I feel that blind dates are too tiring, and I can’t find a suitable one after searching for them. I really want to marry someone first and then fall in love.
Many people seem to have a sense of finding a partner and think it is difficult.
either does not match each other in all aspects and feels inappropriate to each other, or they think it is OK, but the other party thinks it is not OK, or they are willing to give it a try, but the relationship cannot continue at all.
When I spent a lot of time and energy, and met too many people, I was still the same person, so many people had an idea, thinking that they should not just search for them all, and just find someone to get married and have a marriage first and then love.
believes that once you get married to the other person, you will definitely treat each other well in the future so that both of you can live a happy life.
Speaking of which, getting married first and then falling in love seems to be no problem, but it is quite romantic.
However, if you think about it casually, everything seems to be like this, but the reality may not be so.
can't do it at all, so you can manage it well.
In life, at different times, a person’s ideas often differ.
has never been able to find a partner, so he is more anxious and wants to find someone to get married quickly. He feels that after getting married, he will definitely be loyal to this relationship and treat it wholeheartedly. After getting married, his ideas will change.
At that time, once you achieve your goal and get rid of the confused dilemma, you may not necessarily remember what you thought. Even if you remember, you will only completely change your mood. It is not that you can cherish it no matter what the person around you are.
After completing the marriage, it may only start to feel at ease and start to re-examine the marriage.
is easy to be not so satisfied with the other party, feel that the other party is not what they want, and it is easy to not focus on the other party, but to feel that they can have a better choice.
Before getting married, if you don’t even have the ability to choose someone well and make the other person like you and are willing to marry you, after getting married, you may not really have the ability to manage a relationship.
Love is also a kind of ability. It is never wise to just omit the initial steps and come to the marriage all at once.
is not just about wanting to get married through another way and experience a different experience. In fact, it is just to escape the embarrassment of the moment, finding a way out for yourself and seeking psychological comfort.
It is easy to have problems.
Sometimes, it is not difficult to find someone to marry if you really want to not fall in love.
As long as you lower the standards appropriately, as long as you find someone who happens to have the same idea as you and is also anxious to get married.
However, getting married is easy, but after getting married, things will not end there, and everything has just begun.
After really entering marriage, even if you can choose, you will really devote yourself to it in the future. However, you and the other party may not be very compatible. You can really get along well, you can communicate well and get along more comfortably.
There are really many types of people in this world, with different cognitions, different views, and different ideas.
When each other is not suitable at all and is not on the same channel, it is not something you can solve the problem by working hard enough.
In the end, I am indeed married, but this marriage will not be the beginning of happiness, but it will only be the beginning of pain. When I am really not as good as if I were alone, I will only feel sad and desperate at times.
The situation is a little worse. If the other party has any disease and is not good, even if you choose the other party and want to marry the other party, you will still regret it at that moment. You will want to deal with yourself because of your hastyness at the beginning.
Be more patient and be sure to choose the right person.
There are many things we can choose from, such as which brand of yogurt to buy, which flavor of bread to choose, and what style of clothes to choose, but when we get married, we can't be too casual.
Just find someone, and if you don’t fall in love, you will go straight into marriage. I hope you can make a mistake. Everything can be a better result. In the end, things will really not be as good as you wish.
When there is no emotional foundation for each other, and when there is no idea what kind of person each other is, this big gamble is too risky after all, and the chance of being able to bet right is too low after all.
Don’t be naive. It is not easy for two people who like each other to live after marriage. When there is no love between each other, it is even more difficult to tolerate, persist, and understand, and go on whatever you say.
Between each other, because of a small thing or a sentence, it may only end and never come again.
That's a lifelong thing, it's related to your entire second half of your life, so you really can't and shouldn't be too anxious.
Everything at the moment may not be that good, but no matter what, there must be requirements and keep calm.
For the quality of life in the future, we must not have the idea of being lazy. We must always choose well and find someone who really recognizes each other and can live a good life together, and we all think it is very good.
Don’t always think about getting married first and then falling in love, or falling in love first and then getting married.
does not mean that the order cannot be reversed, but the order changes, which is really too risky.
First marry someone, and later you can find that the chance of the other party being a treasure is never too low. Most of the time, only two people who don’t know how to love and have no ability to love are hurting each other and complaining about each other.
Friendship matters should be followed certain guidelines, and it is best not to save any steps.
will be able to see your heart more clearly and you will be able to see the other person’s character better.
will go through this process together, and after some running-in, it will be more conducive to future stability.
Remember, reality is not an idol drama. Each of us must be rational and sober.
text/Tan Meng
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