Ambiguity is an experience that everyone has had.
is a look at each other in adolescence, a secret in adulthood, a girl in her 20s, and a sudden and secret crush.
For adults, ambiguity is like clouds that flicker in the sky. Sometimes it is sunny, and sometimes it is cloudy again. It is like the mood of two people in ambiguity.
For ambiguous relationships, there is no winner, because both people want to get the "initiative".
In the process of getting along with the opposite sex, the ambiguity between boys and girls is also different.
So how to judge whether a boy's feelings for you are ambiguous or like you? What are the differences?
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Boys just want to be "ambiguous" with you
1. When there is something to do, there is no beauty, but when there is nothing, it is summer and spring.
He will only think of you when he is lonely and bored;
He will only think of you when he is in trouble and is depressed.
For example: Every time I send you a message, I express my negative emotions and complain to you.
When he goes out with you on a date, he mostly maintains an ambiguous relationship with you and is unwilling to make any sacrifices for you.
Everything he does for you, he wants to get feedback from you. If you don't respond to him in time, then he will stop giving.
When he gets along with you, you can feel that his attitude towards you is "hot and cold".
is sometimes enthusiastic and sometimes indifferent;
behaves very selfishly, telling you a lot of rhetoric but no substantive actions and contributions.
2. You advance and he retreats, and you retreat and he advances
When a boy only wants to be ambiguous with you, he will treat the relationship between you as a game of "cultivating spare tires".
When you want to go further and take the initiative to express your feelings to him, he will step back.
And when you finally run out of patience and are about to give up, he will give you a little hope and let you return to him.
In this ambiguous "pull game", the boy took the initiative, and you were the passive one.
3. He is only willing to enjoy the rights of a "boyfriend", but is unwilling to exercise his obligations.
In other words:
He is just playing with you in the name of love, but is unwilling to give you any commitment;
He is willing to say all nice things to you, but does not give you a visible future.
He will maintain an ambiguous relationship with you and create the illusion that "you are lovers", but he will never share your feelings with the people around you, and the dynamics of your circle of friends have nothing to do with you.
If a boy happens to have these behaviors when getting along with you, don't doubt that he just wants to have an affair with you.
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How boys like you
The biggest difference between liking and ambiguity is: the degree of dedication and emotional value.
1. If I like you, I will take the initiative to pay for you.
This is certain. When you like a flower, you not only want to pick the flower, but also want to keep the flower well.
Even if the flower is withered, you still want to make it into dried flowers and collect it.
The difference between liking and ambiguity is: liking means actually paying for you, whether materially or emotionally; while ambiguity is just words but no fulfillment.
2. If you like you, you will feel his "sincerity"
No amount of sweet words can compare to sincerity.
A boy likes you and will show sincerity in front of you; he will express his feelings to you and will show his attitude towards you to you.
Sincerity means being honest and being willing to express the truest side in front of you.
No matter how much disguise is, it is meaningless in front of the person you really like; only sincerity is the most touching love words.
3. If you like you, you will be more proactive when facing you
The boy who likes you will not play " to play " trick.
They like you and will become proactive.
For example:
takes the initiative to send you a message, and when you are chatting, he takes the initiative to find various topics.
takes the initiative to invite you to date. During the process of getting along, you can clearly detect his enthusiasm for you.
takes the initiative to give you and respond to your feelings in a timely manner.
Because falling in love with someone will inevitably be accompanied by giving, which is a subconscious behavior.
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Why do boys have to have an ambiguous relationship with you?
First: If you want to occupy your good deeds, but you are unwilling to be responsible for
The boys who have affair with you often have the mentality of: they want to occupy your love and dedication, but they are unwilling to give you any promises;
wants to have the right between lovers and are unwilling to assume the obligations between lovers.
What is this? I'm lying to you in the name of love.
2: Ambiguousness will make him feel "fulfilled".
Psychologically, every man has a strong desire to conquer and challenge deep in his heart.
This is the nature of males and it is also what they engrave in their bones.
The reason why a boy wants to have an ambiguous relationship with you may not necessarily like you, but wants to express his inner sense of accomplishment.
After all, few people are willing to resist the behavior of showing their charm in their relationship.
3 Third: If you want to get value in you
There has never been no good in this world for no reason, and there will be no love for no reason.
A person approaches you, cares about your well-being, and conveys kindness or emotions to you; don't think that love will fall from the sky, even if love falls, it will not fall on you.
The reason why boys are ambiguous with you is to gain enough value in you.
Today’s topic:
How do you view the “ambiguous” relationship?
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