity.
But how can a selfish man think of so much? He will only think that if you don't love him that much, why should he spend time and energy on you.
Moreover, such men often have a strong possessiveness and a sense of doubt that they are unwilling to trust others. As long as he didn't see it with his own eyes and feel it personally, it didn't count.
Being with such a man, even if you are deeply affectionate for him, even if you are loyal to him. As long as he sees you chatting and laughing with other members of the opposite sex, he will be unhappy and suspicious of you.
Because the love he desires in his heart is for you to hand over everything and for you to become his accessory and nanny.
Therefore, there is no need to spend time talking about feelings with a selfish man. He who only sees yourself forever will not be grateful for your efforts.
NO.3 Whether gains and losses are directly proportional
In addition, a selfish man also cares about whether gains and losses are proportional. No matter in which aspect, he can never suffer.
He cares about where he gets it from others, and he cares more about whether what he pays can get the same or even superior return from you.
Once what you respond to cannot meet his ideal standards, he will choose to keep a distance from you, for fear that you will take advantage of him.
Not only that, even if you get along with your relatives, he will clearly put a price on you and ask you to get along with him in equal return.
When you get along with such a man, you will only feel that your life is full of feathers and suffocation. Because in his eyes, he is the only one who is not suitable for calculation, and he who is the most scheming will always be the poor person.
Moreover, no matter how you enlighten him, the world in his eyes is gloomy. Because in his heart, only by firmly grasping absolute power can he truly feel safe.
And his excessive focus on gains and losses also determines that he will never see other beautiful things. Unless, like an orange that cannot be squeezed dry, you can let him ask for it without any bottom line.
If you can't do it, you must stay away from him. Otherwise, you will become the target of his calculations sooner or later.
Conclusion:
Although people will be punished by heaven and earth if they don’t do it for themselves, this and selfishness are two different directions. We should protect ourselves, but only if we don’t actively hurt others.
A man's character is really important. If he is so selfish that he only sees himself, it is no longer simple self-protection, but malicious possession and dominance.
You must understand that a man who only cares about you cannot bring you love and happiness. After all, is the only one he cares about most.
So, stay away from selfish men, stay away from men who care about possessiveness, money, and gains and losses.
Otherwise, your life will become bleak because of his selfishness.
