The union of marriage is to enable each other to produce the effect of one plus one greater than two, so that both husband and wife can enjoy the sweetness brought by marriage. is inseparable from the feelings, trust and loyalty between husband and wife, especially loyalty is the bottom line of marriage. Once the bottom line is broken, the so-called feelings and trust above will no longer exist.
However, due to the binding force and inertia of marriage, since the marriage is already in chaos, there are still many couples who barely maintain the superficial form of marriage for various reasons. The result not only makes both parties feel painful and tormented, but may even make each other even more broken. Behind the barely are endless hatred and pain.
Mr. Xu is a son-in-law. Although he and his wife Ms. Fan have been married for 15 years, they have been separated for 6 years. The two met by certain coincidences. At that time, Mr. Xu and Ms. Fan’s mothers both worked in the same factory. With the help of the two mothers, they fell in love at first sight.
Only about half a year in love, Mr. Xu and Ms. Fan got married. Ms. Fan thought she had found a prince charming, but after marriage, she found that her husband was extremely stingy. Once she bought something for 40 yuan. Considering that she had to go to the bank to withdraw money, she asked her husband to give herself 40 yuan.
result, husband Mr. Xu directly said that he was going to the bank to deposit money, and his wife wanted to withdraw money, and the two happened to go there. This tactful refusal made Ms. Fan feel very uncomfortable, thinking that Mr. Xu had no considerate and caring as a husband at all. Moreover, in the 15 years since the two were married, her husband had never given her a penny, which made Ms. Fan always feel uneasy.
In response to this, Mr. Xu admitted that he had never given his wife money. The reason was that as a son-in-law, he could not feel the personality respect the woman's family deserved for him. His wife was also very cold to him and refused to satisfy him even in the life of a husband and wife. Because of this, he was unwilling to pay his wife.
Ms. Fan scoffed at her husband's explanation and explained to the mediator that the reason why she was indifferent to her husband was entirely because her husband betrayed the marriage and seriously hurt her emotionally, so she was unwilling to get close to and interact with her husband.
In order to prove that what she said is true, Ms. Fan took out the saved chat records. She said she was tutoring her child's homework at that time and had to use her husband's mobile phone to search for information online. found that her husband and other women were calling each other "baby" and "wife". Such a title was like a knife inserted into her heart, making her unable to let go for a long time.
However, Mr. Xu explained to the mediator that he was just talking and had no substantial relationship with other women. He was just trying to make fun of the other party. However, Mr. Xu also said that even if he betrayed the marriage, his wife was betrayed first. He was so angry that he got closer to other women.
Mr. Xu claimed that before the two separated, he opened a store outside. Once, went home early to get things to the store. When he opened the door, he saw that his wife was sitting on the bed at home with an old man who was almost 60 years old. The two were in disheveled at the time, and his wife looked even more rosy. Needless to say, the scene like means what it means.
Hearing her husband's accusations, Ms. Fan explained to the mediator that because her husband did not give her money, she borrowed some money from the old man. It was the date of repayment that agreed to be paid. The old man came to her house to get the money. The two of them were purely in a loan relationship, and nothing shameful happened.
Seeing that his wife denied the fact that she betrayed her marriage, Mr. Xu mentioned another thing, saying that his wife had just separated from him and moved out to live with a strange man. His wife also told her lover that there were many men outside, and the other party was just one of her lovers. As she said that, Mr. Xu also showed the screenshot of the text message he saved to the mediator.
Faced with the mediator's inquiry, Ms. Fan stammered for a long time and couldn't answer it, saying that she had not yet figured out the reason for explanation. Mr. Xu, who was standing by, broke the news angrily again that since he separated, he began to secretly follow up his wife, and he had been to his wife's lover's home for this.
At the other party’s home, Mr. Xu claimed that he saw his wife drying underwear and underwear on the balcony. After communication and verification, the other party admitted that there was an improper relationship between men and women with his wife Ms. Fan.
In order to verify the truth, the mediator called Ms. Fan's lover on the spot. The lover admitted on the phone that he was living with Ms. Fan, but at the same time said that Ms. Fan had concealed the fact that she had not divorced yet. When Mr. Xu found him, he had already driven Ms. Fan out of the house and asked Ms. Fan to resolve the marriage dispute before talking.
Hearing the tough statement of the lover on the phone, Ms. Fan's face was ashamed. She explained to the mediator that she had no money at the beginning and that her husband did not give her money, so she had to borrow money from other men. Then the two gradually developed into a cohabitation relationship. Ms. Fan complained that if her husband had not been stingy, she would not have done such a thing.
has come to this point. Mr. Xu said that as long as his wife turns back, he can leave the blame. However, Ms. Fan rejected her husband's kindness and said that she had seen through her husband Mr. Xu over the years. The forced union of the two is torture to each other, so Ms. Fan insisted on requesting a divorce.
Since the wife has no intention of continuing the marriage, Mr. Xu no longer insists, However, the condition for divorce is that he continues to live in the woman's house and his household registration must also be kept in the house. If the house is demolished in the future, he will have to share the corresponding share.
However, Mr. Xu's wishful thinking was obviously wrong. The house he and his wife live in was purchased by the woman's parents before marriage and had nothing to do with them. Seeing this, Mr. Xu proposed to use 200,000 yuan to compensate for his 15-year youth efforts.
However, Ms. Fan said that her mother is a disabled person and her father is an elderly person in her seventies. Her family is not in good condition and she can only compensate her husband for 40,000 at most. After the efforts and coordination of the mediator, Mr. Xu had no choice but to accept 40,000 yuan in compensation, and the 15-year marriage between the two parties came to an end.
The conflict between the couple sounds a bit "can't be cut, but still messy". The wife dislikes her husband for being stingy and stingy, and even catches evidence that her husband betrays the marriage. As a result, the wife repeats the mistakes of betraying her marriage because of these dissatisfaction with her husband. The two accusations and betray each other, but in fact they are betraying each other.
Judging from the actions of the two, obviously did not love each other. If it weren't for the existence of legal binding force, the marriage would have long become a piece of waste paper. 's 6 years of separation showed that both parties could not tolerate each other. Separation was the best choice, but the two parties betrayed each other without divorce, turning the marriage into a mess.
Since you don’t love, there is no need to torture each other. The reason why both parties have reached the present is that it has a lot to do with the hasty marriage between them. Before marriage, they got married in a hurry without knowing each other in depth. As a result, they both found that the other party was not suitable for them. Even so, the inertia of marriage made the two not divorce, but instead hurt and torture each other.
Since both of them think that the existence of each other is a torture, they should negotiate to resolve the divorce as soon as possible. Living a long-term separation and living a family life outside the home is indeed out of place with public order and good customs. The existence of marriage is to allow couples to feel a better life and provide each other with a platform to solve problems, rather than letting them go.
Fortunately, the two ended with divorce under mediation. This late divorce for 15 years made each other physically and mentally exhausted. Neither of them gained substantial benefits from their marriage. They consumed each other's youth, but they gained harm. There is no winner in this painful marriage. Both parties eventually need to drag their scarred bodies to start a new life again, which makes people regret it.
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