Written by Mu Yinggongzi
Everyone knows that "love does not prioritize first come, first served", but no one knows that "to be a human being, you must understand etiquette, justice and integrity".
I heard a gossip a few days ago. A friend's husband was cheated by someone else. The whole family was happy, but this sister was drunk every day and fell unconscious, singing " Green Light " by Stefanie Sun , with a bright green grassland above her head.
The most irritating thing is that she tried every means to find the contact information of the mistress. After contacting her, she thought she should be courteous first and explain the stakes of the matter first. However, she played a "domineering card" and directly taught her first wife how to behave, "There is no such thing as first come first served in love", "We are the true love, you are just making do"... The output was as fierce as a tiger, and she didn't know that she thought this was the real wife.
Nowadays, mistresses are not what they used to be. It is undoubtedly a fantasy to try to persuade them to quit with morals. However, my friend quickly calmed down and she directly replied: Do you think he will divorce me and then marry you? As expected, it didn't take long for my husband to kneel down and admit his mistake, and made his attitude and position clear: never do it again.
all say that men cheat only zero or countless times, and my friends can understand it. As adults, love and love are just spices in life, and how you live your life is the king. Seeing that there is no hope of getting a higher position, the mistress started crying, making trouble, and hanging herself again, but this time her husband did not dare to do any small tricks.
Knowing that the other party has a family will not end well, but there is another type of people who passively act as a third party: they do not know that the other person has a family in the early stage of falling in love, and they think it is too late when they find out, so let’s talk about it today - If you fall in love with a person who has a family, you must not do these three things, it will not be good for you.
1: Don’t reciprocate the fantasy and think that you are the other person’s true love.
Some friends are very naive. After interfering in other people’s marriages, they shout the slogan of true love first: I have never thought about destroying other people’s marriages. I just want to be with him. I love him and am willing to give everything for him.
This kind of behavior is, at best, love brain . At worst, it means being both responsible and independent. Let’s ignore moral cultivation and look at the key to this question: Is the mistress true love?
There is such a set of data on a certain platform: Only 35% of women have never thought about cheating, and only 17% of men have maintained physical and mental fidelity. In other words, in all marriages, most people have thoughts of cheating, including those with a bad relationship, and even those with a good relationship.
htmlWhy do 3 people cheat? Is cheating to find true love? The answer is no. No matter how good a person's partner is, there is one thing that the other person cannot provide, and that is stimulation.
When a marriage goes through the stages of triviality, filial piety, food, rice, oil and salt, etc., it will definitely lead to a decrease in emotional intensity. There is love and family affection between the two parties, but it lacks freshness and excitement. This is what we often say, "The roses at home are not as good as the wild flowers on the roadside." The essence of
cheating is that the cheating party does not have enough ability to run a relationship. They cannot express their true inner emotional demands, so they choose to cheat to release their inner emotions. In other words, cheating people only need to release and do not require true feelings.
2: Don’t try to disturb or destroy the other person’s family
Love brains are not scary, but stupid and bad love brains are scary. When they fall in love with a person who has a family, not only do these people not stop their losses in time, they even have small ideas: forcing the other person to make a choice and trying to replace the original wife.
Why are these people "stupid"? First, they think they are in true love. Second, they think their energy is higher than that of their original spouse. The cheating partner will definitely choose to divorce and then stay with them, but is this really the case?
As mentioned earlier, the reason most people cheat is just to seek excitement, so what does divorce mean? It means the excitement subsides, it means the division of property, it means ruin...
Please remember that marriage is not about love. It does not mean that you can leave at any time when you no longer love. When the concentration of love decreases, there is support from family ties. When family ties are not enough to maintain the relationship, there are still stakes.
In addition, married life has a strong inertia, especially for couples who have lived together for more than ten years. Even if one party cheats, they will still shoulder certain tasks of the family. In other words, you can be angry and jealous of your ex, but you will never be angry or jealous of your original spouse.
三: Don’t expect the mother to be rich based on the child, it’s really not a good deal.
Stupid and bad love brains are already the best, and this kind of mistress who “won’t give up until she gets the upper hand” is the best of the best. Their most common trick is no longer the low-level method of crying, making trouble, or hanging.
Among all the evidence of cheating, "mistress' pregnancy" is undoubtedly the most direct and lethal one. But what will the original wife do after they strategically obtain all the evidence of the cheating party? will apply to the court for property preservation and investigation orders, will recover the property and items given to the mistress by the cheating party, and will apply for divorce damages ... This is not a matter of love and love, this has risen to the foundation of law and interests.
And when the cheating party understands the pros and cons, how will they choose? The answer is very simple, whichever side loses the least is the way to survive. So when you count on the mother to be more valuable than the son, the end will most likely be nothing, and some may even be attacked by the cheating party and the original wife jointly, not only losing the wife, but also losing the troops.
You must know that the essence of all relationships in the world is value exchange. The value of a mistress mainly lies in emotional and appearance value. When faced with issues of interest and stakes, such values are not worth mentioning at all. The cheating party will resolutely choose to give up without even thinking about it. Even if you are pregnant, they will not find out in conscience and will even beat you up - not only will they deny it, but they will even label you as immoral.
Will the cheating partner feel guilty? No, because only people with a high sense of morality will feel guilty, but people with a high sense of morality cannot do such a thing.
Does cheating mean you don’t love anymore? No, they will cheat while they are in love. Life is not a TV series, and the promotion that the mistress hopes for will not happen easily. cheaters do not need to be polite and honest, but they do not want others to know that they have lost their morals, because it is related to reputation, evaluation, and even job promotion.
Again, the mistress will not end well. This is not a matter of luck, but of human nature - the more times you cheat, the lower your moral threshold will be, and the greater the possibility of cheating in the future.
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